Thank You again everyone for replies they have helped greatly
Thank You again everyone for replies they have helped greatly
I don't agree. You wear that outfit into a rough biker bar and you will get comments, maybe more. Wear it to very conservative church and you will get comments. Wear to to a modern dance venue and nobody will say a thing. It is just the sad truth that people can't behave. You should be able to wear what you want, where you want, but real life isn't like that.Originally Posted by mbmeen12
"Its so wrong that women can't wear what they want without someone giving their opinion"
It may be wrong, but it's reality. You have two choices:
1) Dress more conservatively and pass as a woman.
2) Dress as you did and put up with the criticism.
You can't control what other people think and you can't control what they say.
Personally, I think that outfit looks nice but it calls attention to you. If you are trying to pass and just have a nice night out with your wife, it would be better to "dress down" a bit. Wear a longer dress and lose the "hooker heels". If you want to blend in, you need to wear outfits similar to what the women are wearing.
Krisi
It seems to me that if you're going to wear a dress like that, a casino would be the place to wear it. Yes, you have to consider your safety, but that doesn't mean that it is your fault when men act like swine.
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A casino, booze and barbarians are not a good combination.
You both look fine, but you know what booze and a group setting does to some with lower IQ's .
I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !
More than likely it was "fear" talking... people tend to be afraid of things they do not understand. I was probably their way of dealing with their fear of you, lashing out.
The Pink Fog is thick with this one....
two words "Pepper Spray" . I understand you were with your wife, and I commend you for de-escalating the heck out of there. Protecting others and yourself is the better part of valor.
Be careful with pepper spray. Some states consider it a weapon. Some states you need a permit. If you use it you can get charged for assault! So if you use it make darned certain it was justified.
I know, it is stupid!
Scarlett,
You look amazing. Whoever was dumb enough to say anything negative about you and your wife isn't worth listening to.
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I have pepper spray in my purse. I have it, just in case.
You have all given me such a lift , Thank You. I think we will try again and possibly not care what others say but possibly on a less busy night.
BTW, I've been to a casino and had no problems. But, I did go with a busload of CD/TGs.
Once, a few of us consented to be in a pic that some GGs requested.
Hi, I'm Steffi and I'm a crossdresser... And I accept and celebrate both sides of me. Or, maybe I'm gender fluid.
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I agree with Krisi. The outfit maaade you look like you want attention form men and then some. A longer dress or skirt and lower heels would be less likely to attract unwanted alcohol influenced jerk attention.
I'm sorry, but obviously you drew attention with your outfit. What the guys figured out I don't know. You are lucky that it didn't go very wrong for you. Yes young girls can wear skirts that stop just above the knee. Anyone above teens is suspect of being available and draws attention. We can always say that you should be able to wear what ever one chooses the facts are you really can't for safety.
What pumped said.
Yes women have to put up with this type of stuff. As you are representing female you are that plus.
I'm pretty much always over dressed in someone's opinion or whatever, I don't care. Be safe but don't let them spoil a good time. I have experienced when it is impossible.
Scarlett, I'm so sorry that this has happened. I have been laughed at in the past when out, but nothing that made me feel unsafe.
Please call me Jamie, I always_have crossdressed, I always will, "alwayshave".
I don't blame you for feeling uncomfortable and getting away from the situation and it was the right thing to do I am sure. But maybe inside you could think of it as somewhat of a complement. Two great looking women! Again they should have kept their mouths shut.
There's a current thread on "constructive criticism". Her comment was "constructive criticism". Your comment is the reason many of us are afraid to post "constructive criticism". If we can't post the truth here, what is the point of posting at all?
Krisi
I am sure the OP wants honest opinions and not everyone just saying what jerks ect ect
Do not get me wrong they were JERKS but welcome to what we GGs have to put up with day in and day out.
Sherlyn loved her short dresses and high heels but after we started going out she saw ....they will look and say predatory comments ( the jerks) so decide if you want to go out with your wife and have fun without the unwanted attention. Or if you want the attention.
It is wrong but that is just how it is .
We found a club where we got to know everyone and we were safe there ...so hopefully after the pandemic you can find that. We danced the night away and dressed how we wanted.
BTW you look great......but as a GG wife it was nerve wracking for me feeling I had to watch out over the both of us..
And finally do not let it damper your fun going out with your wife but decide attention or blending with the other GGs.( not saying wear pants lol) just tone it down unless at a club.
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Thanks again to all the replies. I understand what many of you are saying however I must disagree in a way. This is clearly what gg' s go through and there were many there wearing far less. The guys were idiots as we know many can be. I think if I was to tone it down I may as well not bother as it takes so much work and planning to go out I want to feel sexy. People will be people but they have no right to belittle others . My wife wants to go back there and for me to try to have fun this time. I admit I did panic and should have been braver. I might go as a brunette this time lol
Scarlett,
Maybe consider your wife when you want to appear feeling sexy , perhaps she wasn't wasn't so comfortable with , Di makes a very good point about being out with partners .
You admit you felt slight panic but consider if those guys had taken it beyond a few snide remarks , the outcome doesn't bear thinking about !
I know Ide get a whole lot more WTFs if I went out dressed up. Thats why I wear lingerie under my boy clothes daily. I have to live with what i can do .
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My wife keeps telling me I looked great and not to worry about others. There was security there but I guess I felt insecure as it's been a while since we went out like that. I feel I let her down in a way by listening to those guys. Actually my wife didn't hear or see the issue or she would have said something to them. Like every thing life it's a balance and probably on a different night where it was less crowded (due to rain) it would have been different. I suppose th ere were a few 1000 people there in that area and although many looked they were the only ones who felt the need to say something bad.
so did these idiots hassle anyone else, like the many other gg's you saw wearing less?
Possibly but I'm not Sure as on further thoughts about the night I realised I was way too self concerned. My wife said I w asnt being looked at by as many as I thought and she didn't really hear those guys so maybe just maybe the main problem was me being paranoid.
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