I decided to come out to a cousin; in order to explain why I crossdress, instead of just telling her that I've always had to 'stuff it' deny the feelings, and just 'be a man' as society wants me to, and deal with the stress of behaving as a man and always dressing as a man, I had to come up with something that she could understand. I came up with this:
'Imagine that every day, you have to dress up in a dog costume, and behave as a dog. You can only bark, or vocalize as a dog. No human speech. You can't just 'write in the sand' words to express yourself. No 'one bark for yes, two barks for no. And you have to do that every day, never ending. Because that's what I'm doing, having to pretend to be a 'standard issue male.
How stressful would that be? Would you want to do anything to cope with that stress?'
That's what I have to deal with. Every day, I have to dress up in a 'man uniform', and play the part of a standard issue male. I have to pretend that I don't feel the emotions that I feel, and just ignore the need to dress as the person, the gender, that I truly am.
She said she had to think about it. I'm awaiting her comments. I'm not sure what to expect.
How have you explained it, in a way that you thought someone else could understand what it's like?