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    I appreciate reading this how much dressing in women's garments is more for comfort than anything else, and I'm not talking about how wearing these garments are more comfortable on the body. It is rather an emotional comfort... a soothing that comes with putting on and wearing these garments. I know when I was young putting on lingerie was sexually arousing and my dressing had a very driven quality to it. Now there is still a bit of a sexual tinge to it, but wearing a brassiere for example, which I'm doing as I write this simply makes me feel good... at ease... comforted more than comfortable. The band and cups hold me. I imagine there is an element of that for each of us, regardless of the particular clothing items we're drawn to... dresses, stockings, skirts, blouses, nightgowns, panties. Presenting as a woman is a different thing, likely serving the same purpose... just different. Applying makeup does it for some as well. Whether it is for arousal or feeling comforted, it is all good... no shame in any of it. We do many things to comfort ourselves as humans... for a few of us one of those things is wearing women's clothes...
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    I'm in a dadt and have a hard time with shopping where I might be recognized and I'm about the furthest one could get from fashionable with my daily blue jeans and pocket t-shirts. I underdress with panties and have been shaved smooth all over for going on twenty years so that is usually the extent of my dressing. I was able to spend a couple nights by myself this week at a lake home and got dressed with makeup and wig. It felt good and I was able to take a few photos but I was thinking that it takes such a long time to get makeup applied and dressed. The lake place is near where the farms meet the northern forest so after getting all dressed up there is really nowhere to go up there. Bars are out of the question wearing a dress in red neck country so the only living creatures that saw me were the loons on the lake and geese by the dock.

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    I to am a MIAS

    I only dress from the waist down, I love wearing skirts and leggings, heels and sandals. I paint my toenails and with my awesome wife?s support we go out often so you are not alone . Stay thirsty

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    For the most part, I am happy just to be able to spend a day wearing nylon brief panties.

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    When it comes to crossdressing, this is about as far as I go. Just two examples of pics of me. Not the best pics to show, but it's all I have at the moment. As you can see, I do love tights.



    It's a great combination, dear.
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    As Gillian said, the first rule of this behavior is that the rules are like nailing Jello to the wall. We are all different and we all have different needs and different ways to express our feelings and needs to reach a comfortable spot where all the stars are aligned to our liking. Lately I have been dressing every evening but how far it goes varies wildly.

    The other night I was feeling really good and I went almost to the max. After I was fully dressed with makeup I realized it wasn't me that evening, so I took everything off and went with a much more simple blend. I found I was much more comfortable that way. I rarely ever go further than about a 70% transformation because, and this may sound funny, it is too much feminine/female. I am usually about a 60% female-like and 40% male-like; sometimes it is the other way around and sometimes the female-like feelings really soar, but rarely does the male-like in me exceed about maybe 60%. And when it does I do not feel right at all.

    As Asew put it, some of us are non-binary which, in some ways, is really not classical transgender but in other ways is. That describes me perfectly. We often find ourselves in an in between world and our expression is often mix and match. We can create nice looking outfits that blend the male-like and the female-like because that is the way we view ourselves. You might want to think about that and look deep inside yourself to see if that kind of a characterization fits you. Not that belonging to a class of CDs or TGs makes any difference in the real world, but it can clarify your self definition a bit and make you more comfortable. We all like to classify things into cubby holes even though in the real world there are no cubby holes. In the real world, you just are.

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    I think there are a lot of us in that category here. I wear ballet flats (Tieks are my favorite) all the time along with women's jeans and shorts. I also wear tights, leggings and pantyhose depending on the season and situation. All of this completely open and not trying to "pass."
    https://balletflatsformen.wordpress.com/

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    Another miad here, but I very rarely wear dresses. Most ly lingerie. No wn
    Wigs, forms, makeup.

    There are many here who message me, but rarely post.

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    I think you can make the argument that you ARE the crossdresser and those that wear makeup, wigs, etc are "transformers"?

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    Quote Originally Posted by GretchenM View Post
    ...We are all different and we all have different needs and different ways to express our feelings and needs to reach a comfortable spot where all the stars are aligned to our liking...

    We often find ourselves in an in between world and our expression is often mix and match...

    We all like to classify things into cubby holes even though in the real world there are no cubby holes. In the real world, you just are.
    Like most of the men here, the first thing I seek is release from shame. I've been crossdressing intermittently for 66 years and the behavior has been always laden with shame and confusion. I'm so grateful that I found this place where men are stepping beyond shame and into acceptance. I need that. Thank you all. But I also am exploring my desire to use women's lingerie to understand what it is all about for me. This is one reason I find threads such as this so helpful. It reminds me I'm not alone in trying to understand what this is all about. That is why I quote the lines above. Thank you Gretchen.

    Redirecting my attention from shame allows me to reflect on the roots of this behavior. I wrote this in a private message this morning.

    I'm no longer trying to resist the fact I'm drawn to crossdressing, but the trauma work I've been doing is not finished and I'm not in a place simply to celebrate this behavior. I want to be respectful and I have no judgments about this behavior. I simply want to understand it. I'm inclined to believe that it was simply the unique circumstances we encountered when we were young that led each of us in our own unique way to this particular means of soothing ourselves. Though our sexuality is genetically determined, our gender expression is socially influenced and doubtless much affected by the environment in which we grow up. Our development psychologically is most intense during those early years so what we experience in the first years of our lives is invariably carried through the rest of our lives. We certainly can't change any of that, but if we're able to understand both how we come to this particular soothing behavior and have a clear sense of what we need to feel safe and secure in the world, I believe the more driven behaviors can be moderated. That crossdressing can lead to break up of families is less a marker for the need to express femininity than it is to the depth of the feelings that need to be soothed. Crossdressing is simply the means used by this person.
    I won't dive into what I'm uncovering, but I have to say, without the experience of being here and allowing myself to wear a woman's garment, I would not have been able to ask these important questions for myself. There are no cubby holes... as Gretchen says, but that doesn't mean we have to go unconscious or act in ways that are destructive for ourselves or the people who love us.
    We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time...
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    I believe it to be an incorrect position ... partial crossdresser. If you wear any type of female clothing, including lingerie, you are a crossdresser!

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    Good post jenny22.

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    I always like these posts because I realise there are plenty of others in the same boat as me.

    I've got zero chance of passing (unless it's very dark!), But I do have an overwhelming need/urge to wear women's clothes.

    I love it that I can wear a skirt, tights and heels and that's all if I want.

    You do get the odd funny look, but I think most people either don't notice or care.

    Just my $0.02

    P.S. I didn't mean JUST a skirt, tights & heels obviously. 😃

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    For me, I'm clearly a MIAD. I love getting dressed up, have a wife who supports me, but do not dress in front of our children which limits my MIAD time, especially during these "work from home" days. I also underdress, meaning I wear panties all the time and a few other items that you cannot notice under normal men's clothing.

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    Hi Zenlady, I too only wear the clothes. Just the other day I went shopping for about 5 hours . About 5 different stores with just women?s low rise flare jeans, a padded bra, long sleeve blouse and black keds. No one gave me a second look. No make up. No wig. With facial hair.

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    hi same as me i enjoy dressing up once in a while i will put a wig on = but its more important me to just put on my fem clothes = makes me feel relaxed and happy

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    That's the way I was all my youth, all I had was pantyhose and slips and maybe wear my sisters or mothers skirt now and then. When I got married and found the courage to tell my wife about the dressing it was her who started handing me down her clothes. I remember when she gave me a bunch of her old bras and one day she came home with some panties for me. That was the first time I ever wore these items and never even considered them before. When I some how joined this community and spoke as Maria for the first time was when I considered being more complete and bought a wig, jewelry and make up.
    The best thing about this community is that there's real life experiences here and I'm good to give you my experience of what happened to me. I found that once I take the step I can't step back. When I dress I just can't wear pantyhose and a slip now, I can't dress without my wig because it feel wierd now, it's almost all or nothing. I'm not saying I go all out all the time, I'm mostly in the closet I only go for drives once a week that involves mostly driving , putting in gas or air in a tire. When I dress at home I don't put on make up or go really out, but always with a wig but on the drive I want to look more complete in case something happens and I have to present myself as a women.
    All I'm saying is try to stay like that ,we are not all the same but for me once I take that step forward it hard to step back.
    I wish I could go back, I could tell you I would save a lot of time forsure.

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    Well, I'm a MIAD too. After all, who would believe I'm passable?

    I did a professional transformation recently. I loved it! But I still don't pass. I'd be more than happy just blending. And no way I will ever acquire the skills of the wonderful makeup artist that worked on me for hours. Happy to do this once in a while. It's really fun!

    To dress for myself in the closet (my regular CD activity), I'm happy with the regular MIAD that I get to be...

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    I am another that has a wig and forms but most of the time I do not wear. I just wear the clothes for the most part. My daily are non descript womens clothing, jeans tops etc.

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    Being both retired and sequestered, I dress totally...daily. With my lovely supportive wife, I?m free to do and wear whatever I want. Because I wear hose, I do shave my legs, etc. Most days, I wear a touch of makeup, mostly eyebrows, eyes, blush and lipstick. Going out is another matter....small, nosey town. When I go out, I?m always underdressed...panties, bra, thigh highs. Bottom line...I?m very comfortable.

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    That is the fun part of being a CD there are no rules!

    People can underdress, or wear just one article of clothing if they wish be it a dress or a pair of heels
    Do what you want.

    For me i have go go all out clothing, shaving body, makeup , wig or it just doesn't do it for me. But i am going for my own personal goals

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    Been a long time since I posted. But I couldn?t pass this one up. I found over the last two years of being out this is exactly where I?m at. Neither fish nor fowl, male or female. I found over all being in full femme was just as uncomfortable as full male dress. So my daily dress is a maxi skirt and a shelf bra camisole ? do have my own boobs? slip on guy shoes and sometimes a shirt. Got long hair so no wig or makeup I do have pierced ears. I go everywhere like that. Nobody has ever said anything to me. The girls once in a while will ask where I get my tie dye maxi skirts. LOL I own and am really comfortable in what I wear. So I don?t think most people notice or even care.

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    In very rare circumstances I can just go with hosiery and panties or something, but I just don't feel as good unless I'm rocking the whole ensemble. For the same reason, maybe, that Bruce Wayne wears the whole shootin' match when he goes out as Batman!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ZenladyCD5 View Post
    ...I don't wear makeup, don't wear a wig, don't paint my nails, and a few other things. To me, it just seems so tedious, time consuming, expensive, etc. to do those things.
    You sound like me!


    I fully agree. And not only do plenty of others, but I bet even quite a few GG's!


    *Most* of the time, I'm like you. Or at least these past several years.

    Woke up early today, threw on some panties, work-out leggings, athletic top, lightweight zip-up hoodie & some slip-on Skechers. Went for a navy (color) theme. And I'd be good to go for the rest of the day, like this. Do I look a bit femmy? Sure, especially given the print of the leggings. But as a femmy-looking *guy*.


    Very comfortable, versatile & easy look. And yes, it can be worn in public, while in guy-mode, should one choose. Though I suppose it may depend on the colors/prints, your confidence, your environment, etc.


    The rest of it? Bah! Too much of an expensive & time-consuming hassle.

    Granted, my body-hair is shaved, but whatever. I tried growing it out not too long ago, but got to the point where I *really* couldn't stand it. Ugh! Off it went.



    However, here's where I may differ a bit...

    I have in my gender-expression tool-box, many of the goodies to help create the full-on feminine look, should the desire (or need, even) arise. I don't break out the wigs & war-paint all that often anymore, but I'm grateful that stuff is there at my disposal. Truly a blessing, for my mental & spiritual well-being.

    And when I do get all dolled-up? I don't feel it's tedious one bit... At least at that time, anyway. Heck, I take *forever* when it comes to doing my make-up, these days. Part of it is intentional, part of it is just enjoying it all, and part of it is my self-diagnosed ADD, LOL.

    Hey, what can I say? Sometimes the whole transformation is *fun!*


    And yes, for the first time in a while, I'll be going full-femme later today. I miss it! This time is partly a need, and partly just a desire.

    Plus, I bought a new wig a while back, yet haven't worn it while all gussied-up! Definitely want to see how that looks.


    So, I'm *mainly* a MIAL... Man In A (pair of) Leggings.

    However, I'm also quite aware of the importance of how all the traditionally-femmy stuff can play a vital role in my personal situation, as well.


    But for the most part? Have fun with it all! There's a million & one ways to do the "guy-mode" dressing thing... Completely femme outfit, mix-&-match guy & girl clothes, etc. Heck, simply wear a pair of pink women's running shoes with an otherwise guy-outfit!


    All good, my brothers & sisters.

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    Hi Zenlady,

    What you posted raised some interesting questions in my mind about MIADs in general.

    Just because you don't wear makeup and a wig and all the other fripperies, I wouldn't personally consider what you've described on this thread to be "partial" crossdressing. At home I do much the same myself. Admittedly, I do normally slip on a wig, earrings and a couple of other items of jewelry. But they hardly take a moment, while makeup, nails, and shaving arms and legs (or bleaching them as I've often done) take time, so I usually skip those chores.

    Many years ago in the old Tapestry magazine I recall an article titled "The Lazy Transvestite." It was about many crossdressers, usually older, who got a little tired of all the work involved in transforming themselves. Just like you and me. So they became minimalists.

    More important, we're doing just as much as any woman might do on occasions when she was staying home and couldn't be bothered with all those extras. She wouldn't need makeup, shaving or a wig, because her face, skin and hair already look feminine without them. All she'd need is to slip on a bra and panties, a dress, or a skirt and blouse or sweater, pants and top or whatever--maybe tights just as you like, and a pair of shoes--and she's ready to go. Nobody could say she's not "fully dressed"!

    Viewed that way, I certainly see what I do to be "full" crossdressing, not partial. The same goes for you. It's nice to think I only need to do what any woman might do: hook up a bra and slide into panties, a slip (I like to wear a slip), a skirt and blouse and so forth, and hey presto! I'm a woman "just like her"; I'm Marianne.

    That leads me to the next issue. Although I'm primarily male and comfortable with being so, I've never counted myself a MIAD, because I do like to see myself as a woman when I crossdress, not as a man. I dress because I enjoy wearing female clothes, yes, but that's also part and parcel of the wish to experience and express a feminine gender identity. Female clothes support the expression of that feminine identity; or rather, that feminine part of my total identity that I'm expressing at a given time.

    Conversely, when I'm in male mode I just wear male clothing. Unlike some, I prefer not to mix the two together. I don't "underdress" in panties for instance, as many do--some with a bra as well. I see myself as having "dual gender identities," switching between the two, but on the whole I prefer to keep them separate and distinct.

    Now I do, in a literal sense, "partially" crossdress at times. That's to say, I'll just toss on a skirt and panties to wear around the house, and that's all. But that's only a "feminine version" of what I would otherwise be wearing in male mode: cargo shorts and Jockeys. (It gets hot here in Phoenix, and some of the time I'm walking around with nothing on at all.)

    I also admit, as I'm sure Gretchen would do, that the question of "what gender am I right now?" is not necessarily in my head at all. Often, no matter what I'm wearing, I'm just "being me"--whoever "I" may be! As Sigmund Freud is alleged to have said: "Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar." In the same way, "sometimes clothes are just clothes" and nothing else. They're whatever we happen to feel like wearing at a given time, irrespective of gender considerations.

    In spite of that, I must add that sometimes if I'm sitting around in just a skirt and panties, I "feel feminine" and start feeling the need for a bra as well. Naturally a blouse follows, and a couple of other items, and there I am fully crossdressed as a woman.

    The reason I'm saying all this is that it wasn't entirely clear to me whether you would identify with the term "MIAD" or not. Do women's clothes have "gender significance" to you, or are they purely a matter of styles, colors and fabrics and nothing else?

    The key question is whether, like me, you like to see yourself as a woman when you crossdress, or still as a man? A WIAD or a MIAD?

    Despite what you said in your second post on this thread, one reason this wasn't clear to me was the apparent significance of your name.

    We choose to call ourselves certain names here that were not our "given" names: literally, names that were "given" to us by our parents--whether we like them or not! For some like yourself, they're just "handles" we use for anonymity on a message board, which are quite different from any name we use in our private lives. In French, unlike English, people ask, not "What is your name?" but Comment vous appelez-vous?"--literally, "How do you call yourself? and the answer is "Je m'appelle Pierre" (or whatever). Literally, "I call myself 'Peter'!" (And I "rock"! Others may call me what they will, but that's what I call myself!) In the same way, what we "call ourselves" is a choice.

    Most people here, like myself, have at least some degree of feminine gender identity, and have a "femme name" we've chosen for ourselves. It actually surprised me to discover that not everybody does this automatically--we're all very different here!--but when we do this, it's not usually because anyone "told" us we ought to. Rather, I'm sure the need occurs to most crossdressers quite spontaneously, as it did to me. If my dressing served the purpose of expressing feminine gender identity, it felt as incongruous to "wear" my male name as it would to wear steel-toed workboots along with nylons and a skirt! So of course I needed a female name to match the rest of my outfit.

    So your own "handle" was one of two things that aroused my curiosity, because it's ambiguous in my mind. You "call yourself" "Zenlady." Does this imply some degree of feminine identification associated with your crossdressing? I wonder if you have a "secret" female name. If so, would you still call yourself a MIAD?

    Not that it matters either way! We're all welcome here, no matter who we are. But it prompted one of two fundamental questions in my mind:

    Does a MIAD have a "femme name"--or want one?

    I imagine the answer is No! If anyone identifies exclusively as a male, regardless of what clothes he wears, what need would he have for a female name? Though I'd be interested to hear from anyone about this.

    I do still think that certain clothes have an "essential" femininity, for reasons I won't explore here--though I could cite "delicate fabrics," "flow," and "display" among other qualities. Yet I can imagine how anyone might appreciate and enjoy these qualities in an abstract, "aesthetic" sense, devoid of any association with gender, sexuality, or fetishism--while remaining unalterably male. After all, any man might look at a woman and think "What a beautiful dress!"--even if it's on someone else and he doesn't want to wear it himself. I admit I myself see women wearing dresses--typically with wonderful, bold colors and patterns--and think "Wouldn't I love to wear that?" without automatically thinking "Would I have to be a woman to do so?"

    Still, returning to the topic of names, I'm pretty sure we have at least one MIAD on this board who originally registered with a female-sounding name, seeming "appropriately" feminine for the site, and after feeling comfortable here subsequently changed it to a different name sounding less feminine. What need does a MIAD have for a female name?

    My second fundamental question out of curiosity is

    Does a MIAD wear a bra?

    Again, I suspect the answer is No! I know more than one MIAD on this board has said he doesn't. And to me, as to many others, the bra is more "fundamentally feminine" than any other garment I can think of. A skirt or tights or frills may be symbolic of femininity in our present culture, but they have been worn by males in other times and places. Panties may be erotic and intimately sexual, but they're still only underwear. But the whole purpose of a bra is to accentuate the female figure, and for a crossdresser, to help transform his male body shape into that of a woman. If he wants to, that is. What need would a MIAD have for a bra, if he has no wish to see himself as a woman? Except possibly as an means to "pass" wearing a dress in public. Though again, I'd be interested to hear from anyone about this too.

    In your photos, it looks as if you're wearing a bra. Although--I hope you'll forgive me--you might have naturally plump breasts. So again, I can't help wondering whether you really would identify as a MIAD, with no feminine identity--which is fine--or simply as a "lazy crossdresser" as in that old Tapestry magazine: still with a yen to be a woman at times, merely shirking the effort it takes.

    It doesn't matter either way. But if my impertinent curiosity helps you or anyone else to "find themselves," I hope it serves a purpose. All the best to you!

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