Caught....it finally happened.

[Molly Wells]

A couple of times a year my wife and her sisters, nieces will have a "sister's weekend" and go somewhere for a few days.
This year as it turned out (family travel, etc) they rented a beach house that is only about a 20 minute drive from where we live.
When she is gone, I of course have time to be Molly, hang out around the house or maybe go out. So, Saturday night my wife, daughter and granddaughter all go to the beach house for a few days. Not expecting anyone back till early Monday when my daughter and granddaughter have to be back for work and school.
So, Saturday late evening I dressed and drove to a nearby town for a few grocery items. Got back home and began watching Netflix till the wee hours of the morning.
Come Sunday morning I'm up, still enfemme, wearing a casual dress, my femme glasses, sitting on the couch watching tv, drinking coffee, when I hear the front door opening and see my daughter step in. I had a blanket over my feet and grabbed the blanket and pulled it over myself. I had not removed my make up or lipstick from the night before and had my long hair pulled back with barrettes.
She froze and with the blanket pulled up over my clothes I said, "I'm not dressed!" She lowered her head and looked down, said she just needed to grab a couple of things from the bathroom and with her head down headed that way. When she got out of sight I jumped up with my blanket and dashed to the bedroom, closing the door behind me.
In just a couple of moments she called out that she was gone and left. Unfortunately there was still makeup and and a change of clothes out in the bathroom because I had let my guard down, not expecting anyone to come home.
Well, you can't unring a bell.... I am not sure if she realized I was dressed or not it happened so fast, but with things out in the bathroom, me wearing makeup, she had to notice something.
This morning she came home before going to work, bringing my granddaughter so I could watch her today (she is in virtual classes). We talked and visited like nothing was wrong with no comments or questions. I spoke to my wife on the phone today and everything seemed normal.
I think I might have dodged a bullet.

Molly

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[Teri Ray]

Whew, Lets hope for the best.

[Jacke]

Quote from Gretchen - Don't let them assume it is an affair or something like that. Time to come out, whether she knows or not. Some women tend to ruminate on undesirable things a lot and consider all the possibilities. Others are very direct. We all do that to some extent. She could also assume you are gay.

This reminded me of something I saw a few years ago. You are right the imagination can run wild when only given limited information.

His and her diary from the same day...

Her Diary:

Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it. Conversation wasn't flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn't say much. I asked him what was wrong; He said, 'Nothing.' I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn't upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it. On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior I don't know why he didn't say, 'I love you, too.' When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent. Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep - I cried. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.

His Diary:

Motorcycle won?t start?can't figure out why.

[Cassiek]

I?ll say a prayer for you Molly. My now ex wife found out about my dressing and it did not work out that well. She claimed my whole life with her was a lie and vows to destroy my life. My prayer for you will be that your wife and family are strong and see you for the person you are. If that is a loving father and husband then they should see through this situation and return the same love for you that you give to them.

[NancySue]

Remember...the calm before the storm. Don?t assume her silence is acceptance...never. I totally believe and respect women?s intuition and ESP. I?d bet she knew something was up. I believe the happened for a reason. The cats out. How?s the time and opportunity to lay your cards on the table...ASAP! Continued secrecy will not work...in fact, it might cause an irreparable relationship...as you?ve read in other replies. I wish you the best.

[Sometimes Steffi]

With everyone saying that she probably knew already. Maybe your wife sent your daughter home "to see if dad was "OK".

What is so important that your daughter would come home for that she couldn't pick up in the local drug store?

[AngelaYVR]

I spoke to my wife on the phone today and everything seemed normal.
I think I might have dodged a bullet.

So many women in your life and you still have not learned that lesson! No, it will not be normal. She is in shock. Talk to your wife.

[Crissy 107]

Molly, Ouch! I have a pit in my stomach for you, my guess is your daughter saw your makeup and the cat is out of the bag so to speak. Women do not miss much so I definitely think you need to talk with your wife and go at this head on.
Good luck and please let us know how you do.

[Jodie_Lynn]

I spoke to my wife on the phone today and everything seemed normal.
I think I might have dodged a bullet.

Doubt it, highly. Unless you believe that your daughter is a total idjit....

[Pumped]

Pretty sure your daughter knows, whether she tells anyone, or not, is the question.

[Sometimes Steffi]

To keep with the analogy of dodging a bullet, you've actually been hit and are bleeding out right now. You just don't know it yet.

If your daughter came home and saw women's clothes in the bathroom, what do you expect that she will think? Especially because daddy is naked.

"Daddy has a girlfriend, and it's not mom! What do I do with this discovery? Tell Mom, or keep the secret?"

[Kimberly A.]

Doubt it, highly. Unless you believe that your daughter is a total idjit....[/QUOTE]

LMAO @ Idjit! Yeah, I couldn't help but notice that..... Supernatural fan, Jodie? Just curious. LOL

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Well Molly, it kinda seems to me like you have nothing to worry about..... With your quick thinking, pulling the blanket over you and dashing to the bedroom, sounds like you did dodge a bullet and your family is still unaware your dressing. LOL Perhaps your daughter thought nothing of the makeup in the bathroom? Like, maybe she thought your wife just forgot to put it up?

[TillyCambiare]

I think I agree with Steffi. It's likely she noticed. There are three possibilities. 1) she thinks its your wife's. 2) she thinks its yours, 3) she thinks its another woman's. I think things get more likely left to right.

You may think you have dodged the bullet but the ricochet might catch you in the back.

Tilly

[Star01]

We have a family lake home that my wife or I sometimes spend a couple days and nights at. It's only a 45 minute drive and I am always careful to not dress until I'm sure the coast is clear for the night. Often times that involves waiting until 8 or 9 pm and I do my best to never leave any evidence. One day about a month ago she left for the lake and I was so desperate after months with not much freedom that I started going around gathering things up and preparing to do my thing earlier than usual. I had not gotten cleaned up and shaved or anything and didn't have anything laying out in plain view but I was working in that direction. Suddenly she walks in out of the blue and says "don't you ever check your phone?" Guilty as charged, I have always been kind of a loner without any friends that I just hang with like younger people do and since I retired I rarely get any calls so a lot of days I'll leave it on the charger. She had given her key to one of the adult kids when their families had stayed there and forgot to check to see if she had a key so she came home for mine. I try to always wait until later when I know she isn't going to drive home in the dark but I was anxious to get started that day and had a brush with getting busted.

I don't know what your situation is but if you're like me and getting caught isn't worth the risk I'd wait until later in the day and not sleep dressed. Makeup would raise heck with trying to keep pillow cases clean anyways and it can cause skin problems so I remove mine before turning in.

[MonicaPVD]

They. Were. Twenty. Minutes. Away.

[Kay J]

Ya i think what happen here is something that will happen to all sooner then later. Now is a good time to have the talk to the wife! It will go alot better if you tell her then her walking in on you someday!

[Krisi]

It's my belief that you can not expect to hide your dressing from anyone living in the same house (or in this case, someone who has a key to your house) forever. It's not a matter of "if", it's a matter of "when". You got caught.

Your daughter may keep this quiet or she may not. Often, mothers and daughters are very close and it would be hard for your daughter to keep this secret.

Best of luck to you.

[Connie D50]

Ok my two cents, I would first talk to your daughter again, that should tell you if she knows (I wish I had a idea on how to skirt around the topic I don't) If you sense anything talked to wife. I was going to say talked to daughter but if your wife finds out you talk to her first it wouldn't go good.

I think if you the bullet missed you should still talk to wife.

[Paulie Birmingham]

Might want to have a talk before they go down the path of you having an affair.

[Teresa]

Molly,
It happens !!

OK I didn't get caught dressed some years ago by my daughter but I forgot she was at home and I started to iron some of my things I'd recently washed . She saw a dress on the ironing board and realised it didn't belong to my wife , so I came clean and told her the whole story , she gave me a big hug and told me it wasn't a problem . Since then I've been out several times with her both shopping and a show , I've spent Xmas day with her and taken the granddaughter out to pantomimes and horse riding .

Maybe it's time to have that chat and clear the air with her , you never know the outcome might be OK .

I will also admit my wife wasn't happy about my daughters' acceptance but she told her it was none of her business .

[GretchenM]

I feel that it is best to bring it out. It is possible your daughter quickly figured it out. Whether she told mom or not is an unknown, but you should assume that she did spill the beans. Watch your wife closely, very closely, and see if there is a tension there that was not there before - a bit of staying at arm's length. If there are any hints then it is likely she knows as much as your daughter knows.

Don't let them assume it is an affair or something like that. Time to come out, whether she knows or not. Some women tend to ruminate on undesirable things a lot and consider all the possibilities. Others are very direct. We all do that to some extent. She could also assume you are gay.

The loving thing to do is to point her in the right direction so the whole thing doesn't devolve into a ball of tangled string. Take a deep breath and gently inform her of your NEEDS. If it is not just a hobby so to speak then present it as it really is. Don't assume she will accept it, but she may because she already knows. As Crissy said, generally wives don't miss much, but sometimes they have no prior knowledge of this. Mine went 43 years with no idea even though there were enough mistakes along the way that she should have figured it out. But often we humans like to ignore that which we really don't want to see. Don't assume anything and just bring it out in a gentle but proactive way. Most women get that and respond honestly.

[MaryAnn1963]

I almost got caught myself last week. I've decided to prepare for "the talk" and new life changes... good or bad. I can see how the outcome could be worse if we were to be caught, but if she is not understanding, then it could go bad after the talk also... time will tell. Good luck.

[Dannigirl]

I bet that got your heart beating pretty quick ! As somebody else mentioned, they were only 20 minutes away, probably not the best decision you could make with them being that close, but I am sure quite a few of us have done something like that (I know I used to when I lived with my parents and sisters) in some shape or form thinking we would be o.k. Let us know how it all turns out, best of luck, keeping my fingers crossed for you.

[Stephanie47]

In previous posts you have indicated you're in a DADT marriage with a disapproving wife. If she does know of your cross dressing you may want to let your wife know what happened. It would prepare her if your daughter did see you and will talk to her mother. You may get some fallout, but less than if your wife find outs without any warning from you. Twenty minutes away is hardly any distance to retrieve something that had been forgotten. And, you can be fairly sure your wife knows that your using these absences to indulge Molly. As a matter of security we always have the outer storm door locked so anybody calling cannot just walk in with an extra key which both of our kids have for emergencies. Forces someone to rap on the door or use the bell.