Following the other thread ahead of Lily?s first night out here?s the report back!
Got to the hotel early evening then went to check out the venue. As I mentioned it?s a LGBT bar/club with a trans night. It was still very early and only a couple of people in so had a drink then went back to the hotel to get ready.
Spent the longest I ever have on makeup, wig, nails etc. Went to take some photos on my phone and Face ID didn?t recognise me - must be a good sign!
Leaving the hotel was a worry because involved walking right by reception and the same staff who checked me in were still on shift, but passed without incident of course. Overthinking again!
Venue was only a 3 minute walk away but wore ballet flats then changed into heels when I arrived (loved that feeling!)
I?d gone for a short skirt, tight top and 4? pumps. Too much? We?ll find out.
The bar was still very quiet when I arrived and no other trans/cd there so felt really conspicuous, but after a while sitting there with a drink realised how strange and liberating it was to be fully dressed with no one batting an eyelid.
Things started to pick up after an hour or so with some absolutely stunning trans girls coming in - wearing outfits that made mine look conservative! Here?s where things got a bit tricky though?despite saying hello and smiling at people I didn?t really get anything back. Maybe it was because I was new. Maybe I wasn?t far enough along the trans path. Maybe it just wasn?t a friendly crowd?
Anyway after a couple of hours in there my thoughts were turning to leaving. I?d been out and crossed a threshold. I?d sat in a bar fully dressed and had a few drinks. But despite the crowd picking up there didn?t seem to be much more there for me.
Suddenly a GG rocks up and introduces herself, saying she noticed I was alone and so was she. I told her it was my first night out and next thing she?s getting in the drinks (making sure I watch her so I know it?s safe) and before long we?re chatting, dancing and having a great time. That hit things off with others too.
It ended up being a brilliant night and I left about 1:00 am while still having fun. Best bits were girl chat with others about clothes, shoes, dresses; the kindest GG who really made the night, having a dance in skirt and heels, and people referring to me as her/she!
Lessons were that going out alone can be quite lonely at first; some trans clubs have a v sexy dress code/vibe; walking outside in heels is tough even if your used to it inside; and worries about being photographed, clocked by hotel staff etc are massively overblown.
