Maria, I agree with Shelly: I hope you make it clear to your wife what you DO do when you go on these drives while dressed. Dirty heels and a refilled gas tank prove that you got out of the car at some point, but that's perfectly normal and there's nothing wrong with it.
It's unfortunate that your wife seemed a little suspicious when you told her about the problem with your dress flying up after that coffee spill. But hey, these things happen! To women as well. It would be quite appropriate to turn this around on your wife and ask her: "Well, what would YOU do in that windy situation? Can you give me any tips to stay dignified?"
As for truckers looking at your legs while you're driving, that's something you can't avoid, except by wearing pants. So why not enjoy it?
It would be nice to think, as Candy said, that the numbers of "good" crossdressers could wash out the "bad" ones n the public mind. It's just unfortunate that it's the creepy or otherwise outrageous ones, like that example in the parking lot, who stand out in the public mind, while the majority of crossdressers do their best to "blend in" or at least "behave normally" and are therefore far less visible, while others are hiding completely. No wonder it takes an effort to gain recognition.
Finally as a matter of interest:
Originally Posted by
confused_cathreen
Let me make it clear: being in a public space showing off your underwear is illegal. It's called indecent exposure and you will be arrested.
I couldn't help feeling curious about this question. The nagging thought kept occurring to me: "But is it illegal to walk down the street in a halter top and bikini? And does that cover up any more than ordinary underwear does? As long as nothing is actually exposed..." So I looked it up, and findlaw.com had this to say:
...flashing one's underwear, no matter how revealing or skimpy, is usually not considered indecent exposure for purposes of most states' laws.
There's more information on that here: What Do the Courts Consider in Indecent Exposure Cases? So those guys who wear their pants so low you can see the tops of their underwear can't be arrested for it either. Even if some of them ought to be!
And while that person's behavior in the parking lot was in appalling taste to say the least, and offensive to many, it probably wasn't illegal either. (And why do it outdoors at night? Maybe she had to change in the car?) Possibly if she'd hiked up her skirt deliberately right in front of someone, she might be charged with some kind of offensive behavior--or soliciting for the purpose of prostitution. Other than that, I expect she could get away with what she was doing--she was trying to avoid being seen, after all--and the law permits her to dress as trashy as she likes. If you're in Canada, as you may be, it looks to me as if Canadian law would also let her get away with what she did.
Still, we should count our blessings. If the law is permissive, it's a darn sight better than living in many more restrictive times and places. Including those countries where women get arrested and even whipped for wearing "too short" a skirt or even pants. Or in 1852, when Emma Snodgrass was arrested in Boston for daring to wear pants. Bearing in mind the floor-length skirts of those days. it's as if there were something "indecent" about revealing that women actually had two legs above their feet! Here's to freedom!
- "Liberty Lori"