Recently a lovely dear friend of my wife's has had some heart to heart conversations with my wife especially, and occasionally myself. It seemed to her that my wife and I had the perfect relationship. We do have an amazing wonderful relationship but as our friend knew nothing of my crossdressing it was a false impression she had. My wife is so understanding of my dressing and supportive. But as we all know 100% acceptance of crossdressing in a marriage is quite rare, the subject often causing problems. It did not sit well with me that our friend pictured our relationship as she did. I started to feel a fraud, like I was living a lie. The subject came up between my wife and I. Should I tell her who I really am. What if it spoilt the lovely friendship the girls had, I would be devastated. Should I ? Shouldn't I ? I had been torn for weeks.
The three of us were sat down last week talking. I made the decision to bring up the subject of complicated relationships stating that was the case in our marriage. Our friend replied we had a happy marriage. Yes we do, but not as normal as you think. This brought some strange and puzzled looks to her face. I looked at my wife who held my hand. I said I'm going to tell her and the wife said ok. I told our friend I was going to tell her something that I hope would not spoil things. I was so nervous.....but said I am a crossdresser. It took a few seconds for her to process what I said then she said. WOW......of course it changes nothing. Thank you for trusting me enough to tell me it makes me feel proud and honoured. It felt like a great weight had been lifted of my shoulders. Once again my dear wife had supported me. Lots of hugs for the three of us. Very emotional. Our friend asked if she could ask questions which were answer both by my wife and I. It became lighthearted after a few minutes. What a huge relief it was out. She wants to meet Stephanie, look at my wardrobe to see my style and what I like lol. Wants to go girly shopping with us. What a blessing to have friends like this, and it has brought us closer. There are still some lovely people out there.
I had admired her toenail polish a few days earlier, bless her the following day she gave me a new one she had. I remembered you liked mine. She has since told me the conversation that day has actually helped her to accept some things in her life getting them into perspective.
This was a huge step for me to take, Stephanie now has the support of three amazing people. My wife, my stepdaughter ( who is more like my daughter) and now this friend. I know how lucky I am. My heart goes out to the girls who are not so lucky. But we do stick together and support eachother here.
Finally I hope I have not rattled on too long or been boring. But it was a milestone on my journey.
Thanks for taking the time to read this.
