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    For me, it was pantyhose and shoes. I first tried my mother's on was when I was about 11 years old. I loved the feel of the nylons against my legs and how well they made my legs look. But I enjoyed them even more with my mother's shoes, they looked so much better. Then I started trying on her outfits and some of my sister's clothes as well. But what really got my hooked was the first time, within the last month or so, I wore press on nails. I cannot explain how girly that made me feel. Now I am so anxious to add other accessories like jewelry and extremely anxious to get my makeover and wig. Is it January yet?!

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    Twas mesmerized by the beautiful women of the catalogs and at a n early age went to the laundry room and opened the dryer to my
    mother's bathing suit and felt compelled to wear it and suddenly felt beautiful, happy, wonderful and joyously free for the first time .

    The nightgown still has a special place for me.

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    Satin slips. My Mom stored her formal clothing in my room. Among them were satin slips from the 1950s. I was 3 at the time and loved going into the closet and feeling all the silky textures.

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    I was rather fixated on my neighbor's breasts which she showed off regularly wearing a halter top while working in the yard. Can I be forgiven for the fact when asked to babysit her young daughter when I was 12 years old, the first thing I did was rummage through her dresser drawers until I came upon her lingerie AND a bustier that fit my youthful body? I crossdressed with her lingerie the entire winter. A brassiere still gives me a thrill, including the one I'm wearing as I write this. I don't need to "dress" to enjoy wearing a brassiere when I go out shopping. My normal clothes hide both my very real breasts, the result of gynecomastia, and the brassiere with C cups that so lovingly holds them in place.
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    My mom had a "rag bag" which she had sown together using a heavy type of hanger. She kept every old sock, towel, washcloth, towel, etc. in that hanging bag. They were all just stuffed in there and she would often ask me to run up and grab a rag out of it when she was cleaning. One time I reached in and found something that felt "slick" and was folded neatly. I pulled it out and noticed it was on old pair of her panties and it made me have a tingle and something sparked in me. I suppose I was probably 8-9 at the time. I pushed it back into the bag, grabbed something else and ran down and gave it to mom. My mind couldn't get those "slick, silky, fancy panties" out of my mind. That night I remember going back in my closet and grabbing them and noticing there were quite a few that were neatly folded and placed off to the side in the "rag bag". I pulled them out, slipped out of my boy tighty whities and pulled them up and instantly I was hooked. They felt great and I will not deny they made me hard and excited me a lot. I then felt a bit of shame and slipped them off, folded them and put them back in the rag bag.
    Mom always worked outside of home and whenever I would be home alone, I would wear them and love how they felt and excited me. It then sparked me to look around in mom and dad's bedroom and there I found pantyhose, bras, and girdles. Mom was very slender and I never got much of a thrill out of her bras then, but pantyhose and girdles were always a thrill also. I was always careful and put things away like I found them. I would help with cleaning and laundry some and always noticed the panties, bras and girdles laying in a chair or hanging out over the open drawer in mom and dad's bedroom.
    My snooping around found a stack of porn mags in her closet and condoms in dad's dresser drawer. Part of me wonders if my mom staged the panties in the rag bag and her other undies for me to find? I never was caught wearing them, but I suspect my mom knew. Not much got by her.
    Now I have my own and love wearing them. I don't get the erections or sexual excitement out of them like I did when I was young, but a very satisfying feeling while wearing bras, panties, etc. (Sorry it was a bit long)

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    For me it was when I was 3. There was only girls to play with and they had a all girl party and wouldn't let me play. Till the old sister of the group said for me to put on her sisters cloths. Ruffle panties stain slip and a lace dress. From there on I knew I wanted to be a girl.
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    My mom used to leave her panties in the bathroom after taking a shower. When I was 9 or 10 I remember putting them on and wow! When I was a bit older on occasion I was alone and got into my mom?s dresser and found her girdle and bras. I was hooked.

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    A frilly petticoat of my mums...layer upon layer of lace ruffles. When I was younger it would skim the floor when I wore it. I loved walking around in it so much....I was hooked after that

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    First would have to be me oldest sisters panties. Most recently, clothes my SIL left here from when she lived with us. Her sizes are very close to my own.

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    The one I really liked, was the junior high cheerleader uniform; purple and white, oh-so-cute. Whenever I knew that it was going to happen, I always hoped for that one.

    So it wasn't exactly an accessory; more, I was dressed in my sister's friend's clothes by her older brother who was grooming me to be his sexual partner. I was 7 when it all started, and once he had me convinced that I was supposed to be a girl, the routine outfits he got for me were schoolgirl uniforms, the white top and tartan pleated skirts; the cheerleader uniform, and a little navy blue sailor girl dress. As I got older and taller, I started borrowing my own sister's older clothes that she didn't wear anymore, and by high school, she always had some really cute dresses which I knew as soon as I saw her wearing them, would eventually be mine.
    Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
    There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
    Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.

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    Pantyhose, its what ensnared me. For the longest time, L'eggs sheer energy suntan pantyhose. I remember that electric feeling. Things were never the same😊

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    Being a very sickly baby, I spent a lot of time in a satin baby dolls and abdomen bandages and diapers, coddled and often sleeping, resting, and watching, learning, in my parents bedroom while Dad was away for work.
    Mom was a major influence on how I dressed as I was very pampered.
    So I suppose Baby Doll sleepwear was a hook.
    I do know soft cup bras and my growing breasts really steered me to want to transition as soon as the government would allow.
    Cost and undeveloped tech on the subject caused a different path for me as I continue to wonder "what if" ....till this day.
    Soft Cup Bras continue to influence me as I feel so uncomfortable when I cannot wear one.
    It's always Husband first for me and that's okay, I have enough opportunities to be feminine and reminisce about my past.
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    Lipstick. My grandma sold cosmetics like Avon. I played with the samples when I was 5, haven't stopped since.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Debbie Denier View Post
    Tried my mums tights/pantyhose when I was 10 years old .The feeling was electric and I was hooked.Loved admiring my legs in the mirror. They felt so soft sheer and feminine . Progressed to her slips, then started purchasing my own items.When I was 17 . Stiletto shoes and panties next.Followed by a dress and fitted wig. subsequent guilt and purges followed. Marriage and kids and less opportunities.
    Exactly the same for me Debbie, 10 years old and my mum's pantyhose. I was in heaven wearing those things as a child and hardly a day would go by where I didn't sneak into her room to try them on and admire my smooth tanned legs and hips in her mirror. Looking back, I just used to stuff them into in her drawer when I was done, while hers were neatly rolled up in little bundles. She must have known, but she never said a word. Mums are great.

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    Very similar journey to you Wendy . I came out to my mum 10 years ago after wife discovered stash and made me dump everything. My mum was great had a fem wardrobe at her house. Used to visit at least twice a week to dress. She accepted everything but refused to refer to me as Debbie.She sadly passed away last year . I miss her badly along with the weekly dress ups.Oppertunities are now limited. But still wear tights most days even if only underdressed.

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    For me, it would have been when I was about 14, and I found (yes, found)
    a pair of floral-patterned nylon panties in our garden. I had no idea whose
    they were or how they got there, they weren't my mother's as they weren't
    what she would have worn. I suspect our dog had probably dragged them
    home from somewhere.

    Anyway, I snuck into one of our garden sheds and tried them on, no idea
    why, but I did. Had the usual pleasurable reaction one would expect from
    such an encounter, followed by shame and embarrassment - yada yada.

    But I kept them, and kept going back for more. And here we are...
    Last edited by Wendy-Lyn; 12-08-2021 at 12:14 AM.

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    PANTYHOSE!!! The feeling I got from my waist down to my toes was electric. I became a pantyhose junkie😊

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    Quote Originally Posted by Josephine_A View Post
    Hi everyone - relatively new to dressing. I always wonder what attracted you to dressing? What was that article of clothing, shoes or outfit that when you tried it on you knew dressing was for you?

    For me, I used to dress in middle school and high school wearing my mom?s clothes. To this day, I have no recollection of what made me even try on her clothes, I do have a very vivid recollection of the first time I slipped on her pantyhose and the feeling of that silk rolling up my legs and seeing how it transformed my legs and feet making them smooth and feminine, I was instantly hooked. I stopped dressing cold turkey when I went to college and then, mid 40?s hit 3 years ago and I was going through a really difficult time at work I just got this overwhelming desire to roll some pantyhose up my legs and admire myself and so I did. Now I?m fully dressing and loving it. But it was the pantyhose that brought me back. Is there a gateway accessory or clothing for you that brought you into this life?
    the same as you i would dress up in my mothers dresses, but when a few years ago i had the urge to buy high heels and when i wore them for the first time i was hooked! love high heels!

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    P~A~N~T~Y~H~O~S~E !!!
    Between my Mom's pantyhose in the clothes-hamper, and all the nylons my grandma had around her house, there was no hope for me. I was bound to be a girl one way or another......LOL
    So I like dressing like girl. BIG DEAL!

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    Bra's, panties, and nylons

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    In June 2012, I walked into a Payless for brown dress shoes. The mens shoes were in the same aisle as the large sized womens shoes. I sat down and tried the brown shoes, but they were ugly. My heart was pounding when I noticed that I was sitting next to black size 13 pumps. I looked around and then tried them on. I bought them and since then, I've called shoes the "gateway drug"!

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    Long story short, Josephine: my "gateway" was my mother's skirt.

    My story is in some ways like many others'--though not entirely. I started dressing at 12 or 13 because I found it arousing. Embarrassed at first by my urges, I eventually grew to accept myself, and like other "fetish dressers," discovered it wasn't all about the "sexual fetish" aspect, and I really do have a feminine side that I enjoy expressing as well by dressing.

    The difference is that most fetish dressers seem to be initially attracted to one or more specific "fetish garments." Naturally these are usually what department stores call "intimate apparel," panties being top favorite of course, but including nylons and other items of underwear, heels and anything uniquely feminine and regarded as "sexy." Many fetish dressers have said they only slowly proceeded from there over the years to dressing fully--if indeed they have.

    For me it wasn't quite like that. I found my mother's skirt lying around one evening where she'd casually left it after changing to go out with my father. Seeing it there, so feminine with a pretty blue floral pattern, II couldn't resist trying it on. Zipping it up around my waist, I found it intensely exciting, and soon reached satisfaction. I was hooked.

    From there, however, I didn't waste time. Very quickly I wanted to dress completely in women's clothing and women's underwear. I wanted the whole package: bra, girdle, nylons and panties, slip, skirt and blouse or a dress. Luckily my mother's shoes fit me too at that young age. I loved doing it.

    Like many other crossdressers, I admit I found her silky panties most deliciously exciting of all, though everything was exciting in a way. What I've wondered about is this. Since I found her panties so exciting, why didn't I start with those instead? Would I have gone in search of them spontaneously to try them on? As it happened, I didn't. Perhaps we all need a "trigger," a visual stimulus to get us started. If I'd seen a pair of her panties casually lying around, would I have tried those on instead of her skirt? Maybe. Yet it's not as if I hadn't seen her panties before among the clean laundry, where they should have been just as tempting.

    So I think the skirt was a significant trigger for me as the outward and visible symbol of femininity. What was exciting for me was not just individual items, even panties, but the whole idea of looking and feeling like a girl. And the fantasy of having sex in a female role--though it would have to be "lesbian" sex with other girls. So I don't think it was an accident that a skirt, rather than panties, was what got me started. I still love to wear a skirt or dress.

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    When I first tried on pantyhose I was hooked and wanted to try on different kinds of women's clothing.

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    For me it was feet! First a foot fetish then shoes! I put them on a n bam ! Progressed to stockings panties slip make up a dress

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