hello Jodie,
I have decided to call myself a "stay at home crossdresser". I crossdress in private not in secret. I under-dress in public.
To me that is different from being "in the closet" or dressing up being a "secret" - that makes it sound as if I am ashamed to be a crossdresser.
I know it is only words, and to others there might not be a difference, but it means something to me.
luv J