In a Dilemma over breast augmentation

[Philipa Jane]

Hi all.
I have been back here from time to time and always felt I got a lot of good advice when I have thrown a question out there.
I have the idea of getting a boob job.

I now live on my own and don't see too many friends on a regular basis.
Most days I am dressed unless I have to go out and see someone. Make up and nails all done (Fuchsia today)
Now the thing is I am not looking for any female company so no chance of any problems there. Female friends hug and the guys shake hands. No chance of the guys feeling the bra band clasp.

I think that I could disguise my new bust from friends with loose clothing until such time that I fell comfortable with others knowing of my breast enhancement. However this could be a little more problematic in the summer.
As it is I sunbake in the back-garden which is private but going to the beach will require some thought.
I have the son and daughter in law staying next year from the UK and they love the sun. Continually covering up may seem odd to them.

I have not seen a surgeon yet (due in April) but have checked out a number of Plastic surgeons reviews.
I am thinking a female doctor may be easier to approach although most have said they are TG friendly. I did have to clarify TG to one receptionist??

I can afford to have this done but do I take the plunge?

[susanmichelle]

I would think they would suggest you see a gender specialist first and you possibly going on hrt first not necessarily going all the way. I believe many that have gone that way don?t have the bottom surgery. But it?s just my thinking anyway not to be taken to heart. I have 38 c breast now but are natural. They?ve grown on their own or could have started from medicine I take. Some have warnings of side effects can make changes to our bodies beyond our control. Either way I wish you great luck in your decision. I assume if later on if you changed you mind they could be removed.

[Micki_Finn]

I?d say some counseling is in order. IMO the fact that you?re thinking of ways to hide them means you shouldn?t get them. Besides the risks surgeries inherently involve, there are other health risks involved. Not worth it for private dress up time.
And yes it?s important to know it?s a trans surgery because options and procedures will vary from bio women.

[julia.bowie]

As others have suggested, take professional advice and don't listen to anyone on this or other websites, including myself. For me, it's akin with having a tattoo (which I personally find horrible) in that it is for life. Have a tat at 16 and you'll be carrying it age 80. I'm sure it's why so many crossdressers using padding because they can decide when they want to dressup, remove their padding and go back to their non-crossdressing lifestyle. When you read about women having boob jobs, a lot of women also regret it and at a later date have them removed. As with all things, a very personal decision.

[AmyJordan]

Hi Have you thought of just getting a breastplate then you will always have the option of breasts or not in the case of an emergency. They are now extremely realistic and miles cheaper than a breast implantation. My wife recently brought for me a 38E breastplate from Roanyer and they are super real she absolutely loves them. They come in all sizes and several colours to match your skin she managed to match mine so the edges are virtually invisible. The other upside is that you could purchase different sizes to match your mood or a specific look. Give it some thought but at the end of the day do what makes you happy.

[MonicaPVD]

Before you pull the trigger on a MAJOR SURGERY, I would strongly recommend that you come to terms with what it is you feel the need to hide. You're talking about wearing loose clothes to hide a basically permanent and prominent body modification. Bad idea. Wrap your head around being accepted by others for who you are and what you look like before taking such a drastic measure. You will be much happier in the long run. Hugs!

[Sabine Janus]

Surgery is not without it's risks and should not be undertaken lightly.

You say you'll hid this from others in your life, but if you're taking this step you need to be totally accepting of what you are doing and that includes being honest with people important in your life. You won't be able to hid this indefinately. Physicians who work with reassignment won't touch a person who is conflicted.

[MonicaPVD]

As others have suggested, take professional advice and don't listen to anyone on this or other websites, including myself. For me, it's akin with having a tattoo (which I personally find horrible) in that it is for life. Have a tat at 16 and you'll be carrying it age 80. I'm sure it's why so many crossdressers using padding because they can decide when they want to dressup, remove their padding and go back to their non-crossdressing lifestyle. When you read about women having boob jobs, a lot of women also regret it and at a later date have them removed. As with all things, a very personal decision.

Tats and tits are removable, of course at considerable expense and inconvenience. But your point is solid.

[Krisi]

I think your thinking has been clouded by your fascination with breasts. Personally, I would love to have my own "DD" set, but as a male it's just not practical for me and if you think long and hard about it, it's not practical for you either. You can't hide female breasts under clothing for very long and of course, you can't hide them at all if you're going to the beach, pool or gym.

Unless you can live as a woman full time, having your own, built in breasts is just not realistic.

[Cheryl T]

Counseling is necessary first.
As others said, this is a reversible step. It would not be cheap nor painless and without consequence so I'd think about it long and hard.

[ShelbyDawn]

Just the fact that you're asking tells me the answer should probably be no.

I'd suggest starting with a breastplate of some high grade forms with a quality medical adhesive. You can wear glued on forms for days at a time and they are fairly easy to care for. Sleep, shower, swim in them, all of it. but they are not permanent.

As for hiding breasts, I have gynecomastia and natural B cup breasts. Not man fat, but breasts with mammary tissue. Depending on my choice in bra, and I have a ton, they are either not evident a all or very obvious. When I go to the lake or the beach, well, I'm a guy with boobs and nobody seems to notice or care. I'm guessing if they were EEs it might be a different story. But I live everyday with them, and some days even add enhancers. Life goes on and my famliy and friends haven't said a word.

Just so you know, I lost 50 pounds a couple of years ago and 'the girls' were left behind, so to speak.

[Pumped]

I agree with the other comments on concerns of hiding them. If you are not ready to wear them proudly 24 hours a day in all situations I would say you are not ready. Also, hiding them is going to be tough unless you stay very small, then why bother? Any thing a bit on the large size will not hide easily. C cup or larger will take more than just a baggy shirt.

Put on a bra and C cup forms, a shirt and look in the mirror. Now take off the shirt and figure out a way to bind up the "girls" that doesn't look weird through the shirt. Tight shirts like a polo will be out forever, only oversized button up shirts from here on out unless you are going to show them off. I wear bra and forms often and sometimes out and about, but it is winter here. I will not be wearing them in the summer.

Yes, they can be removed if you change you mind, but it seems like a lot of expense that can be avoided by being confidant that this is the route you want to a take.

[Sandi Beech]

Three years ago, I had the same thoughts going through my head. I am a natural B size and have grown to like how it looks on me especially with a suntan. I figured a small enhancement would be easy to hide as well, but would look nice on me. Fortunately I came to my senses. One issue is that when I dress up, I like to be more like a D. That would mean I would still need to put forms on when dressing so it would not serve much purpose - not to mention my wife would have had a cow.

I did go so far as to enquire with a female surgeon. She was very nice and agreeable to the whole thing - no questions asked. Cost was going to be 6000 as she said it was a trickier procedure on men. It would also require a special tight bra for some time to keep things from moving around during recovery.

Anyhow I came to my senses ( for me ) , I am not saying that about you. Still, if you are concerned about hiding the boobs, it sounds like that might be a red flag. I have since dropped the notion myself. It is kind of nice being able to swap them out for whatever size the occasion calls for. Women can not do that.

My 2 cents. Good luck whatever route you choose.

Sandi

[Aunt Kelly]

Micki's so right. You are considering an expensive, permanent body modification that you want to hide. There are good reasons for top surgery, just as there are good reasons for bottom surgery, FFS, and HRT. I believe that you should be exploring your reasons more deeply before taking this step.

[docrobbysherry]

Simple answer, Philipa:

Trans who wish to live as women get implants.

CD's get silicone forms and breastplates!

[Gillian Gigs]

OCD alert, you are getting obsessive about something and need to stop and ask yourself some serious questions. Your best option is to probably get a breast plate, and just enjoy it for the time you want to wear it. As someone else said, "Tats and Tits" have a type of permanence to them, and should not be done without someone getting counsel.

[kimdl93]

I hate to pile on, but I will. You say clearly that you are not looking for female companionship, are dressed unless you have to go somewhere, and expect your clothing to disguise your chest.. This tells me that you are seeking to keep your cross dressing a personal matter. If you are dressing privately, the costs and risks of augmentation seem entirely pointless. And as has been pointed out so many times, your probably need some counseling to help clarify your motivations and thought processes on the matter.

[NancyTO]

Have you tried wearing forms and bra for an extended time (like months), to see what it like to have breast on your chest full time and going about normal life?

[Philipa Jane]

Back again.
After looking at HRT as suggested by some there are major draw backs to this for what I want.
One is weight gain.Mood swings etc.
Another is that it can take many months to achieve any results. I may not have that much time left to see that through. lol

[JenniferMBlack]

I dont know where you live, but even here in Nevada they are asking for a letter from a therapist before doing top surgery. We do have fairly laxed laws allowing for a pretty easy transition. But the doctors still want the letter even if it is not required. Just food for thought there.

[Philipa Jane]

Hi Jenifer.
I did wonder about this point but would a GG have to have a letter?
I know it is not quite the same thing but in principle people have all sorts of body mods done ( some quite horrendous).
This is something I will tackle when I have seen a surgeon.
Ha ha I am perfectly sane and a well balanced human . What could go wrong?

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Dear all.
I have no idea what has happened to all of the replies I made to each and everyone that left a comment.

[char GG]

Philipa Jane,

I used to work for an insurance company, and if a GG wanted insurance to pay for a BA, yes - she did have to have a letter.

If she paid for it herself, then no (at least not in my area).

My thought is that any good plastic surgeon would definitely have you sign all kinds of waivers.

The decision is yours. I don't understand why you would want to hide your new bustline after going through the surgery to get them.

[Meghan4now]

Hmm a breast job without HRT? Would that look or feel natural? Would that make you happy? Beside all the other stuff Mickie said.

[TAG]

IMO not many plastic surgeons would just do a BA on a male just because he wanted boobs.

[Philipa Jane]

Hi Char.
Any surgery of this nature is cosmetic and not covered by any health insurance.
I am certain there will be many more hurdles to cross but untill I speak to someone in person these are unknown quantities.
I think that I used the wrong word in (hiding ) maybe I should have said disguised and this would only be whilst the in laws were visiting.

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Hi Megan.
HRT has not been discounted but this also adds some concerns with associated health issues.
Going with just HRT will take many months whereas implant are instant and on further inspection I may need a breast lift.
Nothing is clear untill I speak to a professional.
At this stage I do think it will make me happy but who knows.

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Hi TAG.
A valid point which is why I would have to tell the surgeon of my history
I am hardly just a male walking in off the street looking for breast enhancement.