Someone mentioned that crossdressing is like a spectrum. I hadn't really considered that it might be different for everyone. What scratches your "itch"? Do you just want to wear feminine clothes? Do you want to have a feminine body shape? Feminine walk? Act like a woman? Would you be satisfied wearing male clothes with traditionally feminine patterns and fabrics?
Just curious...
I am a heterosexual crossdresser, who crossdresses almost daily, but keeps it limited.
I'm not very masculine and I never felt a need to develop a feminine alter-ego.
While I crossdress on most days, I don't do it in public. It's very private for me. No one but my wife knows I crossdress.
While I would like to pass as a woman, that isn't physically possible.
I keep my crossdressing limited to my wife's tolerances. She respects my needs, and I respect hers.
Currently, my wardrobe is limited to skirts, dresses, slips, and nightgowns - my style is feminine sophisticated/classy (not sexy).
When I crossdress my personality doesn't change. I really don't change at all.
No interest in transitioning, I just enjoy wearing women's clothing and trying, but failing to look as feminine as possible. I pad and compress, wearing shapers, bras with forms and do what I can to get this old guy body looking like it belongs in a dress. I dress any where from fairly "normal" dresses that a woman might wear out to a social function, to bodycon dresses, tight skirts, bright colors and faux leather that most women would not wear. I like to play dress up. I don't venture out of the house. Extremely happily married, I have a very forgiving and about 95% accepting wife so I dress as I please and when I please. Once in a while she askes if I can be her hubby and skip the dressing, and I do. Gotta keep mama happy too! A very little part I can do to help her put up with her crazy hubby! I love her so much I just want to squish her!
Gwen,
I've travelled across the spectrum to accepting I'm TG who has socially transitioned which means I go out comfortably as Teresa full time , I've yet to finally decide if I have the need to go further along the spectrum .
I could turn your descriptions around and say I no longer wish to crossdress as a man .
"Gender-fluid" is a good description for me. At work or out-and-about I'm usually in mostly male mode, but I underdress and wear jewelry regularly, including studs in my pierced ears. Once I'm home, and frequently while out shopping, I'm usually a woman. Vivian has completely taken over one of my two clothes closets and shows no signs of slowing that down!
Hi Gwen, I am just a strait Male who totally enjoys dressing
to look and act as feminine and lovely as I can,, >Orchid **OO**
Having my ears triple pierced is AWESOME, ~~...
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I am in my mid 50’s and have been dressing since I was about 11 years old, but I do think the desire has always been there. For me, I love dressing as a woman. Have no desire to become a woman, but I do absolutely love how I feel when it all comes together. It does need to be 100% and by this I mean heels, stockings, clothes, breastforms, makeup, nails and a wig. If I get to paint my toes...all the better. It has at least, in part, always been a sexual thing for me. However I do find that as I have aged I just want to spend more time dressed. I don’t need to do it every day, but it is always in my thoughts. I have come to the realization that this is who I am, and I am finally comfortable with that.
I hope that everyone here finds their happy place with this. Most people don’t understand this desire, including me at times.
I fall as non-binary on the spectrum. I like to pick and choose the aspects I like from both sides. Clothes wise this is female (skirts, dresses, cardigans, jewelry booties, like heels but impractical so don't wear often) and male (flip-flops, t-shirts, hoodies, boxers, socks, sneakers). Body wise I don't do fake boobs or shave my legs or makeup, but I did grow my hair out to shoulder length. I don't change the way I sit, talk, walk, etc as that feels fake for me. I don't want to be a female, but I don't really like masculinity.
Katie,
Welcome.I understand how you feel. I have been cross dressing since I was 12. I agree that sexuality seems to be a big part but as time goes on, for me, it becomes more how fully I can look like a cis woman. At 60, I have a manly face and although I keep myself reasonably fit, my body is still a man's body. My legs look pretty good. Anyway, I accept that I am a cross dresser and am addicted to buying and wearing women's clothing.
I consider myself a part time trans woman. I can't transition due to kids and work. So I am Robyn for 2 or more week nights and most of the time over the weekend. I go out as Robyn when dressed and have traveled as Robyn regularly. I am single and live alone so I don't have to worry about a spouse or SO. I never underdress and rarely dress unless I am going out.
" I have to tell you, sweetheart, my breasts are as smooth and beautiful as the day that I bought them " Lola from Kinky Boots
I am a plain vanilla cross dresser. I do not wear hip or butt padding. I wear a bra with home made forms, i.e, water balloons. I recognize I have a male form and wear dresses that do not accentuate a lack of an hour glass (Barbie doll) shape. I do not own or wear any jeans/pants made for women. If I want to wear jeans, it's male jeans. I feel comfortable as a male, and, make into a nice sloppy comfortable guy. When it's Stephanie time, it's Stephanie time and not some half way mix. No desire to be a woman, although if I was a woman that would be fine with me.
When I figure it out I'll let you all know
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No Heel is Too High.... When it's Pointed at the Ceiling
I crossdress, always including clothes, and makeup, breast forms and a wig when going out.
I'm heterosexual, in that I'm only attracted to women, when either male mode or female mode. I have to admit that I find many crossdressers and Mtf transexuals very attractive, but I recognize that many of them are still dudes under their clothes.
I go out and about, sometimes alone, but mostly in groups. I have a lot of CD friends. I've met about 1/3 of my friends here FtF.
When I'm out and about en femme, I try to be the most convincing girl that I can be. I won't go out as a MIAD. I cross my legs at the ankle and place my hands on my lap. Some girls here have only a few similar wigs. I have many wigs ranging in color from dark blonde to brown to auburn to red. Most of my wigs are longer, say from my shoulders to about half way does the back.
Except for socks, I have more of every kind of women's clothing than she does, including dresses, skirts, evening gowns, wedding gowns, shoes, you name it.
Honestly, I consider myself gender fluid. Boy me is an introvert, and Steffi is an extrovert. Whenever i do anything extroverted, it's Steffi, not boy me.
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Hi, I'm Steffi and I'm a crossdresser... And I accept and celebrate both sides of me. Or, maybe I'm gender fluid.
I had to scratch myself raw (in your 'itch' analogy) before I figured it out.
Transgender.
I'm dedicated now. One year HRT, and there's no going back.
I fall on the Must Transition end of the CD spectrum. This isn't just dressing up (which I love). This is life.
There resides within me a Woman, and she is powerful.
She has been my Grace and Bearing on the stormiest seas.
I could no more deny Her than I would my own soul.
I am a latecomer to the scene. It started with a party we had plans to attend. But I have found I enjoy dressing. It feels good, though I am not passable and I am comfortable with that. My wife is accepting and helpful. Right now she is the only one who knows. I do not believe it will go any farther, but who knows, the party might be rescheduled after Covid is controlled.
Lately, the only time I'm in full male mode is at work (I wear panties though). As soon as I get home, it's out of work clothes and into hip pads, some body shaping wear and into female clothes. I've been growing my hair out for the last few years and have my ears pierced.
I do most of my errands in girl mode. Quick makeup, maybe a few rolls of the curling iron. Put on a pair of jeggings, grab the purse and out the door I go
I?m very much on the male end of the spectrum. I?ve never had a wig, breast forms, shoes or any other feminine accessories such as purses, jewelry or make up. Only a few times I have ?borrowed? lipstick and eyeliner when my wife has been gone. While I have underdressed quite frequently outside of the house, my dressing at home has been limited to on rare occasions, wearing a dress with all of the associated lingerie underneath. Never had the urge to transition nor have I had any interest in intimacy with another male. However, I have wanted to go to go to a transformation studio just to see how femme I could get.
I think you're referring to the spectrum under the transgender umbrella rather than cross dressing. 50 years ago there were transexuals and transvestites. Everything fit into those two little categories. Now days, the TG spectrum includes everything in between with many possibilities.
Me:
Doing anything to make my appearance more fem has always been sexually arousing to me. The look and feel of women's clothes is most of it, yet it's also the makeup, wigs and jewelry. I don't feel that I'm trapped in a male's body per se, but sometimes I feel like transitioning and dressing en femme 24/7. From decades of self diagnosis, I guess I'm AGP.
"You're the only one to see the changes you take yourself through", Stevie Wonder
at age 65 i am slowly but surely drifting into the transsexual phase but to actually go all the way is almost impossible
I've been crossdressing for over 40 years. In my earliest times I always wished I would just go to sleep and wake up as a girl. In later years I used to consider myself "just a crossdresser". The desire would wax and wane over the years. When it came back about 5 years ago it came back with a vengeance. At one point when I really gave it some thought I realized that it wasn't just how the clothes felt or looked. It was about wanting to present as and be perceived as a woman to the best of my ability. I consider myself to be trans and if my situation were different I might consider transition but that is off the table for the foreseeable future.
I've moved along over time.
When I was 4-7 I was convinced I should have been a girl. I would have started the process there and then if I'd had supportive parents who suggested it.
When I was in my teens is became sexual, as everything can be at that age.
In my 20s it became about passing and sexual.
In my thirties I've accepted that I'm actually on the border of wanting to transition, and want to present as a female whenever possible.
It started out simple enough 50 years ago, I just wanted a pair of girls shoes. Today, I live my gender fluidity out in the open. Most days I wear women’s clothes, head to toe. My body is shaved, I’ve grown my hair for a year and wear a very feminine hair cut/color/style. I’ve had 5 sessions of laser hair removal on my face. I wear women’s glasses. My ears are pierced. Im openly bisexual but never want to be in a serious relationship again, 26 years of marriage was enough for me. I frequently have a manicure and pedicure all in front of my adult kids and close friends and everyone just knows it’s me. I may eventually start HRT but I would never have any gender surgeries.
Started out as a crossdresser! Now 24/7 transwoman! My only advise is be the best "you" you can be, whatever that may be! Hugs Lana Mae
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I started when I was about 10, wearing my mothers tights; what would be called leggings today. I always loved the feel, and as a runner was in heaven when running tights were first introduced. There was always something inside me that said 'female". Until I separated from my wife and lived alone I never took the plunge into fully dressing. I had my first makeover about 14 years ago and something clicked. I knew my dressing was more than just a fetish. I'm 66 now and circumstances rule out a transition. My current wife knows and is supportive; but would prefer others not know. I'm fine with that. I appreciate her tolerance. I go out fully dressed often. I have a petite frame, 5ft 6 135, so I really don't need any enhancements. I do wear leggings around the house and out to the grocery store. I would love to wear them out all the time but thats not in the stars at this time.
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