What is "The Talk" if your SO already knows?

[DianeT]

Or you may read the title of the thread again, yada, yada. Reveal has already happened, just not on the CDers initiative.

[il.dso]

Very interesting and relevant topic.
I had "the talk" before we were married and we then engaged in cd discussions for a few years.
Then work, kids, stress intervened and we went DADT for decades.
We're both retired now so, fortunately, we have reached a modest balance in which I dress while she's working in her office.
Pleased and grateful for this real progress.
I want more, as I enjoy talking about my clothes and outfits, but am very anxious to bring up any other cd topics.
I don't think my wife wants to talk more about it and usually shuts me down pretty abruptly when I bring up the topic.
She has left it up to me to be myself, to the extent I am comfortable.
Yes, complicated...

[Suzie Petersen]

I agree with Aunt Kelly. That is my definition too.

[Veronica Lacey]

A great question, char.

Personally, I agree that "The Talk" tends to be the original reveal to one's spouse about their dressing. I suppose that such a "talk" may occur several times as the topic is shared with children, parents, friends, co-workers, others?

I would believe it to be rather rare that everything can be covered and resolved after the initial "talk" so there seemingly - invariably? - tends to be more talk. Maybe after that it could be referred to as another piece of "the conversation" for clarification, for request of new boundaries from either partner, other variables discussed. Perhaps that "conversation" continues for years until both parties have found their personal levels of acceptance on the topic as well as accepted their partner's level of acceptance.

Interesting to note is it feels as if the conversation could take much of a lifetime for some. For my wife and I things have been rather settled for quite many a year yet, as we see retirement on the not-so-distant horizon, there may be a re-opening of the conversation to reset boundaries and preferences. That part is likely an entirely different post.