Dating event for a quick, one night shag or a relationship?
Either way you should be up front before your second sip of your drink (after the first sip and introductions) to save both parties from a misunderstanding.
Dating event for a quick, one night shag or a relationship?
Either way you should be up front before your second sip of your drink (after the first sip and introductions) to save both parties from a misunderstanding.
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Well, anyone seeing me would know I'm a man, no quandary there.
Please call me Jamie, I always_have crossdressed, I always will, "alwayshave".
Just speak to him in your normal, deeper male voice, without any of the inflections in speech that women usually have, that men do not. It will be quite clear that you're male.
An initial, 'Hey, haya doin', good tuh meetcha' with a strong firm handshake will remove any doubts. Walk like a guy with the slight swagger you see in the tough guy in westerns, instead of the swivel hip movement that women give off, will help give off the vibes that you're a guy.
Last edited by sometimes_miss; 04-25-2022 at 04:03 PM.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
Key word is Dating.
Just by attending a 'Dating' event, unless it's specifically a transgender/cross dressing event, your hypothetical twenty-something passable male is misrepresenting herself.
I'd say that event is a no go for her.
Just my opinion.
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Shelby
Not ethical in anything other than a generic social event where, of course, your birth gender is nobody's business.
Calling bigotry an "opinion" is like calling arsenic a "flavor".
When I go out I think people know what's going on mostly because of my height. Then there's the fact that many people know me so I'm sure word gets around. I don't feel the need to blurt it out loud the moment someone comes over to chat with me. In that respect I'm kind of casual about it. It depends on the conversation. I try to figure out if they know or not. sometimes it's obvious. Things don't get too serious too often but when they do if I exchange a number I make it my point to discuss it before there's any chance of us getting together Just the Two of Us. I found it a safe strategy to do so if we start texting or talking on the phone after our initial meeting. That way I would still up front but we haven't done anything yet. And when we do get together I make sure it's public a place I'm familiar with and I get to feel out the situation further. Besides those that just plain aren't interested or might be bothered by finding out later I also want to weed out the Curiosity Seekers and the I'm not gay but I want d Seekers. I at least want the potential for more than just fooling around. And they can't be embarrassed to be seen with me in public. Not that that should be an issue but it was once weirdly. I get a lot of attention and I guess he couldn't handle it.
Last edited by Genifer Teal; 05-04-2022 at 05:48 PM.
I think I would pull her aside and let her know. That she needs to be honest about herself. It could get dangerous if she is misrepresenting herself and a man finds himself in an embarrassing situation.
In the real world, guys hit on CDs occasionally. How you handle it is up to you - but if unsure if that person is aware of your gender status, it only seems appropriate to make it clear ASAP if the person is showing interest.
The part that bugs me is that I see no reason for a CD to ever attend a so called vanilla dating event which to me by definition is a social meeting between genetic men and women specifically for dating as the next step. It is not like a meet up to find an exercise buddy, etc. Of course if it were an LBGT sponsored event that would be different, but the premise of vanilla is clear enough to me. I would not go in the first place if I were on the market so to speak.
Sandi
A few years ago, before I came out as a crossdresser, I had something similar happened to me. She told me right away, and we actually ended up talking for a few months afterwards. I don?t know if that would have been the case if she had not told me.
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