Anyone find counseling helpful???

[dalearden]

Thank you everyone for the response! I did not expect so many when I logged back on! Dutchess yes you are correct, if there was a cure I think after 40+ years I would have found it lol! Its just that my feelings and urges wax and wane, at least have always so far waned after peaking...its just seems this time is different and I am not prepared for this to affect anyone else, esp. close family. I think I just have to get over the hump of being able to speak the things I can write...it seems impossible at this point even to a professional in confidence.

[Sabine Janus]

Counseling isn't about "Curing" its about coping or even accepting. Find a way to fit it into the framework of your life in a healthy way.

1st question is WHY all of a sudden is it so large in your life? Is it relieving other pressures, did something change? What happened that NOW its an issue as opposed to 5 years ago.

SJ

[Jane G]

There are two kinds of Counselers.

The ones that tell you what you want to hear,

And the ones that tells your Wife what she wants to Hear,

What if, as is often the case, you both want to hear the same thing?

[BLUE ORCHID]

That wasn't the case for Me, Jane G,

[Jade P]

I liked being able to talk to someone about my issues. Not getting judged and hearing some ways to try to help our marriage. Some worked and some didnt, but I think my wife and I were both glad I went to talk to a therapist. I stopped going but feel like I should start again. Mental health is important for everyone, especially when there are important issues like relationships and our gender.