I have to respectfully disagree with you on this Aunt Kelly. I used to be a member of a notorious dating site here in the UK and all the guys who I met offline were married straight men. Not one identified as a gay man.
However, I do agree that the vast majority of straight men don not want to meet men that are masculine, and unfortunately OP, that means the facial hair will have to go at some point. I struggled hard with this as my beard was one of my defining traits of my masculinity. There comes a point when you have to let go and do what feels right. That does not mean I am clean shaven 100% of the time but it is important that I am for dates as one of the most common questions I get before meeting guys is ?are you clean shaven? or ?do you have any facial hair?.
Hope your journey goes well for you!
Sam x