Thank you all for the Birthday wishes. It wasn't the week I expected, it started last Saturday when I dressed pretty and when my wife seen me she asked me if I lost weight. I never thought my wife checked me out while dressed but we did pack on few pounds during the Covid but I told her I haven't been on the scale but I feel the bra feels a little better, my pantyhose aren't rolling down and I feel the dress just fell much better. She instantly starts with how is it so easy for me and why she can't lose weight . I remind her with the restrictions lifting I've been very busy at work and been out of town a few times. Tuesday night I dressed again and my wife told me she wished she had my body with those long legs and that she would wear so many dresses if she had my body (as long as I could remember my wife always hated wearing dresses). She started saying she wanted to join something and how I looked so good and why she can't lose weight. Thursday morning I woke up and she told me she had a dream that I had an affair, I told her I guess in her dream I was dressed as a women and I had an affair with a man. She got upset and wouldn't tell me her dream because she said I answered her sarcastically. Yesterday I usally go on my Friday night drive, I asked her since we didnt have any plans that I was going to get dressed for my drive. She suggested why we don't just chill out together instead of me going for a drive. I staired at her because she has never been one to hold me back and I was trying to figure out what was going on, was this a show of power or testing the waters of where my priorities are. I told her OK but as much as I love my Friday night drive, I know how much she enjoys her open a bottle of wine Friday night catch up on soap operas and Netflix series. So I sat there playing Candy Crush being punished watching soap opera over soap opera and one hour in my wife tells me she sees I'm bored and maybe I should go for the drive. Well at that point my body wound down and I was tierd and just went and fouled around with the guitar, no explanation of why she wanted me to stay. Today we went out with the family to celebrate my birthday and when everyone left my wife asked me since I missed last nights drive if I wanted to go tonight. I asked her if she was sure and I decided to go. I got dressed and put my male clothes on top and I was leaving and she asked me what I was wearing and I told her. She then asked me to show her and she made me strip down and she checked me out and gave me a ok that I could go.
This was not the Birthday week I expected and I don't know what she's thinking and what phase she's going though. This is one of those red flag moments, just don't know to bring it up and see what's going on or just maybe lay low and see where she's going with this. Or maybe I should just eat and gain the weight back, seems like she going though some self confidence phase. Has anybody here wife do a 360 like this or could someone suggested a safe next step.