I just shared this on another member?s thread. I strongly feel it?s good, solid advice. So I?m going to repost it here:

Just be frank with her, Youre my wife and I dont want to keep secrets from you. I thought you should know that I have a desire to wear womens clothes.

Never never never....

1) assume she feels a certain way without her having expressly told you so.
?Well based on her actions and statements I can assume...? NO! No you cant assume.

2)Secretly buy feminine things and hide them. Keeping secrets is always a bad idea.

3) Wear her things without asking first. Its creepy, and secretive (see #2).


Check out these guidelines on non violent communication. It emphasizes listening, empathy, and respect. It could help in this conversation.

https://www.nonviolentcommunication....on/4-part-nvc/


Also, put yourself in her shoes, metaphorically of course. Imagine her telling you she doesn?t want to look like a female at times and wants to look like a man. Loose drab clothing, flat chest, short hair... imagine your beautiful wife like that. How does it make you feel? Now hold onto that as you discuss this with her.

Good luck.