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    Wife Is Facing a Mastectomy...Relationship Advice Needed (Outcome Update)

    For those of you who have been following my original post and associated thread (now closed) on the above topic, I wanted to share an update:

    My wife had her surgery two weeks ago, and the overall recovery had gone very well. Today, we had a follow-up appointment with her surgeon to have her get the drain at the surgical site removed, as well as to find out the results of the biopsy on her "sentinel" lymph nodes that was done to see if the cancer had spread beyond the originally-identified tumor. Needless to say, the last two weeks were fraught with anxiety for both of us because we were unsure of what to expect...fearing the worst, but cautiously hoping for the best. Facing this appointment in some ways was worse than going in for the initial operation...at least at that time, we knew what to expect with no further surprises anticipated, but this time??? I suppose that in a way, we were both experiencing what a condemned prisoner must be thinking on the way to their execution.

    Well, long story short - the news was POSITIVE and much better than what we were expecting. I'm not a spiritual person, but maybe all those good wishes sent my wife's way (including those from the fine ladies of this Forum) had an added impact. All I know is that when the surgeon shared the pathology report with us, he told us that all of the cancer had successfully been removed, the "margins" around the original tumor were clear, and that my wife was now officially CANCER FREE. Shock, awe, numbness, and elation..a veritable swirl of competing emotions, but in a good way.

    Of course, there is still some follow-up work to be done. My wife will now be referred to a Breast Cancer Treatment Team of the type that Stephanie47 mentioned in one of her posts, and consisting of a number of medical specialists including an oncologist, a plastic surgeon, and an internal medicine specialist etc. They will now monitor her on-going progress and perhaps recommend a type of prophylactic chemotherapy that includes monitoring and adjusting her estrogen levels on a regular basis to prevent another tumor of this type from re-occurring at some point in the future. But these are preventative measures only. Right now, my wife is definitely considered to be cancer-free.

    A huge weight has been lifted off our shoulders. Life can now essentially continue as before. Many thanks again to all of you for your empathy and support, as well as for the positive outcome that we have now experienced but had not dared to hope for.

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    So glad the outlook is so good. Best wishes and prayers for a full recovery.

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    Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!

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    best wishes! my wife was in her 20s when she went through the ordeal. This evening we celebrated our lives together.

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    Great news Leslie

    I hope everything continues to go well in the future.
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    Thank God That's Great News

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    Thanks for the update. That is wonderful news.

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    I am very glad to hear this ! It is truly wonderful news I wondered how things were going .
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    Very good news - prayers for an speedy recovery

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    I'm so glad you find all is well. Keep on with the regular follow-ups and don't hesitate to get help if you are concerned. I say this from practical experience - my wife is 2 years out from a serous bowel cancer operation and is on regular checks, they are a great reassurance. Good luck for the future.

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    So very happy for you and especially your wife. This news is great and it could not have come out better. I am sure both of you are smiling a whole lot more now and feel like you have each been given a new lease on life. Enjoy it.

    That said, she still has lot to deal with and she will need your continued support and love. The loss of a breast can cut very deep into a woman's psychological state. The medical issues are one thing; the psychological quite another. A good support group might be in order to help with that as there she can share her deeper feelings with other women who have gone through it. She might be reluctant to share those with you. But most of all she needs to see that you think of her in the same way as before all this happened. Love the person and not just the body.

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    Great news

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    That's wonderful news! My best wishes are with your wife and you. Brenda

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    So great to hear!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Leslie Langford View Post
    he told us that all of the cancer had successfully been removed
    That's awesome Leslie!

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    Hooray!

    This is the best of the best news we could have hoped for. :yippiee:
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    I am very happy for the both of you, continued good luck going forward!
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    Congrads and wishing both a long wonderful life together.
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    great news Leslie kind thoughts and prayers for you and your wife

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    This is great news for you and your wife. Like Gretchen says, she will still need support. Good luck to you two.

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    That is so great to hear! All the Best!!! I cant imagine how stressful its been for a of you lately.

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