I'm looking for books or authors with "relatable" crossdressing protagonists or characters. It seems like when you enter a search that includes "crossdressing" and "fiction" everything you get is either forced crossdressing (punishment or sexual kink) or magical transformation (spell, potion) and most end in some sort of CD-on-M sex. (No wonder public opinion of crossdressers is what it is!!)
When I say "relatable" I mean an average guy who maybe works a 9-to-5, has a less-than-accepting spouse (maybe a DADT?), finds opportunity to dress maybe 4 or 5 times a month and consumes a lot of energy making sure he's not outed to the neighbors and community. He dresses strictly to fulfill his inner female with no sexual bents.
Maybe the protagonist is a crossdressing PI, or a mystery where one or more of the characters is CD?
Does anything like that exist out there?