Reason you crossdress

[Mia_799]

I am curious why people here dress up. Did it start with sexual gratification and remain that reason? Embracing femininity? Kinks and fetish reasons?

When I crossdress, it just feels good. I feel like a girl and want to feminize myself even more. I dislike my male attributes when I dress and want to hide them and get no sexual gratification from doing it.

Could this be a sign of being trans rather just enjoying being a girl for a day? I would be a girl in a heartbeat if there was that magical pill.

[Kimberly A.]

Mia, I see that you're new so first of all, welcome to the forum.

Also, I know you didn't know this but this topic has been brought up before and I have no problem replying to you and answering your questions..... As for me first of all, my dressing is not a sexual fetish or a kink. I don't dislike my male attributes, I very much enjoying being a man and dressing like a woman, but of course, I do tuck in order to hide my male anatomy when I go out dressed, it's just one of the many things I do to be at least somewhat passable.

But like you, it just feels really good to crossdress and I love to feminize myself as well. I still really don't know why I have such a strong feminine side or why I have a strong desire to crossdress, but it's all there and I do embrace my femininity to the fullest.

Now, as far as it being a sign of being transgender, I suppose it just depends on your personal preference, or what you want to be..... Are you trans, or just a crossdresser? Me, I'm just a crossdresser and have no desire to fully become a woman. I have, on more than one occasion said that I love to be able to dress, then quickly and easily take off all of my feminine things and be back in "male mode" again. I don't want any permanent changes to my body in order to make me more femme..... Except for getting my ears pierced, because I got tired of clip-ons and having real earrings, imho makes me a little more passable. But still, a lot of very straight, masculine men who do not CD at all have their ears pierced and wear earrings. LOL Anyway, I'm beginning to ramble, so I'll end my reply here and I hope I've answered your question from my perspective.

[kimdl93]

I?m not going to get lost in definitions. I will simply observe that I am transgender and cross dressing is one way to express my gender identity.

[Mia_799]

Hi Kimberly, thanks for your reply and welcoming me to the forum.

As for the reason you crossdress, it?s good to know it?s not purely sexual as that?s what the case seems to be elsewhere I?ve been reading online. I think it?s good and healthy that we express our femininity as it is suppressed in our society way too much. It?s nice to be around like minded individuals!

Sometimes I do like I can take off all my clothes and just be male, but at times I dislike my manly hands and wide shoulders. This only happens when I dress and when I?m in male mode, I just want to feel feminine, have curves and have soft facial features if that makes sense. Perhaps like Kim commented, I could also be trans and find my outlet with cross dressing. Also, I?ve had my ears pierced since I was a teenager and recently opened them back up bc yes, it feels good having the real thing lol! Enjoy 😊

Btw Kim, I don?t intend to categorize or require definitions but I do think it?s good to understand ones desires and identity. I suppose I?m on that path. I assume that?s the best way to ease the dysphoria without transitioning?

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First was a trill, then a sexual thing, then I don't know, I just hooked, I wear Women's underwear, no big deal, I am older now, its normal, just cant explain it, I am Male and want no part of being a Woman and I am not attracted to Men, just straight, I gives me a high, blood flowing good feeling, I remembered the first time I wear a Panty for a whole Day outdoor doing errands was joy, it still is, I wear Brassiere now with breastform, and still Male, it doesn't go away permanently.

I remember my first time too and it was like a high. Do go out in public fully dressed? And so you never have the desire to have any physical female attributes?

I?m starting to learn like gender, even crossdressing is on a spectrum. So fascinating.

[Visitor]

Last evening I used the new electric razor and cleaned hair off my chest, then applied lotion and massaged my breasts. This morning after waking, having slept without a top, I decided which brassiere to put on, then pulled a tight rayon tee shirt over my head. The fact I have breasts mesmerizes me. It is sexual but more than that. It feels primordial, comforting that I have breasts. I don't know whether I want to suckle a child or simply gaze at the image in the mirror. My mother stimulated my genitals in the crib when I was an infant using a piece of silk and I sought out a petticoat in her dresser drawer when I was two or three. I was sexually abused by neighbors and when I was 12 years old I began crossdressing while babysitting at the neighbor's home beginning with putting on her brassiere. Doubtless those early experiences affected my feelings about myself, and my sexuality. Understanding all that was important, but I'm still left with the desire to put on a brassiere and fantasize about something... I have no wish to transition. This seems simply a way of respecting, rather than shaming myself as I do what feels good to do. The key is to stop shaming myself for having these feelings. They simply are.

Good luck on your journey of exploration and expression. As you learn from reading other's comments, each of us is finding our own way through this alternative world of self expression. We may seem weird to the rest of the world, but my guess is there is much more weird in the world than ANYONE is prepared to admit.

[MonicaPVD]

The entirety of the content of this forum is dedicated to explaining why we dress. Read. Learn. Enjoy.

[Bruce64]

First was a trill, then a sexual thing, then I don't know, I just hooked, I wear Women's underwear, no big deal, I am older now, its normal, just cant explain it, I am Male and want no part of being a Woman and I am not attracted to Men, just straight, I gives me a high, blood flowing good feeling, I remembered the first time I wear a Panty for a whole Day outdoor doing errands was joy, it still is, I wear Brassiere now with breastform, and still Male, it doesn't go away permanently.

[NancySue]

Like others, I don?t have a clue why I love to and thoroughly enjoy wearing women?s clothes. I just know, from my first experience at 5-6 to this day, I marvel how comfortable women?s clothes are. My wife disagrees with me about underwire bras, heels and hose being comfortable. I just smile. As Taylor said...it just feels right.

[Angela Marie]

I dress to bring out my feminine side; which has become stronger over the years. Actually I think it was always there but repressed. Dressing allows me to experience the full range of the female experience.

[Stephanie47]

I have not idea why I am drawn to wear women's clothing. As a child of the 1960's there is no valid reason for me to endure the self loathing and potential dislike or worse from family, friends and society. Not reason to endure discrimination in employment. To end up on some government pervert list or deviant list. Even the brief feeling of euphoria which was always was followed by self loathing does not justify the experience. I've read all the posts about little boys being dolled up by mothers, aunts, sisters or cousins. None of that happened to me. I was all boy. I had no use for girls. Girls were sticks in the mud. I never envied their pretty Easter dresses. Sometime into puberty there was a switch that brought cross dressing to the forefront. There was no nurturing. I have to assume, although I have no proof, there is a genetic component involved.

I do like wearing dresses or admire women who wear dresses. I love colorful prints. I love floral print dresses. I like watching Vanna White on Wheel of Fortune because she wears lovely clothes; prints, colors. I do remember way back in elementary school I liked to draw and did win a fifth grade drawing contest. I am drawn to raising colorful flowers. I have no aversion to doing chores normally assigned to females in our society. I have engaged in some manly activities few men engage in.

At my stage of life I suspect I can easily slide back and forth between presenting in male or female attire. I no longer think in "male" or "female" terms, if in fact I ever did. I look back at my ancestors. All, men and women, were strong willed people, adventurers. Nobody was a docile creature submitting to another.

[Taylor Dame]

I do it because it simply feels right.

[GracieRose]

I dress because it just feels right.
When I see myself dressed in the mirror, I recognize ME. This must be how the rest of the world feels when they look at themselves in the mirror. When dressed in drab, it's almost like looking at someone else in the mirror.

[Teresa]

Mia,
Many go through the sexual aspect of Cding , there's no shame in admitted it was a turn on even if it might have died down. They say it's not all about the clothes , to some it actually is , dressing is a hobby , which is a definition I personally find hard to accept . To me what we wear makes a statement it's also a window of how we feel inside , otherwise how are people to know , assuming you aren't deep in the closet .

As I'm now full time wearing male clothes feels more like Cding , it just doesn't feel right , my life is now in balance so my dysphoria isn't a problem .

If you want a definite answer to being trans or not , first ask yourself how bad is my gender dysphoria , if it isn't a problem then you are more likely to be happily into Cding . Wanting to be a girl for a few hours or the odd day is far different from waking up every morning and needing to totally shave and apply makeup before the day starts and then take on every job as a female without switching back to male mode .

I find I now longer need to go round in circles with labels , I've put them back in their littles boxes , the only label I need is Teresa .

[RADER]

I do not need a reason, I just do it because I like it, it feel's right, and I enjoy it.
am long past the Sex thing, Being that I am 73, so my reason is to enjoy my wanning
years the best way I can.
Rader
PS>>..Welcome to the Forum.

[Kay J]

Crossdressing just make me feel so good and comfy something male clothes don't do!!!

[Confucius]

Well, I crossdress because it makes me happy, and because I cannot stop crossdressing. These sensations seem to be automatic and completely involuntary. As a child I was surprised to find out that not all males get the same sensations. Of course this raises the question why does crossdressing produce wonderful sensations in some males, while most males feel nothing but uncomfortable embarrassment?

I tell people that I believe our brains are hardwired to release a host of feel-good neurotransmitters (dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, etc) when we feminize ourselves. The driver is actually the feel-good neurotransmitters.

So how did our brains get hardwired this way? Well there is a process called synaptogenesis where during formative years the brain produces neural connections at an incredible pace. By the time we are 3 years old our brains have 5-times the neural synapses as an adult! Then through the learning process some connections are reinforced while others are pruned. The process of synaptogenesis occurs at infancy and puberty.

So while we may appear typical in every sense of the word, our neural circuitry is pretty special.

[docrobbysherry]

For the same reason a chicken crosses the road!

That and seeing a pretty woman in my mirror is VERY exciting! And, there's not much a 77 year old can do that's still exciting!

[Rayleen]

Dressing makes me feel happy, and that's a good reason to dress at home most of the time.

Do what's make you happy is my advice.

[Genifer Teal]

For me, it's always been about going out. Early on I got positive attention. I enjoyed the attention and built upon it. Some where along the journey I decided, like my tag line says, life is more fun in heels. I couldn't see life with out them.

[MarinaTwelve200]

Started as a sexual fetish thing at age 12----Still is to an extent, but it helps me relax and totally "UNWIND"---essentially "Taking a vacation from both myself and the obligations of masculinity"---And it's FUN to be "Pretty" too.

[Maid_Marion]

Dressing well in women's clothes is a form of three dimensional art. It isn't easy to look good but I'm up to the challenge.

Marion

[Shely]

Maid_Marion, i think you hit it right on the hear for me. "Dressing Well" is what I do best. I try hard to match up styles, colors, etc, etc and to look as pretty as i can. It's not about blending in, at least at home, its about looking Sharp, coordinated and Sexy and Well Dressed. The thing about women's clothes that fascinates me is the unending variety of styles, colors, patterns,, and i could go on and on. Did I mention shoes. My goal is to wear every one of them.

[susan2010]

Who really knows? At age 4 or 5 I put on my sister's petticoat, I think just to see what it felt like. Well, it felt wonderful! I've been hooked ever since.

[Jeanettew]

I do it because I believe a guy should be able to wear a skirt if he wants to without retribution

[Jenn A116]

I have no more reason that I enjoy doing it.