Steffi, I know that you have had the talk. I would encourage you to continue to advocate for yourself and for your marriage. Relationships change,mothers nature of DADT relationships change. I agree that she gave you an opening. At least follow up on it and ask directly whether the two of you can again talk about your crossdressing and how you both feel about it. Seems like at this point there is far more to be gained than to be lost by asking. Nancy