Hi all,
I have read numerous posts saying crossdressing has a calming effect among other things. I am sure that is true. It simply does not feel as if it applies so much to me. It feels much more complicated.
I tried putting into words the complex range of things going on in my head when I dress up, and this is what I came up with:
Escapism - being someone else frees my mind of the troubles life throws at me. This is a big one. For a short time, I am not the same person.
Attraction to the female form as a work of art. I suspect many of us have this attraction. I like what I see in the mirror when I dress up.
Humiliation and stage fright - this is a bit of a weird one. This is what I believe partly triggers my adrenaline rush of going out dressed - do it enough and it subsides. Initially, I felt very exposed as if on a stage in front of the world. Oddly I find that exciting but less of a factor these days.
Missed out in my youth - dating , dancing etc. I was far too shy to be able to enjoy myself in social settings back then. Add the lack of confidence and boyish looks, and I had a real lack of confidence. Some reason I have become much more confident while dressed. I can not explain it, but it has opened opportunities I missed in my youth - like dancing with women.
Touch and Feeling of clothing - the feel of some women?s clothing is awesome and nothing like mens wear.
Love the look and feel of smooth hairless skin - especially with a nice suntan.
Smell of perfume - simply adds to the feminization experience. There must be some kind of subliminal thing going on here as some scents makes me weak at the knees ; )
Desire to be one of the girls in social gatherings. The feel of belonging.
Desire to be the pretty popular girl who gets all the attention. I love attention.
Fascination with all the nuances of the opposite sex - like one song goes - every thing she does is magic.
Complexity of all the clothing variation
and ability to adorn my body with jewelry and accessories. This is just fun.
Facial transformation - is that really me in the mirror? It almost looks like a body modification. Fascinating.
Inadequacies of stereotypical male athleticism that do not apply while in fem mode. I always felt inadequate athletically speaking and that is wiped away when crossdressed.
Validation from others - a strong motivator. Every time I had second thoughts about going out, it seems someone would say something to validate that what I do is ok with complements - just enough to make me want to keep doing it.
Desire to roll back time clock - to feel look and feel young again - makeup does wonders. Not a factor when I was younger, but it is now. People think I am much younger than I look, which I love.
Ability to meet people who would otherwise pass me by. I have had women drag me up to the dance floor when dressed up. In guy mode - forget it, not going to happen. I feel like a bore in drab.
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Then there is the after outing side effects:
Relief of not being outed to known persons
Relief of not being harassed
Let down of having to go back to drab
Daydreaming of last interactions
Forward looking obsession with planning my next outing
Desire to shop for a new outfit
Driven to improve looks in some way
These feelings are at a conscience level. There may be lower level things I am not able to understand with any sort of logic.
Obviously I think about dressing a lot. I am just wondering if others have a complex range of feelings as I do, or am I am anomaly?
Sandi