I take an 18 in blouses and dresses,16 in skirts. Many here are smaller. There are many women who take bigger sizes than me so while a little taller than the average female when dressed, wig on, from any angle other than straight on I can merge into the crowd.
And yes as Sandi says, the fact that I've taken the time to present in as femme a way as I can carries so much weight when directly interacting with folks. An important part of that is mannerisms, my voice fools no-one but I try to talk in a more feminine style and engage in gentle conversation if say paying for something at the checkout.
People are generally accepting and it's easy for us to focus on the bile promoted by parts of the media and let it overshadow the fact that if as Sandi says, we look like we've made the effort to be the persona we present as, people will treat us as that person.
