I came across this question recently, and it?s got me thinking.
If you could take a pill that takes away all of your desire to dress feminine, and all memory of it, would you? It would take you to the presumable state of a normal man, attracted to women. No angst around your desire to take on the feminine form ever again.
Would you? Why or why not?
Candice,
Simple answer, no. Why, because I don't find that CD'ing has ever been a negative in my life. Taking the pill in a way suggests that someone would be ashamed of who they are and I'm not. In fact CD'ing has enriched my life. I've had experiences I wouldn't have had otherwise.
Who dares wears Get in, get out without being noticed
Right now, yes, I would take it. It's something that I'm sure my wife wouldn't want in our life, and it's something I don't want to tip toe around her with.
Equally though, before I met my wife, I would have happily taken the hypothetical pill that turns you into a biological woman - most days I would still be tempted!
Candice,
Oh dear we're back to the " normal " label , , is there such a thing as normal ?
So we are to assume the pill also stops homosexuality because they aren't attracted to women . Phili posted a thread questioning fetish behaviour , to a point men are turned on by degrees of fetish behaviour , sex is triggered but in different ways .
The question also implies there is something wrong with gender variants , we should be ashamed or feel guilty for not conforming .
I admit at one time I said I wouldn't wish the anguish of CDing on my worse enemy . How wrong I've proved myself , it's a wonderful part of me I've discovered .
When this question was posed before I suggested an alternative pill could help people accept us , we have to accept what we feel and do isn't wrong .It's been known for sometime that what we feel isn't an illness that can and should be cured with some magic pill . Our brains are wired this way , we just have to accept it and hope the people round us can , my life has proved that can happen , why would I want to change it now ?
Last edited by Teresa; 12-30-2020 at 08:49 AM.
If I wanted to stop crossdressing, I would stop. No need for a pill.
As for "attracted to women", even though I often dress as a woman, that doesn't mean my attraction is anything different. I am attracted to women. I am married and attracted to my wife.
Krisi
Life is complicated. There are complications for which I might take a pill, but crossdressing isn't near the top of the list. Virtually every pill I've ever taken has potential negative side effects, some deadly. The cure can be more deadly than the disease. So, no.
Last edited by Bea_; 12-30-2020 at 09:35 AM.
No that thought never crossed my mind
Hi Candice, I love your threads I can relate to almost everything you say.
I would take it 100%. Reason why, life would be easier, I currently hate this side of me, wife not over the moon either, and noone else even knows it exists.
However I would also take the magic pink pill which turns me into a woman and the whole world would have always known me as a woman, and somehow even my kids are unchanged and still genetically mine.
If the normal part is mandatory though I would say no, I am not normal even without crossdressing. Normal people drink too much alcohol, eat too much, dont exercise and always short on cash, no thanks. The attraction to woman seems unrelated though, if you think that makes a person normal then uh oh.
I think my question would be, if I took the pill would I still be me? My CD is so much a part of my identity. It’s not something I do, it’s part of who I am. I have spent many years trying to be someone else - there were times when I would have taken the pill instantly. But that’s not where I am now. In the words of the song, This is me.
My simple answer is no and this pretty much sums up my reasoning too.
Originally Posted by JennyMay
If we took the pill would we be happy or more successful or a better person then again that pill my be the worse thing we ever done. I like the person I am, There will always be things we wish we could change.
If I could have never start that would be great. But now it is a huge part of me. Dressing has shape my life and stopping now would change everything that makes me, me.
Sara
I would get completely dressed as the most outrageous version of Carla I could devise. Big hair, big boobies, thigh high boots, etc...
Then I would take half of that pill. And head for the Mall.
Just kidding. How often have we seen the pink/blue pill question?
Most of us have questioned our behaviour with gender. Most of us just accept it or we've learned how to come to terms with it all.
That's where I'm at. Too bad all of the people closest to me aren't there.
We've learned to incorporate this fabulously enjoyable activity into our complicated lives. Many of us have cared for people we love that have special needs.
Would you take a pill to make that burden go away along with the person we love?
The magic pill question seems to be rooted in guilt.
Last edited by CarlaWestin; 12-31-2020 at 08:08 AM.
I've waited so long for this time. Makeup is so frustrating. Shaking hands and I look so old. This was a mistake.
My new maid's outfit is cute. Sure fits tight.
And then I step into the bedroom and in the mirror, I see a beautiful woman looking back at me.
Smile, Honey! You look fabulous!
No no and no why would I want to get rid of something I enjoy
so much! I lived with her my whole life she is a big part of me! Now my wife would say just the opposite and make me the first in line! Lol!
If I am honest with myself, I'd take the pill also. Sure, diversity of experience builds a more well rounded character. Sure every experience we have builds us into who we are and that is a part of what we become and I'm not sure I would be the same without that same perspective I have gained from some of my crossdressing experiences, mindset, and activities. But it also has caused challenge, anxiety, grief, and life would be "easier" without it in my life. If I have to be honest, and the pill reset the desire, made it so it didn't feel like something was missing from my life like it does when I don't dress for a longer period of time, if in fact I never really even knew it had been a desire before. Damn straight. I'll chase that pill with a good shot and wakeup tomorrow. It would certainly be a positive impact on the budget also. Wonder what I would buy instead of those cute dresses, skirts, shoes, etc.
No, I love being gender fluid. I am sure my wife would want me to take a magic pill to make me a normal man.
Yes, I would take that pill. I have to chuckle a little about the term "normal man." What the heck does that mean? Over the decade I have been on this forum I have read comments about cross dressers having greater sensitivity and compassion for others. The implication is non-crossdressing men do not have that trait or quality. I know many men who possess those traits who are not cross dressers.
I think most cross dressing men are isolationists; staying indoors, not socializing. Many seem to have some degree of angst and turmoil in their marital relationship. Specifically for me there is non-acceptance of my cross dressing by my wife. I am not one who will take the position of shoving it in her face; take it or leave. The way society is I believe were I to be out there among the masses I would experience more non-acceptance. It does not matter if those not accepting a cross dressing man are not educated as to cross dressing, it is a fact of life. I have read this morning a thread concerning "coming out" to women vs men. Yes, in general women may engage in some chatting, but in the nitty-gritty it will come down to NIMBY. It really has nothing to do with feeling ashamed or guilty about being a gender variant. If you are past that personal hurdle you still have to deal with others. I know some are going to say, if you take that pill, you're not going to know what you're missing. What would I be missing that I do not already have?
Never in a million years. I have never wanted to stop. I started seeing a gender therapist this year and I am loving every minute of our sessions. My ultimate goal is to be comfortable as myself no matter what others think. My marriage has had a lot of ups and downs over the past couple years due to this. But for me therapy is figuring out who I am and being able to stand on my own if need be.
I'm ambivalent on this.
There are days when I would, but it would have to also somehow take me back to my childhood. I would want to have it to do over completely as that male without any inclination to dress. I would want all the time that was spent thinking about dressing, finding ways to obtain clothing, actually dressing and then all the time spent afraid someone would discover it and out me and all the time berating myself for being this way. I'd want all the time I spent alone and hiding and didn't spend with my wife back to be more with her.
That being said, there are more days when I say NO. I love being me. I love being feminine and feeling as I do, expressing this part of me. I love being a woman and to flip that coin wish the pill would take me back and begin again as a little girl to grow into womanhood and experience all the things that we miss out on not being women. The progression into puberty and sexual awakening, the dating and the sleep overs. I'd want to see it all through female eyes.
I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !
I have a better idea. Develop a pill for the entire population that makes them accepting of crossdressers and transgender people. I volunteer my wife for the clinical trials.
This is a question that has really tested and reinforced my own self acceptance.
At first glance, my answer was a definite yes! Take away the angst, the confusion, guilt, paranoia. The relationship conflict. Remove all of those troubles!?! Yes please, I’ll take a conflict-free life please.
Upon reflection, it has occurred to me that issue long as I remove the layer of shame and self acceptance, I can embrace my own identity. I can embrace the very feminine parts of my personal experience in everyday life. Much of my life, I have tried my very hardest to blend in. To look and act as normal as possible so that I don’t receive any judgement of others. If they don’t see me, they can’t judge me, is what I thought. Wear the most plain guy stuff. Do the guy things. Maybe they won’t notice. Stuff... stuff...
As I become more of true me, I now relish the fact that I can wear non conventional clothing. I can stand out and feel and look good as a guy. Experiment with fashion. Throw in colour. Speak with a more feminine inflection when the time is right. Do the traditional guy things that I like, while at the same time embrace the traditional female things I like. Blur the lines of gender roles and fashion to reflect my true identity. The yin and then yang within me, finding balance within myself.
The fact that I like to experiment with both ends of the gender expression is then not so surprising to me. I can feel good in the stubble face, rugged looking outdoorsman in plaid. Or I can feel good in a glam eyeshadow, lace top, tight skirt, hose and heels. It’s all just costume anyways. An outer reflection of our inner sense of being. If I shut out the feminine side of me, it’ll just create conflict.
So I think that, in fact, I kind of like embodying both gender traits. I think just maybe it makes me a more balanced human. Not to say anybody that embraces only their masculine or feminine selves is less balanced or wrong. They are just embracing their own identity, and for them, they are balanced enough at one end. On the other side, I also don’t think that trans people that chose to transition are imbalanced or wrong. They are identified in such a way that they find balance in their non birth gender. And that’s ok too. We’re all different. We’re all at different points along the spectrum.
That’s my take on the question anyways. Not a simple one. We are all beautiful inside. We are all exactly the way we should be. We are all enough.
For me, the "cure" would be worse than the "disease". Crossdressing is just one of the things I chose to do with my free time, not the only thing. Given the proper balance and perspective it deserves, I see no reason to change.
Really good question.
I've definitely thought about this hypothetical before, and a while ago I would've said yes. But it's become a huge part of me that I love and identify with so strongly that I could never give away.
No pill for me thanks.
I'm happy as I am. Family and friends, the people who matter to me are accepting and supportive. I have no reason to want to change.
Yes.
100 Percent yes.
Then hopefully have a normal relationship with a woman like most heterosexual men.
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