Is Intimacy Gone Forever?

[Teresa]

Pumped ,
Sadly that is the conclusion my wife has to come to now , she now realises what she lost with me at the time she just wanted a punchbag , which is no basis for a marriage .

[Jennifer0874]

Is there any way to restore intimacy when wife is not attracted to my gender fluid issues? She does not like seeing my hairless body and I have dysphoria about having body hair. My wife wont go to counseling. She says its my problem you go. I have gone and I accept myself. We have been living as married friends for 2.5 years I miss intimacy and so does she. It makes me feel awful that my isssues have caused this.

I am in the same situation. I just started seeing a therapist, but like you my wife has refused couples counseling. I am working to accept myself and hope to be strong enough to decide what is best for me.

[prene]

My thoughts ... ask her to come for you(in seeing a therapist) and help you figure things out.

She might learn something, and her just being there you might also.

Good luck

[alwayshave]

Jade, I'm sorry for the stress in your marriage. I hope all works out for you.