Hello sisters,

Firstly, I want to be clear that I?m not meaning to open a can of worms about anything explicit. Just general medical questions. Secondly, I will be seeing my DR ASAP. But I just had a very difficult argument with my wife and it?s late so I feel restless about this and am reaching out here in the meantime.

So when I got married, I was 19 and deep in denial. I thought I was a cis straight man. She was also 19 and she is bi but has never really settled in with that fact she is deeply closeted. We are still married and trying. It?s hard and our future doesn?t look certain right now, but we love each other and we?re trying. Bc of the HRT I am not an effective top at all. This frustrates her. I think right now almost everything about me frustrates her. But this is the topic of the latest fight. I think she has every right to be frustrated. I didn?t intentionally deceive her about my identity, but I made a commitment to her before I had myself figured out. I plan eventually to have GRS but in the mean time, while I still have it, I would rather put it use to make her feel better. I?m fortunate to not have dysphoria around that part of me. I long to complete my journey with GRS one day, but for now I would be happier doing what i can than leaving her unhappy. It?s just that as i am now with HRT the spirit is willing to perform for her like I used to, but the body isn?t able. So I plan to ask my dr if viagra or something similar can be of any use while I?m on HRT and I?m curious if anyone else has had any experience with this. I?d just like to know if anyone has had a dr tell them if it?s an option and if so was it successful. Thank you for reading and responding.