The niebours across the street came over with a bottle of wine and we sat out front with them. They were talking about the gay parade last weekend and then the niebour turned to her husband and said "I hope I don't ever come home and find you wearing my clothes dancing around the house because there would be no discussion just pack your bags".
Well my wife was into her second glass of wine and she speaks her mind and with alcohol she speaks it more and she tells the niebour she didn't know she was so selfish.
The niebour tells my wife not to tell her that my wife would live with that crap, and that a women wants a man beside her not a sissy.
OH BOY! I could see the smoke now coming out of my wife's ears. She tells the niebour that as much as we have to live with some of men crap they also have to live with some of women crap. She told her that she is a compulsive shopper and she was spending money and hiding it that we almost went broke. She told her that I didn't pack a bag and leave, we talked about it and we put a lower limit on her Visa and she carries smaller amount of cash with her. She told her that I knew she wasn't going to stop but instead find a level that I could tolerate and that's what she would do if she came home and found me dancing in her clothes. She would sit me down and find a level that we could tolerate it, and as much as I trust she's not over spending she would have to trust that I won't over step either, that's a relationship a two way street where both have to be happy and trust each other.
Well the niebours were kind of speachless at this point and she turns to my wife and say that she was right she does put a lot of crap on her husbands plate to at times.
My wife told her that there's a lot of things in life and with our kids that we are not happy about but we live with it and tolerate it for our love for them.
Well after they left you know I had to ask the question to her and asked her to be honest and is she ok with my dressing and how much is she really tolerating it. She told me she will be honest and it really doesn't bother her at all, she enjoys the sharing and of course the shopping together and told me that we drew a line in the sand 30 years ago and as much as I do cross it now and then she is ok where we are. I looked at her and she seemed pretty sincere and I really hope she is honest and isn't being overly tolerate. She ended with don't look to much into it and change anything and just keep doing what I'm doing and as far as the niebours goes she opened her eyes to something but all she did was crush an ant.
, What an awesome story, >Orchid**O
