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    why we started crossdressing

    hello,
    this information was gathered from groups like this one and I published it in 2009.
    luv J

    11.2% - dress up games with a girl

    8% - feel of the fabric

    6.8% - wanted to be a female

    6.5% - wanted to dress as a female

    6.2% - mother dressed me in the clothes

    4.9% - Halloween costumes

    4.6% - curiosity

    4.5% - self pleasure (after puberty)

    3.1% - dress up games with a boy

    2.6% - own clothes were dirty, wet or lost (as child)

    2.5% - 'just had to do it'

    2.4% - costume for school plays

    2.3% - stress relief and relaxation (as adult)



    2.1% - 'why not do it?' (adult diminishing of inhibitions)

    2.1% - punishment as a child

    2.0% - dressed by babysitter

    1.8% - inspired by CD (cross-dressing) imagery

    1.7% - as a dare

    1.5% - 'I felt I had more in common with females'

    1.4% - after looking at fashion catalogue

    1.4% - watching women dressing or undressing

    1.4% - adult bedroom games with female partner

    1.4% - mother wanted a girl

    1.3% - gay

    1.2% - noticed girls as a teenager



    1.1% - after reading magazine article about cross-dressing or seeing images of cross-dressers

    1.0% - after death of close female relative

    1.0% - wanted to dress like hero or superhero

    0.8% - abused as a child

    0.8% - female domination as adult

    0.7% - bullied as a child

    0.6% - dance class

    0.6% - divorce of parents

    0.6% - used as mannequin for dressmaking

    0.6% - 'hand me down' clothes as child

    0.6% - developed breasts

    0.6% - because of soft porn images



    0.5% - breast envy

    0.5% - after visiting cross-dressing Internet site

    0.5% - more comfortable than men's clothes

    0.5% - the smell

    0.5% - for warmth or sport

    0. 5% - wife suggested it

    0.4% - father cross-dressed

    0.4% - "sissy"

    0.3% - keep fit

    0.2% - advertising

    0.2% - for medical or disability reasons

    0.2% - because of the packaging



    0.2% - teacher wore

    0.2% - brother cross-dressed

    0.2% - own divorce

    0.2% - hair style

    0.2% - wanted a sister

    0.1% - had to help mother dress

    0.1% - Goth

    0.1% - video game

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    I really don't think I ever thought about wearing my sisters clothes till I was around 5 and my mother thoight it would be funny to try and fool and old nanny who was coming to visit. I did seem to know enough that boys don't wear dresses and tried to protest ! I eneded up in a day dress of my sisters very similiar to what Lucy wears in Peanuts. I was in complete shock how well the dress fit and much they got me to look like a little girl! The other shock was just how funny and fun my sisters and mother had with treating me like a Girl and telling me how adorable I looked. After that event i think i really started to be curious as to how I would look in some of my sisters other outfits but knew i had to keep it secret. Balerina tutus were next and since I wasn't caught it just took off after that ! LOL There were just too many gilry thing around to aviod !

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    I love women and love to be like a woman sometimes! Not sure why I am the way I am, but I accept being gender fluid.

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    A compelling post Jacques! I may be different in that I had absolutely no CD experiences as a child or teen - the thought never even crossed my mind to be frank. It's a completely adult phenomena for me, and even a late adult onset as I didn't begin to actively Cd until last summer, at age 69. I've mostly just enjoyed it, reaped its positive psychological benefits without too much analysis. I see it as a combination of factors, and as far as I can tell these are my "triggers", not necessarily in this order (from your list):

    8% - feel of the fabric
    6.5% - wanted to dress as a female
    4.6% - curiosity
    4.5% - self pleasure (after puberty)
    2.3% - stress relief and relaxation (as adult)
    2.1% - 'why not do it?' (adult diminishing of inhibitions)
    1.8% - inspired by CD (cross-dressing) imagery
    1.4% - adult bedroom games with female partner
    1.1% - after reading magazine article about cross-dressing or seeing images of cross-dressers
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    I started with curiosity, but once my curiosity was satisfied, it was feel, self pleasure, warmth in winter, and avoiding chafing when cycling.

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    The feel of the fabric and curiosity come to mind.I saw some graffiti on a bus seat that started things, The graffiti ?I love wearing panties, bras and womens nylons . They are great Dave?This seemed naughty but nice.I tried on my mothers tights/ pantyhose . It started from there aged about 10 . Developed more in teens and twenties . I was fascinated with the images In mail order catalogues in the 70s of women in underwear, foundation wear etc.

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    Age 7 it just seems so natural. I was always more comfortable in girls clothes. My most favorite pastime was the Sears catalog.
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    For me it was the feel of the fabric and the thrill of seeing myself dressed. I think it still is too...
    We can only achieve what we dare to reach for.

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    At least I told myself I was curious to see what it felt like and how I would look in makeup and girl clothing.---Which might have been true. Even the very concept seemed to turn my 12 year old mind "On" sexually. I started with my mom's lipstick and moved onto full dressing in a year. Soon I found it was about the "buzz" or "High" it gave me and how I became ANOTHER person ---"NOT ME" and effectively, was able to take a "Vacation from myself" (escapism) and totally unwind and relax, dropping my worries or male obligations.

    I am straight and attracted to women, even as a little boy, I preferred older teen Girls and young adult women. (never was attracted to little girls my own age).
    I do not consider Gays" or Transsexuals as "Crossdressers", even though many of THEM "cross-dress" (the verb) They have their OWN Terminology ( I.E. Gay, Transsexual) and their own unique motivations for CDing. Cross-Dressers are, by the usual definition, "Straight people who cross-dress. "
    Last edited by MarinaTwelve200; 07-11-2022 at 05:26 PM.

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    I definitely fall into a combination of curiosity and wanted to dress like a woman. Curiosity about how it felt to wear such clothes. It wasn't until 40 years later I started trying to look like a woman.

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    An interesting categoriastion of motives.... I hadn't previously tried to classify the origins of my dressing in this way but I'm quite sure that "Curiosity" is the one main factor.
    Not having any sisters or close female relatives, I didn't pay any attention to girls and what they wore until, understandably, in my young teens, girls became very interesting. Observing the ones I knew - neighbours, girls at the local youth club, girls on their way to school (all our schools were single-sex back in the 1950s) - there was a dramatic change when they (and I) reached our young teens. Suddenly the girls were changing shape and wearing different clothes. They still wore dresses and skirts (very few girls in trousers in those days) but increasingly socks were replaced by nylon stockings....so I became curious to know what that felt like. Suddenly the mysteries of girls' underwear became interesting. How did they keep their stockings up? What did it feel like to have that lovely smooth nylon right up your legs? That's what started it: curiosity.
    Experimentation (with mother's stockings) only partially answered the questions. Over quite a few years, limited by knowledge and availability (no internet, just magazines and catalogues for information - and getting to know some girls a bit better!) I was able to satisfy the curiosity - suspenders to hold up the stockings, a girdle, a slip, a dress....a bra.... That was it! For me, no wish to appear as a woman, only to feel what it was like to wear those clothes. Yes, over many years there was more curiosity to be satisfied: tight skirts, short skirts (tights and panty-girdles in the 70s), high-waist girdles, long-line bras, corselettes, stiffened petticoats, high-heels. All those experienced to find out what it was like for girls and women to wear such things - but no wigs, no make-up, no association with others. Great enjoyment of the sensations and regret at not being able to have the full experience of going out and about in those clothes. So some curiosity never satisfied: yes, under-dressing is a way to find out how it feels to wear a bra, girdle and stockings or tights all day, go shopping, get on a bus, walk in the park, etc, etc. but never to do it with the freedom - or limitation - of a dress or skirt out in the fresh air.
    So there we are: many, many years later, some curiosity remains and will ever remain unsatisfied. But it's all been enjoyable.

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    I may be an abberation, I remember when I was 8 or 9 trying on my older sisters tights. Then there is a 47 year hiatus. I find myself single and alone in my flat and why not! I did 7 years of marriage and three kids, 15 years in another relationship. I think I just want to feel nice, Pretty even. Never abused, Never even thought about CD, Big macho man most of the time. But Im hooked.

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    "I wonder if those women's jeans will fit me?"
    U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.

    Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!

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    I've been trying to figure it all out. What brought me to this? Well it isn't really any one thing I believe, but a culmination of things.
    As I've said before my first crossdressing experience was before I can even remember it. My sister would dress me up so I could be her little sister she wanted. There were other things along the way, and it all added up to m3 suddenly going full crossdressed a couple months ago. I think it is a multitude of reasons that caused it.
    I will say one thing though, I do feel that there is a strong desire to BE a female in me. Given where I am in life and the life I've built, that will never be able to happen. I applaud those who aren't where I am that do have that avenue available to them. I can't let myself dwell on that and simply try to enjoy being Roxie as often as possible.

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    For me it was easy. I was an only child with an abusive father. I adored my mother and wanted to be just like her. What else is there to say?

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    I am 56, I started for a few reasons, Mosly I suffer from low self esteem, And have been single and alone for 7 years. I wanted to feel nice for a change, One night a couple of months ago while a bit tipsy, I bought a bra sone knickers and a lovely red flowery summer dress. When I (Trembling) tried them on, I was walking around my flat saying why have I never done this before!. Now Im hooked. Every night I transform from my oil stained working clothes and transform myself into Natalie. It very comforting to me now and my wardrobe is growing like mad!

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    For me it was the allure of the feel of my mother's nylon slips.

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    Really thought Lost a Bet or Alien Abduction would make the list!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Karren Hutton View Post
    Really thought Lost a Bet or Alien Abduction would make the list!
    hello Karren,
    if that is why you started I will add it to my next survey!
    stay healthy!
    luv J

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    Just drawn to it like a bee to honey
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    Started with sisters blue dance tights....Where was it published?

    Side note, I always suspect/ed college students come here and initiate click bait for their theises, with that said it should be disclosed....just saying ��
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    The main reason is: I've always - ALWAYS felt I should have been born a girl, even though I was also always painfully aware that I wasn't.

    From your list - these apply too:

    wanted to be a female (see above)
    wanted to dress as a female (The clothes are so much softer and prettier - and there is a much wider selection)
    Halloween costumes (once as a kid, several times as adult)
    costume for school plays (well - cub scouts)
    'I felt I had more in common with females' (still do)

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    ?Why?is a question I used to think about, but now just leave it as ?I like it? A lot of this discussion is more about ?how? we started.

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    I have no idea why I first dressed. I love the feel of satin and silk. But it was so long agoI just don't recall what was going on in my 4/5 yo brain.
    Please call me Jamie, I always_have crossdressed, I always will, "alwayshave".

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    For me it became an addiction. I first tried on a pair of my mothers or sisters nylon briefs when I was a early teenager , 13 or 14 out of curiosity. It was a sexual high. Instant arousal and self gratification. I repeated as often as I could. Eventually, the instant arousal started to fade a bit and again, curiosity and a sense of adventure made me wonder if I tried on a bra would the feeling be better. Oooh yes! That was wonderful. Well, the next thing was a slip, even better. And, while I knew I had to cool my jets, as soon as I was out on my own, I started accumulating more and more lingerie enjoying my play time. Now the instant rush is way gone, but the good feeling of all that silky nylon is still there.

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