I came out t my wife in our 40th year of marriage. Of course, I was not an active CDer until that year, so in truth I came out to her right away, or as soon as I realized myself. After our long time together, it was a shock for her to be sure, but after what she called a period of adjustment ( I interpreted it as tension ) things settled and pretty much returned to normal. I'm very glad I did not sell her short and hide, and I count being open about my CDing from the beginning as an important step. In the end, we have had much harder things to work though than this.
