My wife once HATED my dressing, and refused to talk about any aspect of it. She would, infrequently, ask questions like "Do you want to become a woman?" or "Are you gay?" or make comments like "I'm not a lesbian"
Borrowing or sneaking into the wifes clothes is always a very bad idea, even if they fit. Everybody in this forum advises open communications with the spouse, and I agree in principle. But what do you do when the spouse goes silent, and I mean DEAD silent? My solution was to go on dressing as I pleased, in the hope that she would see nothing bad happens when I'm in a dress.
That is what worked for me. Eventually, my wife started to make comments, like "I like that sweater on you." or "I prefer to see you in a skirt, rather than a dress, and I like longer skirts better than short ones." I honored those few comments by making my choices based on her opinions. Now, she sees me dressed every day and acts as if it's not a big deal. Only one piece is missing. She refuses to go out in public with me while I'm dressed.