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    Do you change the pitch of your voice when dressed in public?

    I didn't want to hijack Barbara Jo's thread (The more you interact with others); but, some comments make me want to ask a question. There were a couple comments about speaking in a softer tone. My question is how many of you are actually able to adjust your voice (pitch) to sound feminine? My natural voice is absolutely as deep a bass as a person can be. There is no way on earth I could ever disguise my voice as anything other than 100% male. Thus, I expect there is no point in even trying. I do understand about speaking in a softer tone such that my voice isn't loud and overbearing. But, other than that, if I were spoken to my response, regardless of how passable I looked, would be a dead giveaway. Is that the experience of most others? Just curious.
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    There's quite a few trans girls that teach voice feminization techniques. They're quite difficult and take basically full time effort over a couple of years to get right, but the results are amazing. I try when I'm alone in my car, but there's still a lot of bass, or it sounds fake... But what I've noticed is a lot of women have really bassy voices as well, and they're just able to own it. It's more about inflection, tone, and vocabulary as much as the actual timbre too.

    Basically though, even though it's very limited in it's success, I try to speak from my throat more than my gut if that makes sense. Then I try to practice the pressure that I push out with (which is what I think you're referring to), and a combination sort of helps a little.

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    I practiced my girl voice for weeks before my first trans meeting 15+ years ago. Which was 1/2 way between my regular voice and a falsetto!

    When I got there everyone was speaking in their male voice. So, I forgot about it! Since then, I've met countless T's. The ones with fem voices I can count on the fingers of one hand!
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    Heather,

    Certainly softening your voice is one option however it's not something you can do straight out of the box so to speak. Like learning to walk femme it takes a bit of practice. talking aloud to yourself while around the house or driving helps to get some "Muscle memory" and makes it easier to switch when out.

    I've written this so many times. I once spoke with a speech therapist at a CD support group. She said the biggest mistake we make is to talk falsetto, a bit like a BeeGee on helium. Her advice was to find your natural "C" note and sing Doh and then go up to ray or Mi. One of those two is all you need to go accompanied by yes speaking a little softer but also altering your speech rhythms. Women are more lyrical in their conversations.

    Ask a man the time and he'll say "Err one 'o clock". A woman will say something along the lines of; "Ooo, just let me see, Oh it's just coming up to one, time for some lunch I think". I suppose men have interactions, women have conversations is the best way I can put it.
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    I attempt to speak more softly, but otherwise it is me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Helen_Highwater View Post

    Ask a man the time and he'll say "Err one 'o clock". A woman will say something along the lines of; "Ooo, just let me see, Oh it's just coming up to one, time for some lunch I think". I suppose men have interactions, women have conversations is the best way I can put it.
    Definitely! A woman will say ten words to a man's one word to convey the same information. Learning this will be more difficult than learning to change your pitch.

    If one is going to actually live as a woman, it would be critical to learn to speak like a woman, both in pitch and in what you say and how you say it.

    As a crossdresser, it would be nice if I could do that, but I can't and I will not put forth the effort to learn. What I do is try to avoid people and potential conversations as much as possible. I'm not going to bars and restaurants as Krisi or even shopping in retail stores.
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    I've experimented with this, and I think it's not so much a matter of pitch but more a placement of the voice, and a gentler manner of speaking for the most part. Lots of women have husky voices, not necessarily high ones. Note the scene in "Tootsie" when Dustin Hoffman is trying to hail a cab as a woman, getting nowhere and then reverting to his harsher male voice to get results - something like that I think. I have not tried this publicly b/c I am not out publicly, but I have been convincing using this technique with persons on the phone - got a "ma'am and everything!

    I think a vocal coach might be able to tell you with more specificity what I'm talking about here - any out there?
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    I'm a baritone. I find that, even in drab, my voice pitch tends to rise when I am talking to a woman. And my wife takes offense when I "giggle like a girl", as she puts it.
    I sometimes try to practice raising my pitch in the car, singing along to the radio. But I'll never be a Bee Gee.

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    Yes. I have a natural tenor voice, and shift up a bit. Also, I used the Eva voice app for practicing my talking and singing voice. I thought it helped a great deal in attaining a more consistent female voice.

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    I tried to do more of a girl voice since I've started. A couple weeks ago I started trying a pitch app that registers your average speaking frequency and labels it male, androgynous, or female. I was shocked to see I was still in the male range, I was hearing it higher. With work, I've gotten to where I can pretty much hit the female range consistently. I'm really struggling with the softness part now. I tend to project my voice and it carries a lot. Trying to turn that down a notch or two

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    Heather,

    When I started going out in public I tried a soft female voice but my speech was very "breathy" and so low people had trouble hearing me. It was a disaster. Now, I speak in my male voice but try & speak slower and in just a slightly higher tone than usual. It works for short conversations but anything longer and I usually just use my male voice.
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    For me to sound.like.a genetic woman is a lost cause with my voice bordering on basso profundo. My speaking voice pitch is around 90 Hz. Early in the morning sometimes it is 70 Hz.
    I look like a genetic woman with my usual dress, hair past the shoulders, and a bust. My deep voice doesn't seem th phase anybody, so I don't alter my voice pitch.
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    I try, but I don't think I succeed. Actually getting to the point where I really don't care anymore.
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    A little bit softer and more drawn out!

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    Unless you really get some type of voice training and practice, I don't think it's easy. Some people think speaking softer is more fem but I can tell you from experience with my hubby's social group, that most waiters and SA's may not hear your and keep asking "what?" until you just have to use a regular voice.

    Also, don't end up sounding like Minnie Mouse.

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    Kind of?

    With people I don't know, I will sometimes soften it.

    With those I know, I just speak in my normal voice.

    I have to remind my GG friends that when we go to the loo together, I'm not likely to talk or answer their questions, because others might wonder why they are hearing a man's voice in the ladies room. They tell me they forget because they just hear Dee's voice.
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    "... if I were spoken to my response, regardless of how passable I looked, would be a dead giveaway. Is that the experience of most others?"
    It would seem to me the consensus is there is no point in trying to change one's voice and most of the responders, if not all, don't attempt to do so. That's kind of what I figured which gives me hope for the day I do actually interact with others. Thanks for the responses.
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    I have avoided situations where I would have to talk when out dressed up. I have done some practicing raising the pitch and timbre of my voice, and it does sound distinctly different (tried talking as part of some videos I took) but am dubious it really works. The one time I spoke, I knew I had been made before I made a sound, but still received a compliment on how I looked.

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    my voice isnt so bad, its my walk I change when Im out, maybe doesent work, but hell it makes me feel better

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    I don't think I have a very deep voice anyway, so I just soften it a bit more. It seems to work OK when people are looking at me, but it falls apart on the phone. I can often hear our tenants are taken aback when they ask for Helena and I say "that's me", there is a pause and I can almost hear the "cogs whirring".

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    "because others might wonder why they are hearing a man's voice in the ladies room."
    I always use the men's restroom as I have the plumbing of a man, and have XY chromosomes. I DO make noises with my voice so other men don't think I'm a woman.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cheryl T View Post
    I try, but I don't think I succeed. Actually getting to the point where I really don't care anymore.
    I try as well, my late wife would say my voice passed, but I have my doubts. Unlike Cheryl I do care and would love to sound more female/feminine when out dressed.
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    I've been told that my voice changes when I'm fully in Sara mode. I'll take their word for it, but I wasn't trying to "fake it' or anything, so...??

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    I try to talk in a softer tone when I'm en femme, but I doubt it passes because I also have a deep voice. Of course, when I'm around others that know me and accept me I don't bother trying a different voice.

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