To begin with, I have a raging case of ADD. One of things many of us with ADD get to experience is a total lack of reading social clues and, as I like to say, an inability to read between the lines. My wife often times gets tired of having to give me a more detailed explanation of what she was trying to tell me. Well, I MISSED THIS BIG TIME.
When I came home from my VA appointment today, she asked how it went as this was my first appointment at this facility since we moved as well as my first meeting with this doctor. We discussed how it went with my medical issues (all is fine), etc. I then told her after speaking with the doctor, I met with a woman from the LGBTQ+ Care Program and I am returning there next Thursday for a Therapy Workshop. I explained the purpose of the workshop is to determine what kind of care (individual sessions, couple's sessions, group sessions) might serve me best. I told her I would probably want to have at least one individual session to get a feel for what goes on before asking her to attend a couple's sessions. She looked at me kind of funny so I told her I would hope the couple's sessions might make her more agreeable to me dressing in front of her at home.
THEN THE BOMB DROPPED!!!!!
She said, and I quote, "I've said you can dress whenever you want. You live here and it's your house, too. I just don't want you to dress when you're out with me."
I didn't say anything; but, I sure as hell don't recall ever hearing those words. I'm guessing she told me my dressing was okay using a foreign language I'm not familiar with. Actually, she may well have told me but not in such a direct manner. If she skirted the issue by alluding to the fact it was okay, then I would have not picked up on it. I really do need to be smacked between the eyes to understand what is being said. I cannot read between the lines. Anyway, this is MAJOR. And, I'm guessing the "out with me" comment means if I'm out alone and want to present Heather, that's fine. I honestly don't see introducing Heather to anyone else; but, one never knows.
Since my interest in VA LGBTQ+ Care Program was to get my wife more accepting of my dressing at home, I'm not sure how far I'll go with the program; but, I will attend the first workshop next Thursday.
BTW, I know I still have a pulse but is it possible I have actually died and gone to Heaven? To say I am ecstatic would be the understatement of the past decade.