Yesterday morning enjoying a coffee with my wife a friend called me and told me his drain was overflowing in his basement and asked me for advice, everyone consideres me a "Jack of all trades but master of none". I went and rented a snake and unplugged it for him. When I got home later in the afternoon my wife instantly told me to get changed outside because I smelled like a sewer.
I showered and got dressed pretty and sat down for dinner, my wife asked me how do I do it, I must have the biggest heart of anyone she knows. I didn't know what she was talking about and she told me that I spent all day helping a friend with his sewer problem, last week I helped her brother with a renovation electrical problem. I repaired her mothers furnace and made time for her nephew, not to mention for years bringing her nephew to rehab and finding him a job and putting him on his feet a little. I help everyone and I don't expect anything in return and never complain about it and that I do it with my heart, and the worst part of it is these people are my worst critic. She told me 80% of my friends are homophobic and that her nephew has stated numerous times his hatred for cross gender and when my friends come over they really bash and state there opinion on how much they hate the cross gender situation. How do I sit there and listen to this but most of all how do I have it in me to help them knowing that if it ever came out about my dressing all my help would all be in vein. They would throw me away like a dirty rag but if any of them would come out with anything I would support them. She used her nephew as an example that her family had given up on his drug addiction and while everyone else stood by and just watched that I was the one who made time and picked him up and helped him. Knowing he would disown me in a second if he seen me dressed and all that I do for my friends and family I would not be remembered for what a great person I really am but I would be seen as a freak.
I told her I can't help how people feel about curtain topics like religion or politics or what they stand for and unfortunately we all have skeletons hanging in our closests but if it ever does come out I hope everyone will remember the person I really am. My wife was very upset about this and even speaking aggressive and got up and gave me a hug and told me the day I told her she seen past that and knew the real person inside but doesn't believe my stereotype freinds and family will see past that and that people can be cruel. I told her I never considered any of these things before and I just enjoy helping out my friends and family and save them money where I can and I hope I will never have to find out there real loyalty. My wife sees things from the outside and is not afraid to come out and talk about anything with me. Ever wonder how your friends or family would respond if they ever found out?
Thought I would share.