Originally Posted by
sometimes_miss
That's because it's not 'a side'. It's you.
Lots of CD'ers feel the need to distance themselves from anything feminine, so they talk of their female feelings/behavior as 'a side', or even in third person as if it's someone else, anything to avoid facing that they aren't 'all male, all the time'. It's understandable; from the moment we're self aware, we're told that being girly in any way, is the worst possible thing we can be. And it's reinforced by both sexes; female pronouns are routinely used as insults to us, by other people both male and female, teachers, coaches, military commanders, girlfriends, wives, etc.. Sissy, or the 'p' word which I can't use here, aae the worst insults that others think they can used when they want to insult us. The phrase 'man up' is used against us to imply that we aren't behaving as males, and that it's unacceptable. So it's no wonder at all, why so many feel the need to do this.
But we can't progress, until we face that it's us, it's all us. The female feelings, the desires, the hopes, the dreams, the satisfied, relaxed, comfortable feeling we have when we feel we are finally wearing what we feel we're supposed too wear. All of it.