There have been several posts in the last week or so which touch on the ?Going out? question. Now for me this has more significance as I?m sure many of you will know every year I offer the chance for those wishing to either go out for the first time or who wish to meet others from the community face to face in a safe environment the opportunity to do so in Manchester?s Gay Village.
I read posts from newbies saying they?re working towards going out, those asking about safe places yet it often doesn?t translate into an actual deed. So I guess my question is, what is the Goldilocks situation, the one where all the boxes are ticked, everything lines up, all is good to go that those who say they want the chance to go out need for it to happen? The time the porridge is just right.
Look I know they are so many factors, DADT relationships, time and distance (wrong side of the pond!), the cost, work. All these are factors but if you are going to step out how will you know the right time?
I ask because I?d like to help others experience some of the things that I?ve experienced and have brought great happiness and satisfaction into my life. Others helped me, I feel I have a duty to help others.
Thankfully I don?t think I?ve had a year when at least one didn?t take up my offer so I wasn?t left sitting like a jilted bride but anything I can do to make my offer more tempting (No, I?m not offering cash prises!) I?d love to know what that is. What's keeping you behind the door?
And just in case you?ve no idea about what I?m referencing to, see the ?Debs and Helen Cordially..? post in the Places to Go section