Do you regret going through HRT? HRT has crept into my mind lately, but I'm just curious if anyone regrets their decision?
Do you regret going through HRT? HRT has crept into my mind lately, but I'm just curious if anyone regrets their decision?
Gwen,
No, I don't regret it. I'm sorry I couldn't stay on it, but the changes are amazing and I wish I could have seen it through. If you want to know more and a description of how it affected me and others, look at the post "detransition".
Robin
I'm just trying to find a decent melody
A song that I can sing in my own company
U2
No, not at all. I love what it is doing for me as it slowly changes my body. If you have doubts I strongly recommend talking with a gender specialist therapist, and keep asking questions here. As most of us say, HRT is serious because of the permanent and interactions it has with your body. Go forward only when you feel you are ready. It is not the only part of being yourself. You can test the waters by living more full time in your spare time before coming out to others. I know that is tough at this time. But getting out and interacting with others on a regular basis may help you decide. Good luck with whatever you decide.
Allie
Maybe regret waiting so long to start
No regret but I also have a responsibility to my SO to satisfy her in all aspects of a relationship (physical, spiritually etc).
Escapism isn't necessarily bad, but is definitely unhealthy in the long term. While helpful in the short term, things will degrade over time. At some point, the escapee will have to face the issue. Things simply blowing over isn't really going to happen in many situations.
I am with Rhonda on this one! I regret not starting sooner! I am 3 yrs and 9 months on hrt and can?t imagine my life without it. My mental state of well being has been amazing and my wife noticed immediately and would never want me to go back to the old me again!
I took some advise here that I was moving too fast and I delayed the decision to start HRT! That caused me to stop thinking about it for a month and then I revisited it! I am 2+ years on HRT now and would never go back for anything! I love what it has done physically, mentally, and emotionally! It did not grow huge breasts! Put that thought out of your mind! But the thing is, they are mine! Mentally just clearer! Emotionally just...nicer to others! It is definately a serious decision and is dependent on your circumstances! I would encourage you to give it some thought then like I did do not think about it for a month then revisit! Just my bit of advise and my experience! Best wishes on your decision and your journey! Hugs Lana Mae
Life is worth living!
"Foxy lady! You look so good!!" Jimi Hendrix
I love being on hrt my body feels more aligned with my mind. It’s been two years and I will never look back.
My only regret is not starting sooner.
Beat me to it...Originally Posted by HelpMe,Rhonda
Calling bigotry an "opinion" is like calling arsenic a "flavor".
Before learning I was a transgender, I did cross-dress at home, but I hardly could relate to experiences of many on the CD forum. I never dressed "to the nines". I don't even use a makeup. When I had no more doubt I am a transgender, I knew that I needed to alleviate the body dysphoria I had and I wanted it to be feminine, all the time going forward (no bottom dysphoria though). It was then I started HRT. Just crossed my 3 year mark last month and the changes exceeded my expectations. Under no circumstances, I would consider to reverse these changes. Never had a single regret. I did have fears going in. Was even afraid of growing breast too big. ALL my fears went a way on day 1 of HRT. The decision to start was by far the hardest.
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No regrets at all. I will admit to having second thoughts but I attribute that to so many years of denial. I trained myself to believe there was no reason for Hormones, that I'd never transition, that I was being selfish and all sorts of other things that turned out to be nonsense or mental self-abuse. That fear allowed me to isolate from others and make everything much more difficult as I pushed it through that filter. I'm finally learning to love who I am but needed to break down the barriers I'd built over the years. Asking for hormones about 2 1/2 years ago was the first step in that process of learning to love and nurture myself at long last.
Your Mileage May Vary, my life isn't yours. Best wishes.
Sarah
Being transgender isn't a lifestyle choice. How you deal with it is.
No regrets. Definitely affirm to have beard electrolysis first as the thinner skin finds it more painful once on HRT. HRT is really the only way to know if the toxicity of testosterone is real or not - as once it's gone it is liberating, but if a person still feels the same after, perhaps it was not the T that was the problem.
xx
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dJFyz73MRcg
I used to believe this, now I'm in the company of many tiggers. A tigger does not wonder why she is a tigger, she just is a tigger.
thanks to krististeph: tigger = TG'er .. T-I-GG-er
I have been on estradiol valerate for over 8 years and for me it's a blessing. I am calmer and no longer have suicidal thoughts. I also no longer drink alcohol to excess. I function as a man in society in spite of my feminine appearance, including a bra cup size of DD. Nobody as ever made me feel uncomfortable about my bust. My singing and speaking voice is a bit deeper than that of a typical man.
The strange thing is I function a lot better in society as a man than before being on HRT as I am much more at peace with myself.
Last edited by JohnH; 12-11-2020 at 06:48 AM.
John (Legal name)
Preferred pronouns: he, his, him
Still trying to figure it out
Only was on hrt for 6 weeks
Here's a study from a few years ago where surgeons were asked how many of their surgical patients expressed regret about their decision. Approximately 22,700 patients...62 expressed regret. The odds are ever in our favor.
Well Gwen, there are only a couple or so I knew that HRT did not work for. Both were able to stop early enough to preclude any irreversible effects. As for me personally, nope. Never regretted it. I compare it to receiving a life saving transfusion.
Marie
Never, not once, ever. Which is not to say that some might. And that is okay also. I think sometimes we (as humans) want assurances to things before we try them. I know I wanted to know that HRT was the right thing for me, prior to starting it. And it took a huge leap of faith for me to try it. Once I did though, I knew I would never go back.
I know a trans girl who started HRT and after a 6 months regretted it and stopped. She wasn't happy with the impotence it was causing, and she really enjoys the company of women. I warned her about that. Like everything in life, nothing is right for everyone. Most are happy with HRT, but there are always exceptions.
Good thing you don't know any crossdressers like that in real life
Now I do know one very well but didn't know any before the transitionGood thing you don't know any crossdressers like that in real life
So let me get this straight. "A trans girl" who's unhappy that HRT causes impotence.... I can't wrap my head around that. I mean, I know that for some, GRS isn't a priority, but that's a far cry from wanting to retain a fully functioning male sex organ. Really?
Calling bigotry an "opinion" is like calling arsenic a "flavor".
Wanting to retain a fully functioning penis isn’t really a far cry at all.
I’ve run across many a transwoman and transfemme enby in different corners of the internet other than here who want to retain the function of their penis and each has their own reason. Not every transgirl or transfemme enby is dysphoric about their nether region, just like not every transgirl is dysphoric about their voice, brow ridge, adam’s apple or beard.
Gender identity is not defined by anatomy. It simply isn’t.
Neither is gender expression, gender performance, gender role or sexual orientation. It simply isn’t.
That is old school thinking that should be tossed to the curb.
Last edited by IamWren; 12-12-2020 at 08:36 PM.
I am not a woman nor am I a man... I am an enby. Hi, I am Wren.
Really!, and you are going to judge how they feel what they are? Why?
Vickie,
I can't see anything wrong with your story at least your friend has been honest with herself and everyone else , of course she's still entitled to change her mind , the important point is it's HER DECISION , if she gets it wrong she has to pick up the pieces . It's isn't a game we're playing we are talking about life changing events .
"Regret" is such a loaded word..
The media loves it. They club us with "Transition regret"..
I regret eating that whole pizza last night. I'm gonna start a youtube channel.
HRT is supposed to be part of a process. It's totally medically normal to start and stop it.
You do it with a doctor and therapist and evaluate progress.
Many many many medical treatments are stopped and started...tried out and adjusted... many fail and a new one is tried.
Family and financial issues are totally legitimate reasons to stop HRT ... although for many transpeople this create problems its not my place to judge or put a negative spin on it..
What I would want for all of us is to not feel like its a failure to stop HRT. THat's why I think of regret as a loaded word...I'm not aiming this at OP... its really my opinion about how this can be best discussed by us..
My views have changed alot over the years and I want to help anyone that is dealing with gender dysphoria to think medically, and take all outside noise out of it..
One day I'll muster up the energy to write about my own experience in some detail...how i felt then... what i did about it ...and how it worked out for me..
and i bet it would surprise some folks... ..hehe i just put the pressure on myself..
I am real
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