I have been lurking here for a few weeks, but created an account this morning.
I am 55, married with 2 grown children, my elder, 26 year old son, is actually still living at home with us.
I started cross dressing at 5 or 6. My Mom kept some overflow clothes of hers in my bedroom closet. One day from boredom, I put on a skirt. I told my Mom about it and she promptly moved the clothes elsewhere. My parents divorced when I was in 2nd grade. I have 2 older sisters who when they went to college and my then single Mom was working to support us, meant I came home from school every day to an empty house full of women?s clothes that fit me. It was a daily activity and when I learned about masturbation it was while wearing a nightgown.
Well, you can imagine the pull it has on me. I didn?t have much opportunity or cause to dress from college on, but reasonably early in my relationship with my wife, I told her all about it. In fact, other than this post, I have never told any other living sole my secret other than her.
Now I have to mention that my wife and I differ fairly dramatically in stature. For the past 30 years my only opportunity has been HER clothes which don?t really fit and takes away a lot of the joy for me, plus she understandably doesn?t want me damaging her clothes.
Recently she was dress shopping online for a dress for a family wedding and they didn?t have her size for one she really liked. I told her to get the bigger size anyway(since she could return it via AmAzon with no hassle). It was big on her, but it fit me well. This was about 5 weeks or so ago. Well, the pink fog has settled in on me and returned with vigor. Seeing myself in a dress that fit was glorious again. I even knocked off work a little early one day to parade in front of the mirror with it, the day before she needed to return it.
At the time she had a couple of other dresses she had ordered to try and I couldn?t fight the urge to put them on, when she was trying them in, too. Of course only the one fit well, but it started a bigger discussion between us. We were out physically shopping for her dress in various department stores, including heels she wanted to buy and we walked by a display that had a pair of size 12s and she laughed and said those could fit, YOU! I took my shoe off, put my foot in one, stood on it for a second. Interesting.
That weekend she agreed to take some measurements and we went shopping on Amazon. She agreed to order a pair of nice 3? heels for me ( I had NEVER tried on heels before) and I have really enjoyed learning to walk in them. Also 4 dresses, 2 mid length and two longer, none being all that expensive. At the time she was reluctant to feed the beast, but was considerate to me and let me scratch my itch. They have been fun, and I have rekindled the bug. That was when I found this sight and a few ordering website and have been lurking ever since.
Well finally, here is the point of my post, assuming anyone has read this far. I have never done a wig (well, not true, my Mom had one boring one when I was a youth, that I used rarely) and actually have a fitting appointment at a local establishment that is receptive to CDs ( though certainly not their main clientele). The thing is because of COVID, they are still operating out of their house. Now I have never done makeup (again, my sister?s eye shadow as a youth once or twice, only) nor do I have the courage or strength to even THINK about going out in public. I am tall and lots of body hair, BUT I wanted to get a decent wig for home and to get professional assistance and see what I look like.
So tonight, I spilled my shared with my wife about the appointment and she kind of freaked out. She started projecting and asking what is the point? I couldn?t really give her a satisfactory answer as to why I was accelerating this all so fast when it has been out of site, out of mind for decades (to her). In reality maybe monthly to every few weeks in bursts here and there, but again only in her ill fitting clothes. She really is understanding and we have talked about CD in general a few times in the past and most recently before the big purchases. She understands it in general, but harder to accept from me, but then she feels guilty for being my buzzkill. However, this is moving too far, too fast for her.
I really want to keep the appointment, but will agree not to buy the forms, corsets, and accessories that I was planning to order on Monday. Oh yeah, the reason for all this is my son will be out of town part of this week and this weekend so I thought it was a good opportunity for me. I would be petrified for him, or any family member or neighbor or co_worker or anyone (short of the wig store owner) to find out about my cross dressing. In fact it took a LOT for me to even create an account here and make this post.
Sorry for the long story. I know it will be TLDR for most, but I had to vent somewhere. Not sure what our compromise will be, but tonight AFTER excellent marital relations (son was at work), was when I sprung my plans/purchases with her and she requested I not go forward with them and to phase back.
She is projecting where this could lead and even though I can?t really ever seeing myself passing or even blending and thus, never going out dressed, I can?t guarantee it couldn?t happen and bottom line to her if if you are always at home, what is the point of a wig or makeup. I couldn?t accurately defend that position. We are both working through our emotions and feelings as a moving target. I can?t help but feel that this site has been both a blessing and maybe a curse, realizing the big broad spectrum of CDs out there. To be clear I enjoy my life as a male and have NO desire to change that, but I do enjoy the feeling of wearing women?s clothes and how it makes me feel. I think I enjoy the trying them on and preening in front of the mirror more than anything. I typically ?finish? and immediately take everything off and put it back away, so me dressing sessions generally aren?t real long.
Boy, I have really written a novel here and have spilled my guts for a first post!
Thanks for anyone that actually read all this.