....the easier it becomes
Just be kind to all you meet / interact with.... as you are female in public.
Generally, people react to kindness with kindness of their own.
....the easier it becomes
Just be kind to all you meet / interact with.... as you are female in public.
Generally, people react to kindness with kindness of their own.
Last edited by Barbara Jo; 07-29-2022 at 04:18 PM.
This is so true. It literally gets so much easier!
For me one of the joys of going out enfemme is the times you get to interact with folk. As Barbara Jo says, the more you do it the easier it becomes and your manner becomes more natural.
You get to the point where it becomes so natural, you're so confident, people it seems to me automatically respond to you the person.
And don't forget to flatter those who've helped you, say a SA. "Thank you, that was very kind of you", tells the person they've done their job well and we all appreciate that which leaves a more positive memory in the mind of that person.
Remember your manners. Please and thank you work wonders as does a smile and eye contact.
And if out for the first few times don't be surprised if a muggle will start to engage with you. Waiting at a sales counter the woman in front of me noted that we both had on the same jacket. Now this could have been to test out if indeed I was female or not. But what followed was a minute or so of chit chat about just how warm and comfortable the jackets were, where bought, all just normal chat. Things like that lift your day.
oh yeah.
I go to Target, Walmart, Food Lion, Gabe's...pretty much anywhere I'd go in male mode.
Always treated with respect like the other ladies shopping. small talk with the other ladies.
Called ma'am or Miss.
I don't dress over the top. Skirts, skorts, dresses, women's shorts, jeans and tops.
I just speak in a softer tone.
Last edited by Andrea Renea; 07-30-2022 at 06:23 AM.
Great advice for everyone, no matter what your gender is. We are all on the same boat drifting through the Universe, so we might as well be nice to each other.
What exactly is the "it" that becomes easier? It = going out in public dressed?
Barbara, great advice no matter how you're dressed.
Please call me Jamie, I always_have crossdressed, I always will, "alwayshave".
Words of wisdom Barbara.
So true. And I don't think you neeed to try to go all the way in your effort to appear as a woman. I find that when I am wearing a skirt, top and heels, (ie MIAD) women just read me differently than if I'm all male. I too tend to speak softly and politely, so it all adds up to appearing more relatable to women. They instinctively know I'm not coming with any toxic masculinity crap, so we talk on a sometimes more intimate level.
I find that to be true as well.
I find no reason to be mean to anyone because its not going to help your situation or theirs.
So tired of mean people in general. I pay no attention to them.
i will just add this........ .
When women interact with each other, they could not care less how pretty the woman is who is attempting to interact with them.
They just want to be treated with some measure of respect an kindness.
Last edited by Barbara Jo; 07-30-2022 at 05:35 PM.
We need more of this....be kind to one another....
Julianna Frances
Very true, people do remember.
People tend to treat me differently, I think they tend to be nicer to me and I return that.
I basically have lived as Jean for years, I have taken it way past casual encounters. I have so many friends.
It all starts with a smile, few kind words, casual conversation.
I alway try to be nice to everyone I meet. I admire those people who can go out in public much more dressed than I can. That?s something I need to work towards
Last edited by Sarasota Gurl; 07-31-2022 at 06:06 AM. Reason: Apostrophe became a question mark.. again
Interacting with people when I am dressed as Joanne has made me a better person. I always think maybe the woman or guy that?s there has something they are hiding like I used to.
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