Perhaps there is a fine line between privacy and secrecy. In an intimate relationship, a marriage, secrecy can hurt. I have told my wife my secrets (which includes my sexual fantasies). These were often difficult, but honest, conversations. No one else needs to know. To me, that is privacy. No one else in my life would want to know that I wear panties, love feminine things, and that I am in a Wife Led Marriage. The most important person in my life knows more about me than anybody. I do not keep secrets from her even though I do not get a lot of what I want. In our home, she comes first. That is how I want it to be, Nancy