Elbee, in my experience the ones who say “ok but why” are the ones dressed “to blend” (and usually a bit dumpy - I’m prepared for the negative comments about that!) and the smiles and compliments come from the GGs who put some effort into dressing nicely. I have one life to live, the opinions of others will not make or break my way of doing this. I have come to see that being a tiny, tiny minority works in my favour: I am unique and interesting and not simply a member of some marginalised group.