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    A happy turn of events

    This is a report of spouse acceptance, not earth shattering, but with all the terrible news out there, it has resulted in my happiness getting a real boost and thought I?d share.

    A week or so ago I summoned enough gumption to again talk to my wife about my crossdressing and how not being able to share with her leaves me isolated, and also emphasized I love her and am forever committed to her nonetheless. She responded with things she?s been feeling and it was a good honest talk.cool. Then a few days later she returns from doing errands with a cute blouse and very girly jeans for me. I of course immediately put them and she was completely ok. A few days later we were shopping and walked by a simple blue dress, not too showy, and she saw me glance at and suggested I get it. She still doesn?t want to see me with fake boobs, or even a bra, but this is a big step forward. I?m not going to push things and will stay within her comfort zone. But this feels like real acceptance and a leap forward in our relationship.
    Hope everyone else has a happy day.

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    Mermaiden,

    That is a cool positive step forward. Despite the fact I am able to be out and about at times when I travel, I would trade that in a minute for some level of spousal acceptance. At least I think I would. Anyhow that must be a good feeling so make sure you let her decide what she is comfortable with.

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    if you have been solid DADT up to this point, this sounds like a real breakthrough. As Frank Zappa said: "A mind is like a parachute, It does not work unless it is open." It appears the good honest talk you had led to the opening of minds and mutual understanding. Good things may well be on the way.

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    That is a wonderful breakthrough for you both, Congrats!
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    Wonderful news! Good for you! Hugs Lana Mae
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    Mermaiden,

    In the beginning, I was only allowed panties and lingerie. My wife okayed shorts at the end of summer last year. A month or so ago, we were out shopping and I was looking at a top trying to decide if I would want it if I was allowed. We moved on to another rack and my wife says, "If you knew your measurements, we would know if one of those tops fit you." I said, "You mean like these?" and showed her that I had them on my phone. She chuckled and walked away. She came back a couple minutes later and said, "The white one will fit you if you want it." I was floored! I ended up not buying it because it was just so so and I wanted to be in love with my first one.

    Bottom line is, she has now bought me 2 dresses and says I can wear them around the house when the kids are not home. When we are shopping, she has started giving me pointers on what would look good on me or not. Same as you, I'm not going to push for more, like shoes, purses, makeup and accessories. I look at them when we walk by, and I know she sees me doing it because I have caught her watching me as I do it. I'm hoping at some point she will wander in to those sections and start giving pointers on them like she now does on dresses.

    Stephanie

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    Know where you are headed and be sure your wife knows as well - sounds like she is great

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    That is great, Mermaiden,

    Communication is a wonderful thing! Just my opinion but - it seems that by you opening up and sharing your feelings with her was a bigger boost to her acceptance than if you lied and hid things from her.

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    I concur this is a step towards acceptance. I think this is more than acceptance of the husband, it is an acceptance of the woman's self, if that makes sense. Once you get past all the "Is he gay?" "Does he want to transition to a woman?" etc, IMHO, it really becomes the problem of the wife. Can she accept a man outside the societal norms and expectations that has this little quirk? Will society judge her harshly for accepting her husband's quirk? It seems most of the time it seems to become some shared terrible secret.

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    Definite progress. Be patient?perhaps things will continue to improve.

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    Congratulations Mermaiden. Things for you are moving in the right direction.

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    Congratulations Mermaiden. Steps in the right direction for both of you.
    So many new things to learn

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    Fantastic!!!!


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    Mermaiden, Im glad your wife is starting to come around.
    Please call me Jamie, I always_have crossdressed, I always will, "alwayshave".

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    That is a wonderful story of a wife moving forward with her acceptance also becoming support.
    It's never too late to enjoy a happy childhood.
    Live each day as though it's your last 'cause one day you'll be right.
    I'm finding the more feminine side of me...and I ❤️ this adventure.

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    It's great that you seem to be moving in the right direction.

    I'll just caution you not to spend a lot on clothes until you get to wearing a bra, breast forms and hip and butt padding. These will change your sizes and make your clothes unwearable.
    Krisi

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    Congratulations you are on your way.

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    Congrats! I am so happy you can now dress more openly around your wife, this is great news!!

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