Older Crossdressers

[Debbie Denier]

After joining this forum .I was pleasantly surprised at how many older members there were. In the age group 50 60 70 and beyond (being in my 50s myself. )Some CD since childhood. Some new to CD at a later age. When I was 21 a fellow CD at the support group I attended informed me she wanted to quit CD when she reached old age as did not want to be like a fading movie star. I wonder what others on the forum think about this.Personally I think age is only a number and long may we continue. I abstained for many years due to marriage kids etc. However it came back with a vengeance.I Also believe in inclusivity for all ages.

[Kris Burton]

Debbie...I think about this, maybe too much, but a lot less since addressing my CD tendencies at last. I think age is age, and my body feels that every day. However, CDing has, among many other things, allowed me to beat back those years quite a lot. I have a lot of regrets about my early adult years, time lost, time wasted on useless pursuits both of a professional and personal nature. I'd love to get that time back, take paths I should have taken but denied myself, but that's impossible. Finally admitting to my own CD desires has opened up for me a whole new outlook at the future, and I look forward to the times ahead with the mindset of a much younger person. I no longer am haunted by past regret, as I now explore things I should have long ago. I choose to dress as a woman at least 30 years younger than I actually am, and for the time I am in that mode, I feel I am. So, I don't feel like a fading movie star at all, I feel more like my star is rising. In spite of how I might feel physically, when I see Kris looking back at me in the mirror, it always makes me feel vibrant, very much alive and yes, younger. No way I'd even think of stopping now!

[Sherrii]

Clint Eastwood said in his Playboy Interview many years ago "Some people are old before their time because they think old". Agree with you Debbie, don't "think old". Sherrii

[Paula_56]

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[Angela Marie]

Coming up on 68 in a few months. I have no plans to stop dressing.

[StacyG]

I just turned 52 and have been undersdressing for 40 years. Now with the house to my self and i work alone I'm buying the types of outfits I've always wanted. Who knows, maybe wigs and makeup next. I feel like I'm just getting started.

[Linda K.]

I guess I would like to add this to the conversation. Am I getting older physically? Yes. But I think younger. I don't think like kids today do, this is their time. I think like when I was younger, when I was in my 20's. But there is one lesson I learned over the years, you have to be able to laugh! But even more important, you have to be able to laugh at yourself.

I wore this hat I got when I was in the military, it's a cold weather hat that has fur on it and the "ears" flip down with a chin strap that snaps to the other earflap. I took a picture of myself wearing this with the earflaps sticking out to the sides and making a goofy looking face at the same time, kind of a Red Green moment. You Canadians will understand that one. I thought it was pretty funny and shared it with the president of the company I work for to give him a laugh too. He asked if he could use it in the monthly safety briefings about preparing for the cold weather, I said sure. My immediate supervisor came up to me one day and asked me if I was sure about this, because a lot of people were going to see this and know it was me. I looked him in the eye and said, "Terry, if you can't laugh at yourself, what can you laugh at?" I guess it was my way of saying, relax and enjoy life. People know my work ethic, now they can know my sense of humor. Does this mean I am immature, not at all. It just means I can find humor in all things, and when you can do that, you can find the good in those things as well. Stay happy, stay young, and laugh!!

[gwencd158]

59 here. Still going strong. I remember as a little kid, maybe I was 7 or so, seeing a man checking out in front of my mother with dresses. And I thought to myself, will that be me? I knew from my very first memories who I was. I don’t see myself ‘retiring’ from my little hobby. It’s been with me since birth and will be till the end. And no, I personally don’t want to be buried in heels haha.

[JustJennifer]

When I was in my late 20's I "quit" for good and purged everything simply because I felt like I was getting too old for it. My body was getting bulkier and harrier, and I just didn't like what I was seeing in the mirror. I believed then that crossdressing was a game for only the young, and I didn't want to be that faded old queen in the outdated dress.

The urge never goes away though. And like a lot of other people here, I just decided one day that it didn't matter that I was getting old. This is the only life I have, and I want to live it the way I wish. I'll never be that cute young girl again, but I can still occasionally be the woman she grew up to be. She isn't faded or outdated. Just older. Like me.

[Stephanie47]

I'm 74. I'm no longer a spring chicken. My body shows signs of aging. My face is not that of a 20 year old. My son was over last night to pick something up and he gave me hell for climbing a ladder to hang Christmas lights from the peak of the house; something about "acting my age." Heck, I'm not dead yet. All a guy has to do is look around at the women of an advancing age. What do you see? Probably the same thing you see when you look at women in their 20's, 30's, 40's, etc. Some women, just like men, take no pride in how they look. They look like they just rolled out of bed. Their bodies show a total lack of care over the years. When I do have the opportunity to be totally en femme it's still a pretty dress, heels and hosiery. I am of the opinion whatever is making me tick is not going to turn off at a certain age. No light switch. I suspect it is going to follow me into the hereafter.

[Daryl]

Dabbled in it all my life. Am 82 now and when I went fulltime at 65 when I
retired have enjoyed every minute of it.

[Sometimes Steffi]

T minus 36 days (until I'm 70).

My wife is a little over 4 years older than me. With a little lie (of 2 weeks) she thought I was only 3 years older than her. If she had known it was a 4 year difference back then when I was 22, she might never have gone out on a date with me. As i;ve seen her age so quickly over the last 4 years, I see Father time coming up behind me very quickly.

[Lori Ann Westlake]

I agree with you, Debbie. It's nice to know how many of our members have been crossdressing for so many years. I'm older than you are, but as long as I still enjoy it, I have no intention of giving it up!

My son was over last night to pick something up and he gave me hell for climbing a ladder to hang Christmas lights from the peak of the house; something about "acting my age." Heck, I'm not dead yet.

This reminds me of Lewis Carroll's famous poem You Are Old, Father William, which begins:

"You are old, father William," the young man said,
"And your hair has become very white;
And yet you incessantly stand on your head--
Do you think, at your age, it is right?"

"In my youth," father William replied to his son,
"I feared it would injure the brain;
But now that I'm perfectly sure I have none,
Why, I do it again and again."

[ziggie]

I'm now 71 and have been underdressing to some extent for almost 40 years. Recently the urge has increased and I have increased my androgynous wardrobe as well as my level general female attire around home. We will see where it goes from here.

[MarinaTwelve200]

There was MORE sexual DIMORPHISIM back when we were growing up. Perhaps that is why there are so many of us. James A. Mitchner, the late great author of many epic travel books makes such an observation in "Caravans" about his adventures in Afghanistan. Where there was a class of men who dressed as women often seen with regular men walking together in the street. This was not necessarily a "Gay" thing but made up for the otherwise LACK of women outside the home. Mitchner attributed this to the high cultural degree of "Sexual Dimorphisim" (differences between males and females). He noticed there was more CDing in countries where the dress and appearances between men and women varied greatly from each other, than in other regions where the men and women were more alike.-------I'm 72, BTW, but I don't think I look it.

[Liz Jones]

There was MORE sexual DIMORPHISIM back when we were growing up. Perhaps that is why there are so many of us. James A. Mitchner, the late great author of many epic travel books makes such an observation in "Caravans" about his adventures in Afghanistan. Where there was a class of men who dressed as women often seen with regular men walking together in the street. This was not necessarily a "Gay" thing but made up for the otherwise LACK of women outside the home. Mitchner attributed this to the high cultural degree of "Sexual Dimorphisim" (differences between males and females). He noticed there was more CDing in countries where the dress and appearances between men and women varied greatly from each other, than in other regions where the men and women were more alike.-------I'm 72, BTW, but I don't think I look it.

I for one agree with you !

[Mermaiden]

There are so many of us over 60 CDers. Does AARP offer discounts on breast forms?🥝😉

[Teri Ray]

I am just over 67 and have been laughing at myself my whole life. I agree with others here that having humor in your life is a healthy attitude. Being born with this crossdressing desire just provides more reason to keep smiling.

[Lana Mae]

Transwoman at 65! Enjoying life and now am 70! Hugs Lana Mae

[Sandi Beech]

I guess I am really lucky because even though I am in my 60s, I have been able to pass for much younger. Of course I use every little trick I can find. Example: look on Amazon for a product called instant face lift. It actually works. It took a number of outings before I realized people thought I was very much younger so I am not complaining about my age other than wishing I could get an eyelid lift. I dress well below my age, but it has worked out just fine for me. I do have one other secret trick. When I go out clubbing, I try to get a 1 hour nap in the early evening. That is the only way I can keep up with these youngsters who party until 2 to 3 AM ; )

Sandi

[Cheryl T]

Well since I fall into this category I might as well chime in.
I may be getting older, but as far as I am concerned I'm getting better with age, just like a fine wine. My skills have been refined, my fashion sense has developed and I've found the styles that suit my mood, my body and my appearance. I'm at a point where I have all the time in the world to be me, so unlike my youth where there were moments here and there. I have also developed my confidence as a woman and no longer worry about others who may stare or comment.
Will all this change with time? I'm sure things will change, they always do. Will I continue dressing and expressing the me I love so dearly? Yes, until I can no longer do for myself. When that day comes and I can no longer enjoy the process and the experience then I will stop, just as I will stop other things in my life that I will no longer physically be able to do.
Until that day ...

[Phoebe Reece]

I'm 71 and still dressing and going out in public in a dress, hose, and heels. I try to present as a classy older woman. Whether I pass or not is no issue for me. I am accepted as what I appear to be and am treated with respect. I plan to keep doing it until it's no longer fun. I have a CD friend of similar age who no longer dresses. For my friend it's stopped being fun. I know of a few more that have quit as well. I can't predict the future, but there may come a time in my life when it's simply more trouble than it's worth. It won't be at any particular age. I don't see that happening anytime soon though, as long as my health is good.

[Karren H]

I refuse to get old! Maybe a little vintageish. sigh

[kimdl93]

Yeah, I feel the passage of time and have the same questions about my future that I had a decade ago. Maybe the same questions I will be facing a decade into the future, assuming I am still around.

[Kitty Sue]

I just turned 50. I don't mind growing old.