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    Quote Originally Posted by AngelaYVR View Post
    Impossible to say with any authority really but in my case, I have mosaic XXY/XY karyotype meaning some of my cells have an extra X chromosome and it seems reasonable that it might explain my convoluted life.
    How did you find this out? I often wander if I?m the same. I love both parts of me male and female. But I would say that I ?think? more like a female than I do a man

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    Katrinka, this was many years ago in uni during a class on genetics, we tested our own cells.

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    Just to add a bit of humour to this subject ,instead of Catlyst how about Catalytic!! would that mean that all of us have been converted to how we are now !!!!
    I started life a lost man now I am a found woman

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    As you said. I also never "dressed up" as a female for Halloween, I never played a female role in a performance, and none of my relatives dressed me up.

    I tried on my mom's bra and pantyhose a few times in my youth, but I do not think those experiences were defining moments. Crossdressing came to me as an adult. I have no clue why it stuck.
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    For me there was no catalyst. Maybe having access to my uncles Playboy mags seeing all the pretty women in lingerie was my catalyst. I remember as a young boy seeing my grandmother always in a dress and hearing the swish of her pantyhose. Then I am the first grandchild and all my cousins till I was 16 were girls. The girls were always wearing pretty dresses and tights. I remember thinking I wish I could wear tights. There is a picture of me my grandmother and all the girls in dresses. Here I am in some ugly shirt and jeans. So maybe all those girls were my catalyst. I did often dress as a female on Halloween. My grandfather served in WW2 his squadron had a few guys that would put on Can Can girl costumes and then dance on stage for entertainment. I wore that Can Can costume for Halloween. Best Halloween haul I ever had as a kid. I don't believe in a certain event made us the way we are. I think we are just wired different and more in touch with our softer feminine side.

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    After much fiddling with a good hundred theories about the real causes of crossdressing I stumbled one day on the one reason that explained it all, the origin of this proclivity, the duration, the intensity, the pink fog, the purple fog, the cerulean blue fog, whether you started before or after puberty, whether you wear pantyhose or are more into leggings, natural or fake boobs, wigs or natural hair, fetish or not, female persona or no female persona, potayto or potahto. It just explained absolutely everything for any imaginable crossdresser, including, but not limited to, how to attract accepting GGs and make blue eye shadow fashionable again. I just could not believe it so I put it in writing before I forgot and showed it to my wife. She told me: "Wow, I think you hit the mother load with this one. You can't keep this for yourself. Go spread the news to the world." So, here it is, in its glorious simplicity: the universal cause for crossdressing is...
    ... sorry, somebody knocked at the door. BRB.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DianeT View Post
    ... sorry, somebody knocked at the door. BRB.
    A person from Porlock?

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    Love the reference Jenny.

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    I enjoy shopping and wearing nice clothes. I spent a few years looking for a men's suit but concluded that I was so small, I'd have to buy an expensive custom made suit!
    No thrill of shopping for a bargain. Revolve has me down as one of their XS sized customers. And Cole Haan knows I wear size 7 shoes!

    Is it a coincidence that I have curves in the right places to wear a bodycon dress?

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    I don't think there's one answer either. I was born with a cleft palette and always felt un attractive nd undesirable as little boy. A friend of mines dad got those men's magazine they they "Only read for the articles" . I was too young to know what I was looking at but there's a photo forever burned in my mind of a beautiful woman in a matching satin green bra, panty and robe set. I wanted to look and feel that wanted and desirable too. So I eventually got into my mom and sis's things.
    As a recovering alcoholic, in AA's big book it states "We drank simply to change the way we felt." I love the way I feel when I'm dressed. Most women I've dated have all told me I'm attractive and desirable, and they don't know about the dressing.
    until I tell them. It's nice to look pretty and be like the women I desire and find attractive.

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    I have nothing I can relate cross dressing too No aunt, mother who fem dressed me or even a sister for cloths to borrow. So I have no idea how I turned out this way. I compare it to a disease (its not) I don't know how I got started but I do remember pulling my mother's bra out of the dirty cloths and trying it on probably at 12 or 13. Did see a shrink about it them when my parents busted me. I refused to talk about it with him and it would have cost to much to continue.
    I tend to think it is something in our genes just a feminine trait, for some of us it is great than others, for the transexuals it so strong they have to transition for others its live full time and others its a weekend fling. I have no scientific data to back this up but it is my justification. I just need a little bit of cross dressing to satisfy my hidden girlness.

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    I have always been fascinated by having breasts, wearing makeup and needing a bra.

    As a teenager, I raided my mother's cupboard, and tried one of her bras. In those days, bras didn't have the elastic straps and bands which they do today, and I struggled to get into it.

    But then I discovered her "breast exhauster", a glass trumpet with a rubber suction bulb and a bowl underneath to collect any breast milk.

    I pumped & pumped & pumped, but in doing so, I tore her left bra strap.

    I tried to sew it up, but got lipstick marks on the strap.

    She must have known, but never complained.

    So I was introduced to bras, lipstick & breast pumps inside of one afternoon.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Karren Hutton View Post
    On that mental theme, maybe suggestions were made to you way back when you were very young that triggered this. Back before you could remember. Subliminal. You are getting sleepy! Lol. Buy my mother used to tell me that I was supposed to have been born a girl often when I was young.
    I have a similar experience. Not that I was supposed to have been a girl but that it was a shame that I wasn?t a girl because of my hair. It was a strawberry blonde color, very full, and naturally curly. My mom, and some other female relatives, would comment about it frequently.

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    I've always been fascinated by having, and feeling my own breasts as well. I've been doing it since high school, I'm 35 now.

    Not going too deep, but my mother passed when I was young, 9 years old. I've done a massive amount of work, and turned my life completely around with some incredible therapy.

    What my therapist and I concluded, is that my wearing pretend breasts is my brain's way of filling the feminine touch I never had growing up. Capital T Trauma does weird things.

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    The best evidence supports DNA being the main culprit in being a crossdresser or transgender.

    MRI studies confirm the transgender brain is very different from a hetero and gay brain and the evidence would indicate nature as causal vs nurture since the studies include 18 - 50+ yr old TG participants and all TG age groups show the same differences vis a vis hetero and gay brains age groups and the results have been replicated.

    Google " Transgender MRI Studies" - fascinating stuff...

    FWIW - I think if mothers were asked they would id the TG child easily from birth by the different disposition of the infant vs her other kids.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bobbi46 View Post
    Just to add a bit of humour to this subject ,instead of Catlyst how about Catalytic!! would that mean that all of us have been converted to how we are now !!!!
    Thinking this the above post is funny!

    Well, so many good explanations, not sure, but they?re all probably correct to a degree..

    As I mentioned, at times I thought I?d be a better girl than guy. Remember fretting and worried about being a girl when young. I was so worried about the negative implications that I worked so hard at being masculine and macho to cover the feminine aspects and traits. Now I embrace them cause it makes being en femme so much easier!

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    Quote Originally Posted by sabrinaedwards View Post
    The other reason for this thought is I felt that crossdressing was a learned response. As such, I quit dressing for 5 years, purged all feminine things and was determined never to cross dress again. Of course, I may have eliminated the physical aspect, but I was still mentally a crossdresser. Something resides internally that does not go away.
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    Like you, I stopped crossdressing. For me it was for over 15 years. For years when I remembered crossdressing, I said to myself "That's no longer me. I'm not doing that ever again". But I was not being true to myself. Mentally, I too was a crossdresser. I just was suppressing it.

    It is very affirming finding out I'm not alone in my experience.

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    I think, for me, it was seeing women in sexy clothes and realizing how turned on I was seeing them and fantasizing being them. I just had to find out what it felt like. Once I did, I was hooked. Sure I have taken time off but it was never that long and I always had some panties, bra, stockings, etc., just incase I got the urge.
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    According to the Book Neurotribes Crossdressing of an interested in feminine things can present in boys on the autism spectrum. This could also be why so many crossdressers have an interest in trains or model trains which again is shared with boy on the spectrum. This is also been qualified by a female Dr I saw who is a gender specialist and on the spectrum herself. For myself my urge started about age 4 or 5 and it was to wear womens shoes. In grade school I stole maryjanes from the coat room after school to meet my needs and wear mummies high heels when I was left alone at home.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BaliGirl View Post

    It is very affirming finding out I'm not alone in my experience.
    Sadly I was 16 when I discovered there were others in the world who had the same compulsions as I did while reading a penthouse magazine. I was riddled with shame my whole life for my desires.

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    My mom and step dad didn't want me to dress.but I found my sister's pantyslip it was pink with lace along the bottom the first time I touched it I knew I had to put it on.that was it for me.oh and it didn't help for my step dad forcing me to dress in !y sister's party dress and dit on the front porch.�� It's so much apart of who I am I can't stop I tried I'm 64and my wanting to dress is still strong
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    For me it was a sexual fetish. I never thought much about it until my early teens and I became interested in girls. I started noticing bras under blouses and pretty panties under skirts. And then there were Sears Catalogs that had plenty of color pictures of women wearing pretty lingerie. I wanted so much to explore what was under there. Well, I had a young mother and a sister only a year younger and we had a common laundry hamper. One day when I was home alone, there was a pair of nylon pa ties hanging out of the hamper and I took advantage of the opportunity. And, since panties were good, then my little teenage brain guessed that panties and a bra would be even better. And so it went.

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    Is there disposition to become a golfer or an antique collector?

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    I have read a scientific theory that it's not genetic and that it starts in the womb.

    The fact is that genitals develop more fully than the brain. The theory is that the genitals develop normally. But sometime between the first and second trimester, the hormonal environment (in a male fetus) changes from testosterone heave to estrogen heavy. By this time, the excess estrogen has little effect on the genitals because they're already well on there way to becoming male. However, the brain is largely undeveloped and the estrogen feminizes the brain, creating the brain/body disconnect.

    I read this in "Becoming Nicole", the autobiography of the trans girl Nicole Maines
    Hi, I'm Steffi and I'm a crossdresser... And I accept and celebrate both sides of me. Or, maybe I'm gender fluid.

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    Steffi, I have also read that there is more to gender than X and Y. DNA studies say there is more to gender that what we first assumed. I understand it is just like some DNA makes you 6'6" and 250 pounds, or 5'6" and 150 pounds some DNA gives you more feminine or male traits.

    I don't know about DNA, but what I hear is it is pretty much sealed up at conception. Perhaps there is changes in DNA early on in the womb, I sure do not claim to know any more than I have read. Also the papers I have read were scientific reports, not someone's book or web site.

    There is so misinformation on the web and people's writings I have a tough time believing very little of it. Everyone has an agenda.

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