In a word? "Pointless!"
I want to look attractive. Not like someone's granny.
In a word? "Pointless!"
I want to look attractive. Not like someone's granny.
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
Sorry, Patience - but in this case I believe that you're W*A*Y off base.Originally Posted by Patience
Maybe you missed it, but in this instance, I was fully drab. There was NOTHING in my presentation that would trigger any discriminatory reactions from the girl.
I truly do believe that she honestly didn't see me - or to be more accurate, didn't notice me.
I could cite other examples of where this has happened throughout my life, such as sitting in a room with friends for 2+ hours when one of them turns in surprise and asks "when did you get here?" but none of this is CD related - or on topic for this thread. So I'll leave it alone.
When dressed, I've had an over 90% "notice" rate, even if I'm dressed to blend in.
I guess I should explain that this means that I've been noticed >90% of the times I've gone out - not that that percentage of the people notice me.
(why do I keep hearing that kids song "I'm a lonely little petunia in an onion patch?)
Last edited by SaraLin; 07-07-2022 at 05:07 AM. Reason: added thought
Being the center of attention vs barely being noticed at all. You can dress like everyone else in sloppy girl version of mostly boy clothes or wear that special over the top outfit that you love so much but you WILL get noticed. You will not blend in.
Blending to me is presenting yourself to the best of your ability, carrying yourself with dignity and in a way that indicates you belong there as much as the next woman.
It's not about trying to "pass" as so few of us have the features and figure to truly do so. It's about being part of the discussion, not leading it.
You don't wear high fashion to Walmart. You don't wear a tutu to the movies. You dress and present like everyone else, not trying to be a standout, but being perceived as a part of the whole.
I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !
As 99% of us don't pass, 'blending' is simply a way to describe the mindset of a crossdresser, to convince themselves that they're actually passing, that they look just as much a female as any woman, and that no one notices the man in a dress. This delusion actually helps one gain the confidence to go out into the world en femme. As such, it's got it's positive aspects, though it could also result in disasters by ignoring the potential dangers which still exist to those of us who dare cross the gender lines. yes, yes, I know that the number of people who will actually attack us has decreased, but gay, TS, TG, and crossdressers too, are still being attacked and killed by people who just hate us for being one of those things.
Just because no one says anything to you, or doesn't stare, doesn't mean that they don't notice. Or maybe it's just me, having learned to carefully observe what's going on around me, so I DO spot unusual things about people on a regular basis.
That said, you all know the potential dangers. If you feel brave, then go forth and be womanly. And good luck to you.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
Nothing pleases me more than to be wrong about this. Nobody deserves this kind of treatment. You were there, so you should know, but that doesn't mean it never happens to some of us.
As to why you keep hearing children's songs inside your head, well, can't help you there.
When haters hate, I celebrate!
I think blending is the ability to go out into the world with confidence. That, of course, is easier said than done. I have some advantages as a short guy, 5ft 6, with a slight build,140 pds. I become so much more confident over the past several months. So do i blend? I have no idea. I would say yes but the judge of that is those who cross my path when I go out. And i'm not about to ask them.
Personally, I consider blending and passing as the same thing. Outside of dressing I don't even try to blend or pass. As I say in my signature I am just a man in a dress. The times I have gone out enfemme I walked and talked like a man even if I didn't dress like one.
Just another man in a dress
Lexi, u explained beautifully!
And, that is why when I really "want to blend", I do my shopping, daily outings, and casual dining in drab. No one EVER gives me the dirty fish eye or even a second glance!
When I go out I KNOW people will see a MIAD. So, why not dress outstanding?!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
We were idly people watching the other day in a pavement cafe in Asni?res when this extremely tall golden skinned young women in a lightweight summer dress passed by pushing a baby in a pram. I was subconsciously registering that she wasn't very pretty when I woke from my reverie and clicked that she wasn't even a woman. Remarking such to my partner elicited a "Bien s?r" (of course). And of course further examination revealed a very powerful pair of legs. Did she pass? I would say only inasmuch that I was fooled for a couple of moments. Did it matter? No
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