When I joined this group, I used an email I rarely use (a gmail.com account) and is tied to my cell phone. A few days ago, I received an email from this site. However, I was out of the house without my phone. When I got home, my wife said to me, "You got a notification on your phone while you were gone. What is crossdressers.com?" She apologized for looking at my phone; but, thought it may have been concerning a closing on a home we had sold and were due to close on the next day. I told her that looking at my phone wasn't an issue as I have no secrets. She can look at it at any time without feeling guilty as I don't care at all. I then explained to her that cd.com is a forum for men and women crossdressers and is intended as a support group. We can share our experiences, ask questions, and learn how others have dealt with some of the stigma and unacceptance of cross dressing. I told her that crossdressing is more often than not a lonely journey because it is something we (crossdressers) don't openly share with family and friends for fear of rejection. She had no issue with that at all and in the course of the conversation said she thought she was accepting of my cross dressing. I must admit, she is to the degree we are both sitting in our family room right now with me underdressed including my DD cup breast forms under my golf shirt (which show quite nicely I must admit) and she has no particular issue with it. I wear them, a bra, panties, and stockings to bed every night. The only thing she's not comfortable with at this point is me strutting around the house, and lounging around, with my lingerie in full view. I have fallen asleep in my recliner at night in full lingerie mode and she's awaken me to tell me to come to bed. So, she does see me like that.
Anyway, that email has helped ever so slightly in opening the door of communication just a bit more. As she has done one time, I did ask that if we were expecting anyone at the house, or we were going anywhere, and my bra and inserts (not breast forms) were obvious to please let me know so I could take corrective action. She assured me she would. The bottom line is she's much more accepting than I had thought she would be; but, I'm hoping with time we'll get to the point where I can wear whatever I want around the house when we're alone. As it is, I'm blessed to have her being as understanding as she is. Actually, today she called me into her sewing room about something. As we were discussing whatever it was, she flipped her hand in the air and firmly (although inadvertently) hit my left breast form. She looked at it and then at me and then said, "Oh, that's your padded bra." That was it. I got the impression it's not a big deal and is now seen as commonplace. As Gtor61 mentioned in her thread, small victories mean a lot.