The little things we have to remember

[CharlotteCD]

There are so many little things that can get us caught, and I was discussing the kind of checks I have to do with a friend, and she was totally blown away - apparently she was feeling a sweat just thinking about how stressful it is.

Thought maybe it might be a good thread to have some examples, and maybe some of the things that have been noticed. I'm not thinking clothes, because they're a dead obvious giveaway - i'm thinking the unusual things that we need to keep on top of.

- Lipstick marks on mugs or glasses
- Unusual colour hair around the house or in a hairbrush
- Wig caps, which are really easy to drop
- Earrings and earring backs. I wear magnetics, and they are a nightmare!
- Buttons on outfits, which can easily pop if you've put on a few COVID lbs.
- Makeup brushes, which are round, and therefore roll away!
- High heel marks on the floor


Any others?

[Star01]

You can add eyebrow pencils falling out of my laundry basket.

[Helen_Highwater]

Marks on the skin left by a bra, holdups or those left on feet by strappy heels. As for wig caps, they can leave a mark across your forehead if you're not careful.

[darla_g]

occupational hazards?

[CharlotteCD]

Opinion was that those of us who are successful in hiding in plain sight are like undercover spies. I can see that comparison

[Alexis00]

Opinion was that those of us who are successful in hiding in plain sight are like undercover spies. I can see that comparison

At work when a woman stops by your desk to ask, “Do you have eye shadow on?”

And then going to the bathroom and discovering yes, you do still have blue eye shadow you somehow didn’t remove last night.....

[Cheryl T]

Don't forget those who wore mom's or sis' clothes.

Put everything back EXACTLY where it came from.
Make sure there are no marks from deodorant in the underarm areas.
God forbid you get a run wearing Her stockings.

[SherriePall]

And my problem: press-on (and even glued-on) nails popping off into some black hole to be found by your better half. Cheryl, you could write those for SO's, too, before telling.

[Stephanie47]

Marks on the skin left by a bra, holdups or those left on feet by strappy heels. As for wig caps, they can leave a mark across your forehead if you're not careful.

Helen, I had to chuckle at this although when it happened to me in the mid 1960's it was traumatic. I dabbled in my mother's lingerie draw. I love her open bottom girdles. Loved the tight feel as it held up a pair of her stockings. She and my brother and sister were gone for the day to upstate New York. I wore her girdle all morning. When I took it off in the late morning it was "oh, shit." The seams were imbedded on my skin. I had an appointment for a physical to work a part time job for the United Parcel Service. I spent as much time as possible kneading my skin trying to remove those lines. I really did not know if I was successful as I could not see my butt at the physical. It was a thorough physical......I did not get the job. See other postings on what is was like to wear women's clothing in the 1960's.

[Beverley Sims]

As for bra marks, I have permanent indentations around my chest, a result of a tight bra over too many years.

That is difficult to hide if I ever need medical treatment. :-)

[Sandi Beech]

I had a false eyelash fall off one time and tore the house up looking for it. It is something that would be hard to explain seeing how my wife has never worn any before.

Sandi

[Krisi]

Before I introduced my wife to my little "hobby", she went out of town for a week. Before she returned I had to clean the house in case of any of those little giveaways and then make it messy again so she wouldn't know I had vacuumed.

It's so much better now.

[Pumped]

Charlotte, it sounds like you are in a just don't relationship instead af DADT. My feelings are DADT has some "grace" for the missed clothing or jewelry. DADT to me she knows but doesn't want to see you dressed. It is damned hard to keep it all undercover.

[CharlotteCD]

It's certainly DADT rather than Don't. I am very confident that I left an office style dress out recently - either she put it away, or I put it in a very unusual place, and I am so OCD that I wouldn't have put it where I did. She didn't say anything, and we've been fine.

[Territx]

Interesting topic for some of us. A number of these are all too familiar, as I have had close calls with several: the eyelashes/missing stick on nail, the marks on the skin (bra straps, corset marks, and the wig cap line), etc.

I wish I didn't have the issue but that is a discussion for another thread.

[WandaRae2009]

My wife found an eyelash one that I dropped. She just screamed and wanted me to call the exterminator for that bug with all the legs. LOL

[kellyanne]

- Pink towels
I had used them for years but when some friends came over, forgot to stash them

- Mascara - always good to clean it off before visiting :O(

- lingering girlie scents - often we can't smell because they are bound to receptors

- 2 sided make up mirrors - think my buddy is really wondering.

- Pink razors - Ironically , I use Daisy Fresh because all male razors chopped up my face and then went on to shave my body for 20 + years but
even a straight safety razor was no good vs my stubble, worst were BICs -

Not so many visitors these years with everyone married up and largely associate with other married people.

[JeanTG]

My experience with my wife has been that no matter how thorough I am at covering my tracks, even if I am 100% perfect in covering my tracks, she still knows when I've been dressing.

Wives can read us like a book. It's not just pink threads or lost eyelashes and earrings. It's mannerisms, moods, etc. Women are really, really intuitive. DADT? They can always T even if we don't.

Oh and the other thing I learned... don't EVER wear her stuff.

[Rachel Anne]

Press on nails
Dropped laundry
Wig Caps
Bobby pins
Hairs shed from wigs.

I always vacuum before someone comes over. Catches many of these things...

[kellyanne]

OUAT we had a corporate exercise where 10 of us had to bring in an object that represented some core quality of character. Then we had to write them down and submit them without a name- mine was Swiss Army pen knife signifying self reliance.

They were typed up and placed on aboard - they were all pretty common objects.

One Lady got every single one correct - matching each to the person.

The average was probably 4/10 for the rest of us.

Like your reply, she had specific mannerisms, moods and things she attached to the person and voila it al made sense to her - still find it amazing she did it.

Some of the people she had recently met.

[Geena75]

My 'cover ups' included clearing the snow off the deck (I enjoy stepping out, even in winter, and having a smoke and looking at my reflection in the sliding glass doors) so the heel prints won't show, watching for make up dust, and trying to clean the wash cloth from washing off the make up. I do most all the laundry, so when there are make up stains on the neck of my undershirt, she won't see. When I wash my work clothes, I toss in the panties, but have to be sure to put the clothes in, and take them out of the dryer myself.

[Karren H]

Leaving a pair of heels and a bra in the wardrobe.... that did it....

[Sometimes Steffi]

Having sequins fall off a dress and hide in the carpet. They only reflect light from one direction, which makes them particularly hard to find.

Clothing tags that escape.

[Alexis00]

Leaving a pair of heels and a bra in the wardrobe.... that did it....

Did that lead to a talk with wife? That didn’t go so well for me after a few years.

[Jillcder]

The bra and waist clincher marks can be challenging I also made the mistake in the early dressing years of dressing before a dermatologist appointment and was panicking over the bra marks on my shoulders since then I of course bought a property fitting bra to help eliminate the marks. Makeup dust in the extra bathroom also caught my wife?s attention when she was cleaning the sink I told her I had no idea what that red colored dust was.