Reading an article it stated
The Cross-Dressers biggest Challenge is Acceptance. Be it loved ones, work ect.
I am hopeful that is changing
My question is regarding crossdressing what do you find as your biggest challenge?
Reading an article it stated
The Cross-Dressers biggest Challenge is Acceptance. Be it loved ones, work ect.
I am hopeful that is changing
My question is regarding crossdressing what do you find as your biggest challenge?
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My biggest challenge has always been self acceptance. That applies not only to crossdressing, but to most aspects of life. Kinda the “I’d never join a club that would have me as a member” syndrome.
Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.
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Di,
Believing you can do it and keep doing it , that was my biggest challenge going full time . Dressing to the nines for a few hours is one thing but it's a different matter from the moment you wake till the moment you slip back to bed at night and you've done every thing in femme mode .
I've had no problems with anyone I've told I was a crossdresser. A couple people in my family, my dad included, do not think it is right for a man to be wearing women's clothes, period. There are a few girls at my work, whom after I decided they were nice and would most likely be understanding, told them I was a crossdresser. They've all been supportive and do not look down on me.
As far as going out dressed up en femme, I am not quite ready for that, because I know most people will not accept it. However.... I did just recently come out for the first time, although I am not sure if this counts. I went to Scarborough Renaissance Festival and dressed up like a fair maiden. I did this because I knew that there were lots of men who dressed up as women at places like these, so I knew this was my opportunity to shine. I went with it, had fun, and not a single person judged me or even looked at me funny. Hopefully in the future I will be accepted when I go out in public in real clothes and not just a costume.
I did the same thing, only at the one in Houston. Went right before Halloween dressed as a witch. Had a great time. Although my wife wasn't pleased that I choose that outfit for the trip there. I should have changed once I got there instead of driving hours like that, although it's deeper than that.
I've been trying to wear more women's clothes as I work with few to no one around. Getting used to wearing a bra for the day. I wish I could just wear whatever I wanted when I wanted.
It used to be self-acceptance and all the guilt I carried for so many years.
After coming out to the wife and finding her fully accepting (after some time, tears and trials) I've been able to unburden myself and begin to love being me.
So, small as it may seem, right now my biggest challenge is eye makeup. My hand isn't that steady and I'm never satisfied with my outcome.
I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !
Cheryl and I have known each other...here...for a while. Where she succeeded and I failed is in building a relationship that could accomodate the person that she and I really are. Frankly, I admire what Cheryl and others have acheived in their relationsips and regret I could not do the same.
Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.
Eleanor Roosevelt
Initially it was self-acceptance.
then with therapy I feel better about me
Now it is acceptance with GG's I hope to date. Have not found a gg who is accepting.
Now besides gg, my biggest challenge it making my voice higher LOL
I'm not sure if this is a challenge or not and it may even need it's own thread. This whole lifestyle (for lack of better terms), seems to consume me. It's always on the forefront of my mind and I am constantly thinking of new things I could try. I sometimes feel/fear I am falling too deep in the rabbit hole.
- Robin
Because life is too short not to.
It's ironic ... I finally found a group of guys I fit in with. Funny how they all enjoy being one of the girls.
Wife: Why do you fold your panties? Me: I don't like my panties in a wad!
Self acceptance at this point.
It?s an odd feeling that feels like I?m not fully in control of myself.
I mean I got woken up at 3am with such strong urges that I ordered a pack of women?s underwear there and then.
And now I wonder why I did it.
When it comes to crossdressing, I am always challenged when searching for a dress that fits me perfectly. So, I look for skirt and blouse options but have very little coordination ability.
If I end up doing more than crossdressing, don't even get me started on makeup!
Weight loss is also becoming more challenging as I age.
Finding acceptance from a wife or an S/O.
I recently did some re-cluttering and came across a collection of old newspaper clippings that I had saved over the years of "Ann Landers" and "Dear Abby" columns dating back to the early 1990's that had dealt specifically with crossdressing. Yes, the writers were generally defending their "hobby" there and were seeking to educate both the columnists and the general public about it, but the overall theme invariably was sadness over their wives' non-acceptance and society's overall disdain for them.
To some extent we've made some progress in this area, but overall it's still the "same old, same old".
Self-acceptance was my biggest challenge also. To be fair, unlike some others, I don't have a strong urge to go out and mix socially, otherwise I might have other challenges to face! Still, in my earliest days of crossdressing I felt a lot of shame and embarrassment, despite being alone. I can't put this down to anything specific I was "taught" by society--that it's "wrong" for men to do this, that I'd be seen as "gay," or whatever. I can't say I was "taught" anything at all. It was just the simple knowledge that if anyone saw me doing it they'd think I was "weird," "crazy" or whatever, and I'd be ridiculed. I do believe acceptance by my wife later on helped to further self-acceptance. for which I'm naturally grateful.
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Reading over the responses here I have to agree that self acceptance was the biggest hurdle for me in the beginning. It certainly took a long time and then after I got past that was to come out to my wife. That went well in the beginning but sort of went backwards after a while. I have to say that has been my biggest challenge for the past 7.5 years.
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As a crossdresser, Self acceptance! Can I be the woman I want to be! A transformation proved that I could and here I am a trans woman! WOW! Who would have thought? LOL Hugs Lana Mae
Life is worth living!
"Foxy lady! You look so good!!" Jimi Hendrix
Self-acceptance, at least if I followed what I have been told of embracing it as a part of who I am, but if you ask me the same question in other circumstances, I'd say either that I don't know much of what can be good quality and what is better not to purchase.
To echo others, mine is self acceptance. I am a latecomer and am still learning. I am fortunate that my wife accepts, though does not understand. She is not a barrier to me. But I am. Even with her acceptance, I am still hesitant. That and my Covid beard will need to go in order to practice makeup.
Self acceptance was the first hurdle. The next mountain was my wife to accept this part of me. Two years after coming out to her I'm not sure where she stands or whether she even cares.
Di, do have a link to the article?
- Robin
Because life is too short not to.
It's ironic ... I finally found a group of guys I fit in with. Funny how they all enjoy being one of the girls.
Wife: Why do you fold your panties? Me: I don't like my panties in a wad!
Self acceptance and realizing I wasn't like any normal boy growing up liking to wear female clothing at times and later fulltime in my life.
I would say My biggest challenge is not to ruin my marriage!
"This is ME" I am not CRAZY, I'm just a GUY who likes dresses!
Since allot of men dress up in woman's clothing that makes it a manly thing to do!
Much more fun than fishing.
I do construction like house building and I love CD-ing, what's the difference?
Presenting as a feminine person while living 24/7/365 in fem has to be the toughest thing I had to do in controlling the masculine side, in my younger days.
Being made up cosmetic wise, more often, whenever I walked out the door.
It was not an option for me, back in the day, to look like a guy with breasts, I felt I had to be totally female.
I had a hard time doing things at the spur of the moment...I needed 10 minutes to check myself, change my outfit for the moment, perfume up, or make sure I take a purse with makeup and a razor.
Today is a bit different as I know what it takes and have only to dress to reminisce, in a 5 hour or less span.
Shopping, GNO's with friends, or just lounging at home.
Like Judy, trying not to ruin my marriage as "Husband First" is front and center.
Candice Coleen Kowal ....all my friends call me Candy!
Right now, it's having my wife turn off the TV or change the channel when ever there is anything at all to do with crossdressing.... Like tonight, 1/3 of the way through a Midsomer Murder episode (season 1, episode 2) and you can tell the guy that got murdered was a corssdresser... click.... sigh....
I appreciate very much everyone taking the time to answer.
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Hard question to answer as more "biggest challenges".
Self-acceptance is the top, but followed closely by anxiety when discussing CD needs and then makeup, which is still a hurdle.
Di,
That is a great question.
I think the answer changes over time.
I remember finding time to dress was the biggest challenge.
Then it was stepping out the door.
Telling family and so it continues until you find yourself in a happy position.
Self acceptance has always been the biggest, as it affects individuals at every stage of their journey no matter the destination.