Does it feel normal and natural to you?

[Heather76]

Since I've started underdressing pretty much 24/7, it has struck me why I like cross dressing so much. Wearing bras/bralettes, breast forms, panties, stockings, and garters simply feels normal and natural. My wife, while not a fan, has come a long way in her acceptance. Today, while completely underdressed including a bra and my DD cup breast forms, she didn't hesitate at all giving me a tight embrace that smashed my breast forms to her breasts. Even at our age, we still enjoy deep kisses (or swapping spit as we call it - lol!!) and she is good to go with that while I'm wearing the breast forms. I've no idea right now if she is at the point where my wearing is becoming natural and normal to her; but, I know it is for me. Earlier today, I had to go out to a store. Since the breast forms would be noticeable, I removed them and placed my silicone inserts in the bra cups. I just needed something in there to remind me of the girl that's in me.

Anyway, I'm curious how many cross dressers (not M2F trans woman) feel this same way. Or, do most tend to feel as though they are doing something that, while enjoyable and fun, isn't normal and/or natural?

[ziggie]

I think I fall in the normal/natural camp. I mostly underdress so it is not difficult to go about my daily activities and become completely oblivious to my dressing. Only when I am wearing breast forms do I have a sense that I've gone beyond natural.

[Gillian Gigs]

In the early days after the dirty deed was done I couldn't get undressed fast enough. As I started to accept my quirks, I progressively moved towards wearing all forms of lingerie all of the time. Now, it feels so totally normal, I rarely think about it anymore. Being honest with myself, I now prefer and want it that way, because I love wearing the clothes.

[JennyMay]

The word I would use is that it feels ‘right’. I wear the clothes that are correct for me. I had to go to the doctors recently and wore my one pair of emergency underpants. I couldn’t wait to change when I got home as it felt so odd and uncomfortable.

[Heather76]

I had to go to the doctors recently and wore my one pair of emergency underpants. I couldn’t wait to change when I got home as it felt so odd and uncomfortable.

I have a doctor's appointment on Tuesday with a doctor I've never seen before at the VA facility I've just been assigned to due to our recent move. Because I will be asking for a referral to the VA's LGBTQ+ program, I plan to wear panties (I own no male underwear) and a bralette with inserts. Well after making the decision to wear the bralette I learned the doctor I will see is a female. She will be the first person to learn of my crossdressing aside from my wife. I expect to be a bit nervous; but, that's okay.

Jenny, would it be so terrible for your doc to know you like to wear panties? I guess if you know your doctor on a social level outside his/her medical practice, it could be awkward. But, if the only time you see the doc is during appointments, why not go for it?

[Jenni6521]

Heather, great question. I do this out of respect for my wife, she is the practice administrator of the medical practice that I go to. I would think what did not bother me, would probably mortify her. I am sure that my NP would keep this to herself, but even then I would not want to do something to bother my wife.

[Marissa Q]

Anything exciting I've ever done in my life has never felt 'normal' and that includes crossdressing. Exciting? Provocative? Contentious? Most definitely. Sometimes I think that I wouldn't want it to be otherwise. To exist is to stand out; that's life's deepest command. And although my dressing is for the most part closeted, even alone I feel the power of standing out and transcending even my own versions of "normal".

In retrospect I think it's safe to say that I don't really feel "natural" at either end of the traditional binary, yet I rarely feel confused about it. For me, any "naturalness" that occurs is a direct by-product of how "natural" it feels to slide between dual manifestations of gender. Some can quip that I'm simply non-committal, but I have to say I've grown rather comfortable in that undefinable space in-between.

[Heather76]

I have a doctor's appointment on Tuesday with a doctor I've never seen before at the VA facility I've just been assigned to due to our recent move. Because I will be asking for a referral to the VA's LGBTQ+ program, I plan to wear panties (I own no male underwear) and a bralette with inserts. Well after making the decision to wear the bralette I learned the doctor I will see is a female. She will be the first person to learn of my crossdressing aside from my wife. I expect to be a bit nervous; but, that's okay.

The best laid plans............................go awry. I received a phone call from the VA yesterday informing me my doctor has some meetings in the afternoon on the 15th and will be out of town all day. Thus, my appointment has been moved to March 12th. That's really not a problem for me; but, it delays my referral to the LGBTQ+ program by a month. I'm hoping that meeting with the doctor heading up this program will give me a better insight in how to deal more effectively with my wife. I would like so much to be sitting here right now fully dressed rather than only underdressed. She knows I'm underdressed. It's not an issue. While she is accepting that I cross dress, she doesn't really want to see me dressed.

[MarinaTwelve200]

Nope-----It's not the point to feel "normal" when you are an "Escapist". The idea is to get AWAY from one's male self and become someone else entirely. a complete detachment.------And then totally relax and "UNWIND" away from my own personal worries and the stress and bother of "Manhood" as well.-----Not to mention the sheer fun of simply "Feeling pretty". But then, different people may cross dress for different reasons, some entirely opposite.

[missjoann49]

For me, It's who I am and who I was meant to be

[Karren H]

Yeah! Normal, but not wearing forms. I do not even know where my old forms are and anyway they are smaller than my breasts are now. Having large breasts has become my new normal. The ultimate reminder!

[sometimes_miss]

Yes, girl clothes just feel normal, and boy clothes feel like a costume. Even day to day behavior, I feel like I'm acting out the part of a 'standard issue guy' whenever dressed in male clothing, and I get by, by looking at my boy clothes as my 'man uniform' that I have to wear to do work or tasks which I wouldn't want to do in a dress. But I of course change back to myself, in something pretty, as soon as the 'job' is over.

[NancySue]

Natural? Absolutely. For those rare times I don?t wear panties, a bra and hose, it feels very unnatural. As indicated in another thread, I have both a cup bras and b cup bras and all my bras are underwires. I fill an a cup quite nicely and mostly fill a b cup. I love everything about bras, strap adjustments, bending over scooping, and hand washing. Yes, I?ve received a few glances, but have also received some smiles.

[Aka_Donna]

Not yet and it's been many years. Within the hour of dressed, then it feels comfortable, but the first half hour can be a mixed bag of feelings and thoughts.

[GaleWarning]

I am another who is free to dress as I like on a daily basis. It's completely normal and comfortable. I am happy.

[Lori Ann Westlake]

We're all so very different here! Speaking for myself alone, I can't say that wearing panties, or especially a bra, "feels normal," so much as it feels deliciously different from wearing male clothes. Even wearing women's pants over nylons feels wonderfully different from wearing ordinary men's pants over bare legs. To me, wearing women's clothes together does have a "consistent" feeling, a bra under a pretty blouse, top, or dress for instance, to give me "breasts." However, I myself don't "underdress." That to me feels "abnormal," especially with a bra. I have no problem with being male and dressing as one, but I'd rather be "all Larry" or "all Lori" at any given time. Mixing the two together seems to me to dilute and spoil the enjoyment of either. I keep meaning to start a thread about that to see how other members feel.

[Erin Lafleur]

We're all so very different here! Speaking for myself alone, I can't say that wearing panties, or especially a bra, "feels normal," so much as it feels deliciously different from wearing male clothes. Even wearing women's pants over nylons feels wonderfully different from wearing ordinary men's pants over bare legs. To me, wearing women's clothes together does have a "consistent" feeling, a bra under a pretty blouse, top, or dress for instance, to give me "breasts." However, I myself don't "underdress." That to me feels "abnormal," especially with a bra. I have no problem with being male and dressing as one, but I'd rather be "all Larry" or "all Lori" at any given time. Mixing the two together seems to me to dilute and spoil the enjoyment of either. I keep meaning to start a thread about that to see how other members feel.

I agree 100% Lori. I've been confined to under dressing these past few months and while it helps to scratch the itch somewhat, it's just nowhere near the same. I prefer to be one or the other myself (preferably, the other)! I've had to satisfy my urges by buying a good deal of lingerie, stockings, skirts, blouses, new wig, heels etc and have so far been limited to trying everything on for fit and then storing away. Truly frustrating to say the least. I'm really looking forward to dressing completely and freely very soon...

[Krisi]

I dress often enough that it does feel normal to have long hair, breasts and an enhanced hips and butt. I could live like this if it were not necessary to go out in public. I even went to the grocery store a couple weeks ago wearing everything but my wig but it was very cold outside so I (and everyone else) was all bundled up in coats, hats and gloves. The coat is bulky and loose enough to conceal the boobs and larher hips. I did wear the wig while driving to and from the store.

As for my wife, when she comes home and I'm dressed, she says nothing and we go about our day so I suppose it's becoming normal for her as well.

[abby054]

No. This may be normal and natural for some, whatever those words may mean, but for me, this is neither normal nor natural.
- My femme name is Abby. I defiantly own what my wife calls me, Abby-Normal.
- It is not natural to engage in behavior that some may consider mentally ill and unbalanced for the purpose of restoring mental health and balance.

[MostlyMK]

I dress about 2 days/week, head-to-toe. It's hard to say it feels "normal" when it actually feels like stress relief. Am I comfortable in femme clothing? Yes. I'm also comfortable in male clothes. But I certainly still notice I feel different on those femme days.

[Kris Burton]

Given my home situation, dressing seems "normal" and "natural" in that, although mostly a solo act, I don't have to sneak around and feel guilty as if I'm doing something perverted or wrong. But "normal" and "natural" as in commonplace or everyday - never! - and I hope it never becomes that. Dressing is way too much fun for me and I hope never to lose the sensual/emotional high that it brings.

[AndreaXD67]

I have only been dressing a week or so, and yes it feels natural, I live alone so can dress all day in house if i wish, which i do

[Jolene Robertson]

It feels quite normal to me but I've worn panties 24/7 for 30 years, my ears pierced and either trouser socks or knee highs and a shoulder length wig for as long. For the last 10 years mostly ladies slacks and shoes. So other than being fully dressed with makeup I am usually a blend anyway. I dress when I want but not everyday as when I dress I like the makeup and everything which takes more time than I want to put into it sometimes. It all has started to feel just normal to me but still exciting at the same time. I've had these feelings for years and never expressed them and it's so fulfilling to finally be able to just be me. Having a spouse that supports is the biggest thrill and if not for her I'd still be in the closet and suppressing most of those feelings I'm sure.

[Connie D50]

Heather I'm with you 100% it does feel normal and natural to me.

[Geena75]

I'm not sure how to respond, generally wondering what do I wear that does feel "normal" or "natural"? I spend so little time dressed (or underdressed) that I couldn't say it does. What I can say is that it feels comfortable and familiar -- and enjoyable.