I called my 30 yr old daughter and told her. She said- Are you gay? Are you divorcing? no- I am wrestling with something difficult to understand, but I am going to methodically work on growing up again. then OK non issue. and told all her friends, and they were quite sympathetic and interested, according to her. Her bf sent me Grayson Perry's book, the Descent of Man.
At first she decline to see me dressed. THen one day I dressed and showed her, and she said- well, you don't really look different.
The substance of our relationship as father and daughter is the primary and priority connection for me. Being genderfluid means I can switch to what works in the moment.With her is it always manlike, but now with much better communication skills!
