Often if we're going to a special event where my wife is wearing a dress,heels and she is standing in front of the mirror in pantyhose, bra etc and applying makeup or putting lipstick on or any of the little things women do before going out and she'll look at me with a twinkle in her eye and say "bet you wish you were doing this" or she'll back up to me in a LBD and say "zip me up" and then add "bet you wish you were wearing this" and smile.She isn't being mean it's just a little joke between us.It took years to get to this point but it is a comfort level we've arrived at.